Well, my test results came back and looks like I am negative. This isn't a surprise since the correlation between my digestive upsets and eating wheat were weak (it seemed to have more to do with eating out than eating wheat in particular; my morning bagels weren't giving me a problem). So, I'm happy I got tested, happy that we as spouses don't have to share everything, and glad that it doesn't seem to be an issue for me. It wasn't something I had a strong belief that I had, since I've had no real symptoms other than some observed upsets after eating out, but better safe than sorry. Besides, I had an appointment with my allergist and got 72 needle sticks for that, so what was one more?
However, we're still going to remain strictly gluten free at home (other than breakfast cereal and my occasional morning bagels, which I don't even toast so the toaster oven is still safe for my husband -- I prefer my bagels raw

) because it's easier and gives both of us a healthy space to eat. And I've really enjoyed my husband's forays into Southeast Asian cooking.
...Rothane