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[Fiddle-Faddle]

All I can add is that I hope that your counselor is as perceptive as Tiffany!

Note to Tiffany--have you ever thought of being a counselor????? You're AMAZING! Perhaps we could have a "Dear Tiffany" section???

[BeckyMN]

Yes, Tiffany, you are very perceptive, and your advice has been a tremendous help to me. I truly appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts. I found a 6 week marriage builder class at a church starting in January, and believe it or not, my hubby agreed to go. I think he knows there are some issues here. I hope that we are able to open our lines of communication and figure out a way to work together as a couple and a team again. You people are all so great, and I'm happy to have this community. Thank you all.

[Glamour]

Heaven help the son of a gun, that even thinks about getting between me and a bath. It is the ONLY thing that soothes me enough to stop itching and sleep.

I would tell him, not one word about anything you do for personal care.

You don't need his permission.


He has got some selfish, childish issues of his own. I think he needs the help, if he cannot understand illness.


Glad you are going to get some help. Glad I am single. I put up with this kind of stuff for about 30 years with different boyfriends. Life is too short and difficult.


It is hard enough when friends, parents, and siblings don't understand. I would think someone who lives with you could SEE what you go through.

[tarnalberry]

Awww, thanks guys. You know, when I was a little kid - like six - I wanted to be a psychologist. Everyone thought I was weird. (Well, I had seen one when my mom died when I was five, and I really liked her! She let me draw a lot. ) I ended up on a different path, but am coming sort of back to it as a yoga teacher. Not really therapy, but more of a "become connected with yourself" type of thing. I'd like to do yoga therapy at some point (which overlaps yoga asana, yoga philosophy, and some 'therapy'), but my teacher is doing training starting next year... and I don't think finding 10 days away at a time from a four month old (at the start of the two year training) is going to work. Perhaps in a few years, though!

Becky, thanks GREAT that you found something that you guys are both comfortable with and he's agreed to go. Six weeks probably isn't long enough to fix it, but a start is a start, and you can't get anywhere without a start! Awesome! Let us know how it goes!