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Newly Diagnosed And A Wedding This Weekend
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It has only been 10 days since being diagnosed, I think I am handling the new lifestyle pretty well, I am very lucky to have such an understanding husband and daughters. We have already made the kitchen and pantry safe for me, but I am still very paranoid about CC. My niece's wedding is this weekend, I have already decided to take my own food, I dont want to risk the chance of getting sick and missing out on the reception and dance. I have had a few extended family members make light of my situation, I have pleaded with them to read the information on Celiac's so they understand that yes even a small amount of gluten will make me sick. Does anyone else ever feel that people think that this disease is not real, has anyone else ever dealt with this and how do I make them understand the implications to my health if I do not stick to my diet. :unsure:

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Hi Bonnie Blue,

Welcome to the Club and you are so very fortunate to find this site - it will become a great source of information and comfort; a great place to share and vent. The people here are wonderful. I think everyone here has run across or knows someone that doesn't understand the disease totally. Have you heard the expression, "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink"? Same goes in your situation: you can give people literature, doctor's reports, talk till your blue in the face, but you can't always make them understand. When I was diagnosed with Cancer there was no questions about what my needs were going to be, so many rallied around and came to my aid. When the diagnosis was changed a month later to Celiac so many had no clue and thought it would be so much easier than dealing with chemo. And yes, Celiac is better than cancer, but there are so many emotional and mental hurdles as well as physical that is similar to cancer treatment. Most don't get that though. They think it is easy and simple. There is nothing simple about it! People don't know enough about Celiac to understand everything. Hey, I'm still learning everyday. But I think given time and positive news media, more and more people will accept it for what it is. And I find it helps to say, "I have an auto immune disease called Celiac". For some reason it helps denote the seriousness of it. And I always have a factoid ready about how many parts per million causes damage to the intestinal lining of the small bowel.

Good luck and the wedding and have a good time. Oh, and glad you are taking your own food. But take your own cupcake or sweet to have when cake time rolls around! :-)

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I am also newly diagnosed and, yes, I have dealt with my friends and a couple of family members who have made light of the situation. It hurts a bit when it comes from family members. I am in college, which makes eating gluten-free extremely difficult, especially when my friends have seen me eat gluten a million times in the past. They don't understand why suddenly I can't. They think I am a hypochondriac, despite the fact that my headaches, GI upset, hip pain, swelling all have gone away since being gluten-free for a couple of months. Basically, I asked one of my closest friends to read some information on it, and after reading it, she essentially became an advocate for me when my friends are pressuring me. Same things with my boyfriend..when I went to visit my brother, his wife started making comments and my boyfriend said politely that he has seen how sick it makes me and he would prefer if I wasn't pressured into eating things that make me that sick. Also, my mother read Elizabeth Hasselbecks book about going gluten-free and she is also now a big advocate for me. So, I am only a few months out, but basically I always seem to be surrounded by at least one person who says "Ive seen her get sick and she will get sick if she eats that" and then everyone drops it. I am getting better at advocating for myself, but it has taken some time. Hope this helps!

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I had a friend tell me to stop whining yesterday when I was worried about eating in a restaurant. He said that he was saying it "with love". He thinks he understands because he's a vegetarian.

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Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement, this site is wonderful!!! It is like finding a new family who understands you when no one else will. :D

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ya, it's just such a complicated disease to understand- even for those of us who are educated-> because it effects everyone so differently.

im not one of those celiacs who ends up running to the bathroom with "D" when cross contaminated- but i still have to understand it can do that to others AND i still have to be vigilant for myself anyways- because even tho im not getting immediate "D"- i have to remember that its damaging me.

its just difficult for us- especially in america- people dont know about celiac at all really, and they just think its the "new trend".

im trying to get my family to get tested, but they're annoyed with me bringing it up- and i think, deep down they dont wanna know. and then u read SOME recent studies that for some celiacs- remaining undiagnosed may have no effect on their life span at all... but i know for some undiagnosed celiacs it can be disasterous. i have had relatives on both sides die prematurely from heart disease.. an aunt with "Crohns", dementia & ataxia on one side and stomach cancer...

but i digress, lol.... have fun at the wedding :)

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Call the hall and ask if they have a gluten free meal available.

They will tell you if they can provide a gluten free meal and who will be your room host.

You may have to make another call the day of the event and remind them about the gluten free meal.

When you get to the hall, go directly to the room host and let them know you are the gluten free person and where you are sitting. (This also reminds them to get the gluten-free meal together if they forgot)

ALWAYS have a safe meal on hand for you to eat just in case. You may not feel comfortable with the way your server handled the food or they may have not prepared your meal at all. Or worse yet, the food could just be plain and boring and not worth the risk to eat.

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When you bring your own food, bring something you really like. I love dark chocolate Sunbutter Cups. I don't get them often cause I don't need them. I took them so when my kids are eating big choc chip cookies or French fries or something yummy, I had a special treat, too. That way you don't feel as left out. Sometimes people say they wish they had my food.

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I think you are being very wise to bring your own food, and I congratulate you for making the commitment to take care of yourself! I have not been as wise as you, and early on I got sick more than I should have from accidentally eating gluten. It really sucks to get sick when you could have avoided it.

I'm on a really restricted diet now, but I have discovered that it's still really nice to have a bit of wine with friends, even if I can't eat the meal. :)

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I had a friend tell me to stop whining yesterday when I was worried about eating in a restaurant. He said that he was saying it "with love". He thinks he understands because he's a vegetarian.

Ugh, that is awful. Tell him to get diarrhea for a week and a headache and a sinus infection and be unable to get out of bed for at least 3 days in a row and to have an ugly rash on his face, oh yea, and not to absorb vitamins, and see if he whines. I'll bet he does.

Just sayin'...

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Every wedding I have gone to, I have just walked back to the kitchen and found either the chef, the catering manager, or the wedding planner--sometimes they have a headset on. They will make you food on site. Once they brought me a plate of my own appetizers at cocktail hour!

Make sure you find the people in charge, though. The servers do not always know what is in the dishes.

Most caterers are even more conscious of celiac disease than restaurants. This has worked for me every time. Two out of three times, I have had the server come up to me and say, "You are the gluten girl, right?" or if I start to explain, they say, "Oh, are you Christine? You have celiac disease right?"

These guys are very well trained. They aim to please. Don't be afraid to talk to them!

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I am newly diagnosed as well and I have a wedding in November. I plan to call the place and ask them about special diet and then once I get there I am going to talk to someone in charge to ask for a plain meal. I'd rather do that than have to bring my own stuff personally.

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I wanted to say that taking care of your needs must be a priority in your life from now on. I was diagnosed in Dec. 08. This past August I had a colonoscopy and a biopsy showed I had no sign of celiac in my small intestines. Great news I have been doing something right. BUT a biopsy in my colon showed Non Hodgkin Lymphoma. It took 30 years of tests and docs to get my celiac diagnosed and treated so severe damage had already been done. Keep yourself healthy by taking care of your celiacs. Nobody has to endure the results of this disease but us. Good luck and remember the wedding is just another day in the rest of your life.

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    • Hi everyone, I've been reading this forum sporadically and have some questions of my own. I'm in my 40s and was diagnosed with celiac last December by biopsy and blood work after months of tests by my primary and then a gastro. My husband, around the same age as me, was dx'd with stage 4 cancer a month later, so admittedly it's took me longer than I'd have liked to learn about celiac. Now I feel pretty on top of my diet. I mostly make my own food - proteins and veggies, with some certified gluten-free snacks in the mix - and am pretty strict about what I will/won't eat at friend's houses or in restaurants (I prefer to go to dedicated gluten-free kitchens whenever possible). I'm doing okay on the diet, but still getting glutened every so often, usually when I let me guard down outside the home. I also periodically see my primary and a naturopath (who happens to have celiac!), but still, I have many questions if anyone would care to answer:

      -FATIGUE. I'm still so tired, fatigued so much of the time. My doctors blame this on the stress of my husband's diagnosis and my periodic trouble sleeping. But even during weeks where I'm sleeping enough (8-10 hrs a day), eating right, exercising as I can, trying to keep stress at bay, I'm still so bleeping tired. Maybe not when I wake up, but by late afternoon. Often my legs even feel weak/wooden. Has anyone else experienced greater fatigue early on after being diagnosed? This will pass, yes? I know I could cut out the sweets and that could help, but also, being a caregiver is hard and sometimes it's nice to eat your feelings between therapy sessions.  

      -SYMPTOMS CAUSED BY FATIGUE? Sometimes I'll have other "feels like I've been glutened" symptoms if I haven't gotten enough sleep, though I'm trying so hard to sleep at least 8 hours a night these days. Hasn't happened in a while thankfully, but there was a point this summer where my insomnia was bad and my arms were achy and I had some crazy flank/back pain I'd never experienced before. For weeks. Doctor ordered me to sleep sleep sleep, taking Benedryl if needed. I did, and the symptoms went away, but weird, yes? Has this happened to you? I ask because I want to make sure I'm getting all strange pains tested to the full extent if there's a chance it's something other than celiac. I do sometimes still feel that strange side stitch after a CC incident.

      -SKIN PROBLEMS. I have had a smidge of eczema since I was a teen and it - and the dermatitis herpetiformis I've acquired with my dx - are out of control right now. I recognize the connection with stress, but also, has anyone found any great natural remedies for DH to stop the itching? I've tried so many useless ointments and medicated creams, a number of them given to my by a dermo months ago. I see my naturopath this week, but thought I'd ask here too.

      -MOSTLY gluten-free KITCHEN GOOD ENOUGH? My husband is supportive of my diet and mostly eats gluten free meals with me, but we still keep a gluten-y toaster for him and the gluten-y dog food in a corner of the kitchen and he still makes the occasional meal with gluten for himself on his own cookware (ravioli, pizza, mac n cheese, etc). Or sometimes I make eggs/toast and the like for him when he's too sick to move. Otherwise, we're militant about how we cook, which cookware we use, etc. He even has a kitchen nook off our den where he makes sandwiches. But sometimes I wonder if having two separate sponges in our shared-ish main kitchen is enough and I should just banish all gluten whatsoever from the kitchen. I can't be the only one with a mixed kitchen, right? How do you do it if you have a mixed-eating family?

      Thank you so much!  
    • Hang in there!  Count your blessings.  Do something you like to do and relax. I know that is hard to do as a young mother (as I sit here in the kitchen sipping coffee quietly as my teenager is sleeping in after a late football game last night where she marched in 90 degree plus weather in full uniform).   But seriously, take a few minutes to relax!  
    • Meredith, this is very true. A colonoscopy is for diagnosis of the lower intestine, endoscopy for the upper intestine.  How did your doctor interpret the tests? I suggest you read the link Cycling Lady gave you because it contains a lot of good information. 
    • Sorry, but this product (supplement) is not even certified gluten free.   Seems odd that a product geared to Non-Celiac Gluten Intolerance would not take the extra step of getting certified.   I guess I am a Nervous Nellie, especially after the reports that several probiotics were contaminated with gluten.   https://celiac.org/blog/2015/06/probiotics-your-friend-or-foe/
    • Thank you for posting that. I've had a lot of that bloodwork done and everything is normal. At the peak of this belly bug I had blood work done and my white count was fine. I think it's just my health anxiety scaring me into thinking this is something scarier (to me) than celiac. Maybe the anxiety will subside once I go gluten-free. The anxiety is brutal.
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