All the advice above is good but I would caution 1 item....you should eat more but from my experience it would be easier on your system and better for you mentally if you increased the caloric intake over a couple of weeks.
from my experience, both personally and having worked for one of the national diet companies many moons ago, coming off a Very Low Calorie Diet abruptly will wreak havoc on your system. Your body is already incredibly efficient at storing calories, this is why you aren't losing weight despite your activity and caloric levels. By building up gradually with specific types of foods you can make the process a lot more enjoyable and less frustrating!!
in general:
try adding an extra serving of low glycemic fruit (berries are good) with an extra serving of protein (hard boiled egg or cottage cheese (if you can eat it)) and do this for about 4 or 5 days then add in other items such as a fat (avocado or coconut milk are good choices)
Ultimately try for 4-6 small meals per day with about 40% protein, 30% carbs and 30% fat (nope not a "Zone" person this breakdown is quite common in most of the weight loss plans out there....(as an aside I don't subscribe to the "official food pyramid" diets since I found out that the food pyramid is allegedly passed by the food lobbyists before it is published for the general public jmho!) for the carbs, you seem to be on the right track in general I'd just up the fruit intake.
this is what I would suggest to tweak your example of a "typical day" (this is just my own opinion, feel free to disregard!) but build up over a couple of weeks...
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Well today for example.
I had home made ginger carrot soup (made up of all veggies and chicken stock) for brunch and a cup of coffee
- this lacks protein, adding a 1/2 c of red lentils to the dish will boost this for protein as well as fiber (plus they cook quickly without soaking) If you are trying to lose weight increasing your protein will make you more satisfied and your body will use it to build and repair the muscle that you are breaking down with your weight program
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I had some macadamia nuts and some black tea (no sugar or milk) for a snack.
add half an apple, if you slice it thin it seems like more (silly, I know

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Second snack of a kids yoghurt (danino with dha and omega 3 fatty acids)
while yogurt contains some protein, your system treats it more like a carb, add a bit of cottage cheese or protein powder to round it out
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and for supper I had a home made stew thing in my pressure cooker with beef, carrots, corn onion ginger broccoli, califlower. Had a bowl of this with a homemade corn meal muffin.
this looks good, no comments for this meal
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That's it for today so far. Will have a glass of milk and a small snack of something later......
I just did a 30 min workout on the treadmill with weights. I should youtube myself... my kids think it funny. I sing Abba with my ipod and lift wights and run. I'm quite the show.
try having the milk and say a piece of fruit after your workout, it will do more good that way, this is also the one time where you don't necessarily need to balance the protein and carb as the timing of this snack will allow you body to use the carb right away instead of storing it for future use.
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I have no doubt I'm in starvation mode but how to get out of the rut? Its crazy.
gradually! it's a pain I know, believe me I know! but gradually will be more beneficial in the long run.