Thanksgiving Dinner Again
Posted 03 November 2004 - 01:32 PM
Posted 03 November 2004 - 09:02 PM
Inconclusive Blood Tests, Positive Dietary Results, No Endoscopy
G.F. - September 2003; C.F. - July 2004
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Posted 04 November 2004 - 05:27 AM
Take your own food, it sounds like they at least believe you have problems and cannot eat the food, they are not just blowing you off.
Another note, I have not visited with my mother for several years. Sometimes, you just have to do your OWN thing. For YEARS, before I re-married, I defied my family and just had my own Thanksgiving holiday with me and my kids...we had a lot of fun and created our own traditions!
gluten-free since July 2004
Strawberries and Banannas (2007)
Nitrates (April 2006)
Yeast (which includes all vinegar so no condiments) (Oct. 2004)
Peanuts (Nov. 2004)
Soy (Oct. 2004)
Almonds (Sept. 2004)
Corn (Sept. 2004)
Posted 04 November 2004 - 06:52 AM
The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you." Numbers 6:24-25
Posted 09 November 2004 - 04:40 AM
Posted 11 November 2004 - 02:52 PM
Just adding my story to the mix.......
I'm 13...for those who didn't know and so my family trades off in terms of the holidays between spending time with my mother's parents or my father's parents. My mom's parents are REALLY accomodating--whenever they come into the city to visit us, they're always bringing something gluten-free ....mainstream products or special gluten-free products that they get at Trader Joe's.........really nice and sympathetic about celiac. To make it easier, they always come into the city for Thanksgiving or Christmas and the meal is usually mostly gluten-free, but since it's in my own house, I don't need to worry about contamination and I know what I can and can't eat. In fact, they're so nice that when my family celebrated my grandpa's b-day here, he actually said that he didn't want anything I couldn't eat -- which was when my mom first tried a gluten-free cake and we had ice cream......haagen-dazs I think (gluten-free).
On the other hand.......................
My dad's parents are......shall we say.....not quite as sensitive about it....they once sent an empty candy wrapper in the mail with a note that said something like "I tried this chocolate and it was yummy! Anyway, my parents asked if they could drive in from NJ (the way my mom's parents do from CT) for Thanksgiving. We usually go down to NJ along with the rest of my dad's side of the family and go to some restaurant for thanksgiving dinner......well, they said that they wanted us to come down to NJ so that we'd have to spend the night and they'd have us longer.............and they sent us the menu of the restaurant, even though they knew from a little research that I couldn't eat anything on it. So...when we go down there for Thanksgiving, they said, we would heat something up for me, bring it to the restaurant, then take the plate somewhere and dump my food onto it---dunno if I'm being overly sensitive, but I feel like a social outcast when I have to do that. This summer, we went to NJ for a family reunion and they had had burgers one night, we arrived the next day, and they had pizza for dinner. I would've been able to have a burger, cooked separately if they put anything special in the other burgers, and looked normal....but when everyone was eating pizza, the food I had missed most, and looking at me strangely, I felt really self-conscious of it..........and here we go again this year....just an example of someone taking no for an answer. I think the way I described this makes it sound like they're just lonely people or people who can't drive into the city or something, but there's more to it than that.......
Posted 11 November 2004 - 07:20 PM
MY mom already does allergies, so it's more familiar to her. She knows better than to think she can get it all right, and just lets us do the cooking at her house. We have celiac, and the other family allergies are soy, milk, citrus and nuts -- so we've been joking that we're going to have jello!! (it will be, as always, a pot luck Thanksgiving, but we like all being together no matter what we eat.)She is a constant source of amusement with her complete lack of "gluten sense" -- she asked me over and over, was I sure pasta was not gluten-free... people just don't know any better, and my life is too short to get prickly about it. (Tired of it, sure, but heck, they mean well...) It's also too short to deal with completely and deliberately insensitive people, so we breeze on by them.
Success is never final and failure never fatal. It's courage that counts -George Tilton
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