Living with a Gluten-Free Husband
- By Nancy Kotlowski
- Published 06/23/2009
I am a 45 yr old working mom of 3 kids and a husband of 23 years who was just diagnosed with celiac disease. We both work full time, have 5 pets and a large house to keep up with. Finding the time to shop and cook for my family is time consuming and since the diagnosis it is even harder. I thought it would be cool to hear the other side of eating gluten-free and help out anyone in my position. Hope you enjoy the blog.
First thing this morning I read a post on the gluten-free forum regarding a husband who has celiac disease, while his wife does not. It was like reading about myself. Sometimes we may feel that the person in our lives who has celiac disease is not interested in taking a hand in the treatment. Like the wife in the post, I too find it to be very frustrating at times. But then I stopped and asked myself a tough question. Why am I doing this? "This" being doing all the research, food shopping and preparation AND being the "holder" of the information. Is it because on some level I am the "woman" and it is my job? Yikes, this kind of person is not really me. It is actually more like "if I do not do it, who will?" Like Bruce Willis says in "Live hard, Die Free" it is because I am "that guy." But more than that, if I am honest with myself, it is the praise that is given by other people who tell my husband, "you are lucky to have someone who will do all that for you." Ah now that strikes a nerve. I complain about him not doing enough and then I go ahead and do it. So to all of us out there who have a husband, we need to stop enabling these men to not take a part in their treatment. Having said that, when I find out how to do that I will be blogging about it here.
Until then, happy enabling!
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