I'm finding that I'm having a very difficult time being firm about what is okay for me to eat. I've been gluten free for a little over a month now. I've been feeling a lot better in the recent weeks.. so it's all starting to pay off.
One issue that I'm running into a lot is how to deal with people who don't understand without sounding pretentious or obnoxious or anything of the sort. The other day in class (17 and home schooled.. because I was always sick.. which turned out to be celiac this whole time).. one of the student's mothers brought up a platter of treats. I had brought my own cookies so I could have them afterwards. She had placed them on the plate with everything else.. I had to refuse them because they were touching the other food items that contained wheat. This woman didn't get it and was sort of pissed off at me after that.
Another issue that falls into the same category.... how am I supposed to explain this to this guy I just started seeing without sounding like a total paranoid freak? He's really sweet and understanding and I don't expect him to get all of this right off the bat... but.. he accidentally glutened me yesterday.. though it was equally.. if not more.. my fault. He made me tea from a locally made package... and I'm sure that this person doesn't take care avoid cross contamination. I wanted to drink it anyway because I'm a people pleaser and I don't want to disappoint anyone. I only had a few sips because I'm not a tea person... but an hour later I had really bad stomach cramps.. it didn't occur to me that the tea was most likely the culprit. I DID read the back of it and there was no barely or gluten containing ingredients in the mix but I'm sure it's made on the same surface as everything else. Later that day we went out to get food.. we ate at whole foods because that's the only place I feel comfortable getting food.. at this point I honestly just don't trust the restaurants.. I know they try their best but.. I don't like risking it. He got a salad with croutons on it... and he had this drink that was good and gluten free.. he let me have a sip but it didn't even register to me that he had just eaten a crouton and drank out of the same bottle before me. I just wasn't thinking.
Today I'm feeling EXTREMELY tired and foggy.. I'm about to lie down for my second nap today... I can't focus or do any school work.. I'm just hoping to regain some energy so I can function for the remainder of the day. I obviously wouldn't tell him about this! I don't want him to feel bad.. and it WAS mostly my fault.
I really like him though and if I'm THIS sensitive to gluten.. what happens when it comes to things like kissing and such? I don't want to have to ask someone to wash their mouth out beforehand.. every single time ): I don't want to be a pain, I like to be easy going and I like to make people happy.. that's why I drank the tea even though I knew that it was probably going to make me sick.
I don't want this to run my life. It's starting to piss other people off.. even though I handle everything very well and I explain things minimally and politely.
How am I supposed to help other people understand? Is there a set wording that I could use each and every time? And what am I supposed to do when it comes to relationships? How do the rest of you handle these issues?