Pregnant And Spotting

[Guhlia]

Okay, I know I need to call my doctor tomorrow. I think I basically just need to vent because my husband blew me off pretty badly. I'm about 6 months pregnant now, roughly. Tonight I realized that there was a very small amount of orange in my panties. I'm assuming it's blood??? Should I be worried? Am I overreacting? My husband totally brushed me off and told me that he was sure it was nothing serious or there would have been more blood. I'm so angry right now. I think I'm even more angry than I am scared. I know it's probably not a big deal, but it would have been nice if he would have acted like he cared. Anyway, if anyone knows anything, please post. And please, no scary stories, I'm fully planning on calling the doctor tomorrow morning.

[AndreaB]

I'm sorry Angie.

Spotting is scary. I actually started bleeding with my first one but it was near the end of the pregnancy. The doctor just ordered me to couch potato status. My second one I was spotting early (like 5-8 weeks) but everything turned out fine and the spotting did stop.

I wouldn't worry too much unless it continues through tomorrow.

By all means call your doctor as planned though. You can never be to sure unless you call.

[wowzer]

I know spotting can be for many reasons. Sometimes a piece of uterine tissue will just shed and it's no big deal. My daughter had it happen in her first pregnancy. For her it was because she has a bicornate uterus. She is pregnant with her third now and everything was fine. By all means call your doctor just for your own piece of mind. Keep us posted.

[Guhlia]

I ended up calling my doctor tonight just because something didn't seem right. She had me go in to the hospital to get checked. Apparently I was having regular contractions, 2.5 minutes apart. Soooo.... They kept me for a few hours and forced fluids until the contractions stopped. I didn't even know I was having contractions. They wanted to give me some medicine to stop the contractions, don't remember what, since they were so regular, but luckily they stopped just in time before she ordered it. Phew... Anyway, I'm home now and heading off to bed. Just wanted to let everyone know that I'm okay and baby's okay.

[confused]

Glad you are ok, did he put you on bedrest for the rest of the pregnancy. I had spotting with my second son, and it was due to my unblical cord ripped, so i was on bedrest for about 6 weeks. That was so hard with 2 other kids in the house.

Take it easy.

paula

[jerseyangel]

Angie,

I'm so glad you went to the hospital! Stay off your feet as much as possible and please take care

I've said a prayer for you and the baby.

[wowzer]

I'm glad to hear that all is okay. Take care of yourself and your baby. Take it easy.

[little d]

Angie

I'm glad that you are ok, I bet your husband feels bad now, for blowing you off. Yah for the mother intuitions (gut feelings).

Donna

[Guhlia]

Angie

I'm glad that you are ok, I bet your husband feels bad now, for blowing you off. Yah for the mother intuitions (gut feelings).

Donna

Nope... He acted like he didn't even care. I'm really struggling to deal with that right now. He was so supportive last time. I know he's having a really rough week and all, but I just assumed he'd be there for me if anything happened. Now I'm not so sure. I called him from the hospital and he didn't even answer the phone. Called me back and didn't say more than 10 words to me the whole time. I finally just got off the phone because he was making me feel so badly. When I got home, he barely even bothered to open his eyes, just told me to turn the lights off. It would have been nice to get a hug or something. I guess I'm just really hurt and frustrated cuz I wasn't expecting to have to do this alone. And now I'm really worried that something is going to happen and I'm going to have to go about it all alone. That sucks.

Thanks for listening. Just need to vent now.

[CarlaB]

Angie, is this characteristic behavior of your husband? Does he always act this way towards you?

If not, I'd approach him and ask him if there's something bothering him ... tell him that you realize he may not want to talk about it and that you won't make him, but you need the encouragement that it's not you that is the problem. He might not even realize how he's coming across to you.

If it's ongoing you may even want to get counseling together so it doesn't get worse as time goes on. His behavior last night is not normal. It's normal to have concern for your spouse and your baby. I can't believe he didn't TAKE you to the hospital.

[Guhlia]

Angie, is this characteristic behavior of your husband? Does he always act this way towards you?

If not, I'd approach him and ask him if there's something bothering him ... tell him that you realize he may not want to talk about it and that you won't make him, but you need the encouragement that it's not you that is the problem. He might not even realize how he's coming across to you.

If it's ongoing you may even want to get counseling together so it doesn't get worse as time goes on. His behavior last night is not normal. It's normal to have concern for your spouse and your baby. I can't believe he didn't TAKE you to the hospital.

No, it's definitely not normal behavior for him. He's generally very supportive. We own our own business and our only employee just quit, no notice, sort of my fault. The guy kept putting my things in our shed or losing them and I asked my husband several times to speak to him. He refused and told me to do it. I did and the guy walked out. I was nice about it and everything. Anyway, I know he's really stressed about everything that's going on. It just doesn't seem right that I had to go through that completely alone. When I told him that they wanted me to come in to the hospital right away he made some snide remark about of course they do, didn't I expect them to say that? Aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! I cried my whole way to the hospital because of that. He did offer to wake our daughter up and go in with me. He acted like it was a big burden though. I told him to stay home and sleep so that he could let me sleep in this morning since I figured I'd probably be home really late. Well, this morning he let me sleep exactly one and a half hours after Tori woke up. Well, he let me alone that is. I could hear him on the phone (for business) just letting Tori cry hysterically. Then he yelled at her for being hard to calm down. Needless to say I couldn't sleep through that. He came in to my room later and said "you know I do have to go to work today". Jerk.

I'm afraid to talk to him right now. He's never treated me like this before. I think I'm going to just let things go for a little and see how he acts in a few days. I'm so angry with him right now I don't think I could talk to him without accusing and attacking. I'm really hurt.

Thanks Carla.

[CarlaB]

Angie, try not to take it personally. Men many times withdraw when something's bothering them and this doesn't sound like he's upset about you at all. I know he's made you upset and angry, and you completely deserve to feel that way, but I don't think his treatment of you is because of you at all.

Maybe just tell him that you can tell something is wrong and you're here for him if he needs you. That might be VERY difficult for you to do since you're angry, but it will show him that you care deeply and are there for him. Give to him what you'd like him to give to you ... give first, set the tone for your whole marriage.

He sounds frustrated and I know it's hard not to take it personally. Because I'm so ill right now, my husband gets frustrated at times and seems uncaring, but the reality is that he's just too stresssed and needs some time to himself to process all the stressors ... if that makes sense.

We women handle it differently ... we need to talk, talk, talk ... men don't, they withdraw.

[AndreaB]

Angie,

Please, please, please take it easy and make sure you drink lots of water.

I hope your husband will pull through the stress withdrawal he's going through soon.

[Guhlia]

Thanks everyone for all the support.

Hubby seems to be in a better mood this afternoon, so hopefully things will return to normal soon. I'm hoping to be able to talk to him about last night before the end of the week. I just really need time to calm down and I want to make sure he's not on edge. He has horrible communication skills and tends to get angry when he's talking about things, so I generally have to be very careful about anything that could come across as an accusation (no matter how I word things). He's very sensitive.

I'm feeling pretty good today now, just really tired. I certainly don't feel any contractions (didn't last night either though) and the baby FINALLY went to sleep so things seem to be going well. No more spotting so far. I'm hoping last night was just a fluke. I really don't need any more scares like that. I just don't handle stress well at all.

Anyway, thanks again for all the support everyone. I really needed to vent. You guys are great.

[Teacher1958]

Hi Angie,

You definitely did the right thing without a doubt! Spotting was how I started out when I went into premature labor in January of 1989. I woke up one morning and felt just fine, but when I went to the bathroom, I had light pink bleeding in my panties. My pelvic area also felt very "full." I was at 32 weeks by then and had been having very strong and frequent Braxton-Hicks contractions since October or November, so my doctor was keeping an eye on me. Anyhow, just to be safe I went to the hospital. They did a check on me, and I was already dilating and starting to efface, so I was sent by the emergency squad to a larger hospital about an hour away. I remained in the hospital until 36 weeks, at which point I had my son. Active celiac disease can cause premature labor and miscarriages. I am so glad that you have been diagnosed and know how to take care of yourself, because I had never even heard of celiac disease/gluten sensitivity when I got pregnant. (By the way, my son is a wonderful young man now and will be headed to college in August. He is our only one, because we didn't want to take a chance on having another preemie who might have serious problems.)

As for your husband, I agree with Carla. His behavior was definitely NOT normal. My husband took me to the hospital, followed the ambulance to the larger hospital, and usually spent the night on the couch there and was in my room when I awakened each morning. His dad took over for him at work so he could be with me.

[Teacher1958]

I'm sorry Angie.

Spotting is scary. I actually started bleeding with my first one but it was near the end of the pregnancy. The doctor just ordered me to couch potato status. My second one I was spotting early (like 5-8 weeks) but everything turned out fine and the spotting did stop.

I wouldn't worry too much unless it continues through tomorrow.

By all means call your doctor as planned though. You can never be to sure unless you call.

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OMG- your baby is so cute!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

[AndreaB]

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OMG- your baby is so cute!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Thank you. This one is my third one and the one that clued us in to a problem with gluten.....among other foods.

[dally099]

hi there, im glad your feeling better, ill tell you something that my hubby once told me about babies and how men are about them, men dont like to think to much when we are prego and they dont like to "feel" to much because if something happens they dont want to have to deal with any extra "feelings". my hubby is the best dad ever we have 4 kids but until they smile at him and show some personality he dosnt put much effort into them, his concern has allways come with providing for us. if you have your own buisness and he is having some issues with staff and stuff then most likely he is just trying to get that delt with so he can provide for his family. guys like to crawl into a cave and "sleep it off" for a bit when this stuff happens. try not to get to fustrated im sure that he is very worried, again they just dont like to "feel" to much at this stage. take it easy and try not to worry to much.

[happygirl]

Angie, Just wanted to offer my support. I am infinitely relieved that your sweet baby is doing ok, and happy that you received medical attention. I hope that everything else gets worked out ... worrying about that is certainly the last thing you need. Best of luck...and please keep us updated.

Hugs,

Laura