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Sorry I am new at the whole online chatting thing.

so I found out after 22 years of life that I was born with celiac,

and a sever grain intolerance, I am getting better but I have only

ever dated one person in my life and it lasted a month.

I can not be around air poppers and am un able to eat meat,

I also have problems with my mood after eating.

 Is there any one out there that can give me something

any thing besides ''enjoy your cat''  or ''learn  to liv with it''

 Thank you... :)

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Hi! welcome! I'm assuming you are eating gluten free? How long have you been diagnosed? What is an air popper? Have you thought about gluten-free cat food for you cat?

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Hi! welcome! I'm assuming you are eating gluten free? How long have you been diagnosed? What is an air popper? Have you thought about gluten-free cat food for you cat?

 

^ This. And what is an air popper?

 

 

Sorry I am new at the whole online chatting thing.

so I found out after 22 years of life that I was born with celiac,

and a sever grain intolerance, I am getting better but I have only

ever dated one person in my life and it lasted a month.

I can not be around air poppers and am un able to eat meat,

I also have problems with my mood after eating.

 Is there any one out there that can give me something

any thing besides ''enjoy your cat''  or ''learn  to liv with it''

 Thank you... :)

 

Celicat. Living with people who don't understand your disease or are unsympathetic is difficult. It's hard enough just wrapping your own mind about all the changes and challenges you have to face. I think by learning more about Celiac in general it will help you better understand and communicate your needs with others. Surround yourself with people who care about you and want to see you get well. Anyone else...well...they need to get over it, or you need to get over them.

 

Hmm. If you are eating Gluten Free the mood issues and others should start to resolve themselves (decrease) over time. So it depends how long you have been eating G.F. and if you're sure you've eliminated sources for trace gluten/cross-contamination.

You may also want to try a enzyme helping supplement. I've used Enzymedica - Digest Spectrum with really good results.

 

I also have a LOT of mood issues after eating. Certain foods cause certain moods, so I swing pretty bad sometimes. I totally understand how frustrating it is. It does get better though.

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When I went gluten free a friend stopped inviting me over for dinner parties.

Me not eating bread was too weird for her.

Yet I could have eaten the potatoes.

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I'm  guessing  you are new to the gluten-free lifestyle....and  a BIG YES  it is  a  ROyal Pain  in the beginning  trying to figure  out  the  okays  &  the no No's....You  will  experience  anger, loss,  sadness,  loniness,  denial  , why me  but  then   you will begin  to  feel  better,  feel  better , find  a  peace  within  &  acceptance...  All of  this  sometimes  comes  with a price..  Friends,  family, co-workers   who  have  no  dietary  issues  ..  Hell,  its  probably hard for you to wrap  your head  around  food   making  you so sick... so  we  learn to understand  how  difficult it is  for  others  who have  no knowledge    to  undersatnd.....be  patient  with them...  they may be  afraid  of  making  you  sicker.......

You  sound  a little  food  deprived  , missing  your  wheat  lifestyle..  My  suggestion  is  to  give  your  intestinal  tract  time to heal, take  a  deep breathe ,  don't  care  about  what others think  just  get  yourself  better & focus  on  you & you alone...others  will see you in a different light  when you feel better...

You may  even  find  out  your  have  allergies  to foods  that do not  contain gluten.. Once  you  learn to listen to your body   , you will  find  so much info  that  you never  even  considered  before  the gluten-free....its  all  a  learning process  & takes  time....

Take  baby steps  at first  so you can learn   the  beginning  phase  before  jumping in  to  the next  thing...focus  on  what  you can eat & forget  the rest..

Start out  with  plain meats,  fish,  veggies, fruits, season  the  food  items  yourself  with  spices  you know  are gluten-free. McCormick labels.....

Buy  a  gluten-free  cake  mix, gluten-free cookies  or  what ever it is  that  will help you feel  good.. I  call these  feel good  foods....

Study &  read  all you  can  get  your  hands  on, here is also  a  great place for help..  If you  are  craving  for  something  just  ask, we  can tell you where  to  find  it...

I  don't  know where  you live  but  find a  good support  group  & latch onto  a  seasoned  , no  cheat  celiac.....if  you need  help  again just ask....

True  friends   will  understand as  you  move  along....

You  were  poisoning  your  body  for   years  so  now  you know  why  you feel ill....not  anyone's  fault  ,  no one  is  perfect ....your  journey  to  being  healthy  has  begin,  embrace  it  ......it  appears  hopeless  now  but  believe  when  I say  we all have been  there....

 

blessings

 

mamaw

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I am glad you have your celiac defined.  I know that you are not just now having a great time with it.  There is a lot to learn, but each thing you learn takes you in the direction of better help.  You found the path:::Keep walking.

 

Dating is usually a series of high ups and really low downs.  I skimped by it for the most part.  The first dating relationship I did have ended very sadly which most do.  There is more to the plans for your life.  Hang on in the mean while. I should mention that my second relationship with a man, ended in a good marriage 26 years ago.  It isn't important to date a lot in my opinion. I know it can be lonely in the meanwhile.  Also, health problems make it very hard to maintain friendships of any kind.

 

I am grain free too.  I have been using nut flours.  I can make powerful good muffins.

 

I think the air popper is a popcorn popper.  I stay as far away from them as I can also.  Never mind how much popcorn that I use to down.

 

Diana

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I've felt the same way at times. It's hard and it makes dating tricky. Anyways, I don't really have any answers, but I think it gets better over time. Just remember to stay strong and that nothing is worse than undiagnosed celiac.

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I'll bet with dating you have better luck saying you have some food allergies, so it would be helpful to find out the name of the restaurant beforehand.  Then  you can check out the menus.  I think strangers get less freaked out if they think you have allergies than that you have a 'disease'.  And, in fact, that is what this thing is.

 

Good luck.  I've only been diagnosed 2 months ago, and after feeling gutted (!hah) by the diagnosis and gone into mourning, I've already figured out that it's not so bad.  And better than feeling lousy.

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I have a son who is also 22 years old.  He just discovered that he is gluten intolerant and is feeling extremely tired since going gluten-free.  I want to encourage you not to worry too much about not dating.  I agree with the person who said to surround yourself with caring people.  My suggestion would be to join a college age group at a really good church in your area.  Participating in group activities is a great way to make friends and much less awkward than one-on-one dating.  You're more likely to have a successful dating relationship with someone if you have been able to get to know him or her in a group as a friend first.  If the first group you try doesn't feel right, don't give up.  Try another one. 

 

My son sings and plays guitar at our church youth group.  A lot of girls would like to date him but he's never dated.  He prefers to socialize in groups and plans to court and marry just one girl.  I hope you don't feel like a failure for having dated only once at your young age.  Experiencing many dating relationships and break-ups can lead to a lot of hurt and baggage.  Who needs kind of stress when you're trying to heal?  I don't know if you're a guy or a girl but I think that a potential spouse would be much more accepting of someone who has food allergies than of someone who has an STD from dating and sleeping with multiple partners.  You might want to check out "I kissed Dating Good-bye" by Joshua Harris.

 

I wish you the best for your future.  Keep looking up.

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Who does fit in?  What I'm learning is that everyone is weird and has quirks in their own way but some hide them better than others.  I must be the ONLY person in the world thats normal.  (note the sarcasm)

 

If you are in the dating phase of your life I would play the "I'm on a gluten free diet and I don't eat meat" card.  It sounds like you really care about animals and that you have immense discipline in that when the bread comes around or the pie, you can say no thanks...  Sounds a lot better than "I have celiac disease".  Because then they will look at you as if you have the plague and ask what it is...  Then you get to talk gluten, what it is, and then they will want to know how it affects you....  Not real light first date banter...  

 

As for food...  This website is a great source for recipe ideas.  Perhaps you can look up a Celiac support group in your area.  We have one and I plan to go to my first meeting here soon.  Its a good place to go where you can learn more about the restaraunts in your area that you can trust as well as stores that have great gluten free items and ingredient selections.

 

At first when I was diagnosed it was my life.  My poor friends had to here me say something about it forever because it was all that was on my mind.  There is so much more to life and it took me awhile to get back to it.  I did though.  So will you.

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I'm  guessing  you are new to the gluten-free lifestyle....and  a BIG YES  it is  a  ROyal Pain  in the beginning  trying to figure  out  the  okays  &  the no No's....You  will  experience  anger, loss,  sadness,  loniness,  denial  , why me  but  then   you will begin  to  feel  better,  feel  better , find  a  peace  within  &  acceptance...  All of  this  sometimes  comes  with a price..  Friends,  family, co-workers   who  have  no  dietary  issues  ..  Hell,  its  probably hard for you to wrap  your head  around  food   making  you so sick... so  we  learn to understand  how  difficult it is  for  others  who have  no knowledge    to  undersatnd.....be  patient  with them...  they may be  afraid  of  making  you  sicker.......

You  sound  a little  food  deprived  , missing  your  wheat  lifestyle..  My  suggestion  is  to  give  your  intestinal  tract  time to heal, take  a  deep breathe ,  don't  care  about  what others think  just  get  yourself  better & focus  on  you & you alone...others  will see you in a different light  when you feel better...

You may  even  find  out  your  have  allergies  to foods  that do not  contain gluten.. Once  you  learn to listen to your body   , you will  find  so much info  that  you never  even  considered  before  the gluten-free....its  all  a  learning process  & takes  time....

Take  baby steps  at first  so you can learn   the  beginning  phase  before  jumping in  to  the next  thing...focus  on  what  you can eat & forget  the rest..

Start out  with  plain meats,  fish,  veggies, fruits, season  the  food  items  yourself  with  spices  you know  are gluten-free. McCormick labels.....

Buy  a  gluten-free  cake  mix, gluten-free cookies  or  what ever it is  that  will help you feel  good.. I  call these  feel good  foods....

Study &  read  all you  can  get  your  hands  on, here is also  a  great place for help..  If you  are  craving  for  something  just  ask, we  can tell you where  to  find  it...

I  don't  know where  you live  but  find a  good support  group  & latch onto  a  seasoned  , no  cheat  celiac.....if  you need  help  again just ask....

True  friends   will  understand as  you  move  along....

You  were  poisoning  your  body  for   years  so  now  you know  why  you feel ill....not  anyone's  fault  ,  no one  is  perfect ....your  journey  to  being  healthy  has  begin,  embrace  it  ......it  appears  hopeless  now  but  believe  when  I say  we all have been  there....

 

blessings

 

mamaw

  THANK YOU,! :)

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Sorry I am new at the whole online chatting thing.

so I found out after 22 years of life that I was born with celiac,

and a sever grain intolerance, I am getting better but I have only

ever dated one person in my life and it lasted a month.

I can not be around air poppers and am un able to eat meat,

I also have problems with my mood after eating.

 Is there any one out there that can give me something

any thing besides ''enjoy your cat''  or ''learn  to liv with it''

 Thank you... :)

Wow!  Everyone has terrific advice and tips!  I'd first focus on you and feeling better.  Next, join groups.  I became a big sister when I was your age and worked with the adult literacy program.  My big dating advice?  I suggest picnics.  I kid you not!  I prepared the food, had a cute basket with linens and all.  My dates and I would go to a nice public park, talk and eat my yummy food that I controlled.  I can not tell you how many times guys kept asking me back out and begged for a picnic (humm....one is still asking and he's my hubby of 24 years!).  

 

My girlfriends,  instead of meeting at restaurants and at our houses to eat, we've taken to walking at our parks.  It's a fun to talk and walk.  

 

At parties and family gatherings, I always bring a gluten-free dish or two or I pack my own meal and bring it with me.  No host has ever been offended.  

 

Here's a great grain free cookie (provided you're not allergic to other ingredients):

 

1 egg

1 cup peanut butter or other nut "butter"

1 cup sugar

 

Roll into 1" balls, roll into sugar for decoraton, bake at 350 degrees for 10 - 11 minutes.  Yummy and they go quick at parties!  

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Hi CeliCat! yes this lifestyle is a huge adjustment but it gets better as you go along. I have been doing this gluten free thing for over 1 1/2 years so I pretty much achieved expert status by now :) There are a lot of things you can try for your mood. Dairy comes from a pregnant animal so it has a whole bunch of pregnancy-related hormones, especially GMO dairy. Caffeine and alcohol may also affect your moods. Try giving up these foods at least for a couple weeks or so. If you have  a question about celiac or gluten free, feel free to send me a message :)

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My girlfriend has been very supportive.

 

She has bought glut free cook books and she is even going to change her lifestyle and eating habits so we will both live healthier. She chooses to do this and doesn't have celiac disease so for that I am very thankful.

 

:rolleyes:

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