Get email alerts Get Celiac.com E-mail Alerts  




Celiac.com Sponsor:
Celiac.com Sponsor:




Ads by Google:






   Get email alerts  Subscribe to FREE Celiac.com email alerts

Hello? Are You Even Listening?
0

15 posts in this topic

So my family always has this HUGE Christmas Eve get together, with a lot of food, stuff I can't have of course, with every single one of my intolerances present. So my mom, who loves to make more work for herself for some odd reason, decides, Oh I better make some canneloni you can eat. Well me, being the horrid daughter I am, can't say no to canneloni. But when I ask her to do one little favor to make sure I don't get sick, (keep everything very clean and don't make mine within a certain amount of time of floury items she's made) she freaks. "How long ye want me to wait? A week?"

I said no, even just an hour is okay, (Though I probably should have said more but I wasn't going to argue). She said, okay fine. I'll make your's first. But she was still ticked that I would even ask such a thing. Sorry, but if yer gonna cook for someone who has special dietary needs, don't you think you should listen to them so you don't make them sick?

0

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites


Ads by Google:

It's still fresh in your head and it seemed like your mom was ticked off that she had to make adjustments to her cooking schedule, but after a little bit you'll gain some perspective. Your mom is so wonderful that she'll do this for you! So many people with Celiac don't have family members as great as that. Giver her a hug from me. :)

1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Family relationships are complicated so I'm not going to take your mom's side but what stood out to me is that you asked her to wait but she offered to make yours first which shows that she has some understanding of what would be safe for you.

1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It will actually be much better if she makes yours first. I have read on here that flour dust can stay in the air for up to four hours. Is there any reason you can't be in the kitchen while she's making yours to "help" her? If you phrase it more as you want to learn how to make the gluten free cannelloni yourself she may be more receptive. That way you really can learn how to do it and supervise at the same time to make sure the preparation is safe. If she is making the pasta from scratch and using a pasta maker or a rolling pin, you will want her to put some wax paper or somethign between the gluten-free dough and the rolling pin or the rolloers on the pasta maker so you don't get any CC. It would probably be easier/safer to find gluten-free pasta shells already made and then fill them. Then if they are baked at the same time as the gluten stuff be sure they are tightly covered with foil on top.

1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm on your 'side' on this. The diet is still relatively new to you, you're probably still in the paranoid phase, and depending on the severity of your symptoms you may not want to be a guinea pig during the holidays. If you're already resolved to do this, then go for it, but if you're still hesitant, talk over your feelings with your mom. She just wants you to know that she loves you, and food is a big way of doing that.

The first time I went to visit my parents after changing my diet, I brought my own food, and went through my mom's kitchen with her and talked about reading labels, and cc, and all the things that become a part of our lives when we eat differently from the main stream. She wasn't insulted or angry that I was telling her how to cook. I was very open about my new found horror at what's in our "food". You and your mom can go through this together, if you take the steps to make it happen this way.

1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites




Holiday stress, maybe?

Someone kept me waiting twenty minutes yesterday and I flipped out because I have a list of half a dozen things to bake and/or cook, presents to wrap, errands to run, etcetera, etcetera. Maybe mom is just a little stressed out because of the holidays.

Don't give up on her though. :)

1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I think gluten cooks, w/ the best intentions, want to cook for us so we feel included ... and become a little intimidated when they realize what's involved. It's easier for us as we're used to it, but it can be daunting when you have to think of minute details... about CC.

2

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Okay, I'll have you know, that I love my mom, and I am thrilled she wants too try and do things for me. (My MIL does that too) I love that she wants to include me in the celebrations. It makes me feel less forgotten, (which I often feel in my family since I am the baby and the next youngest is eight and a half years older than me, so I am still at that awkward stage where the age difference is so huge that my siblings tend to think i don't get what they are saying or doing). But I am still a little frustrated, because I don't think my mom understands yet quite how bad this is, and how hard it is. So when I ask her to do just little things, it frustrates me that she is frustrated.

Also note, I am a little ticked too because my mother enjoys making more work for herself, and she is sick this holiday season and wont let me do anything to help her. And my mom is one of those people who when she gets a cold is sicker than any other person with a cold. I called her and didn't even recognize her voice.

As for the advice of setting some time to help my mom, she won't let me. She likes to do everything herself...

OH SHOOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I FORGOT TO TELL MY MOM NO WOODEN SPOONS!

Anyway you all have good advice... (And shopgiel... holiday stress? Oh boy, you wouldn't believe it. My family has a bad habit of making the holidays more stressful than they really are... Hence the reason why both my mom and I are frustrated probably)

0

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

tell her to bag the whole thing and you're both going out for martinis for christmas.

2

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

hahahaha well jest, I did end up telling her today to bag the whole thing when she got frustrated when she couldn't find xanthan gum. (To which she replied, but I want you to be able to eat what we eat... I said, "Mom, I am used to not being able to eat what you guys eat." So she then told me fine... But she did seem a little disappointed.... Oh well...)

0

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

hahahaha well jest, I did end up telling her today to bag the whole thing when she got frustrated when she couldn't find xanthan gum. (To which she replied, but I want you to be able to eat what we eat... I said, "Mom, I am used to not being able to eat what you guys eat." So she then told me fine... But she did seem a little disappointed.... Oh well...)

It's probably too late now, but could you ask for something else that is naturally gluten free and easy to make, but still a special treat for you? I'm making myself lamb. I'm doing it in the slow cooker so it's easy, but it's expensive so I don't buy it very often. I will share it with my friends, but the lamb and a ceasar salad will be all I'm having for Christmas dinner while everyone else eats gluteny stuff. Oh I'm also making a pumpkin custard for myself for dessert.

0

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

tell her to bag the whole thing and you're both going out for martinis for christmas.

This one made me literally laugh out loud... thank you! :D

0

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

OH SHOOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I FORGOT TO TELL MY MOM NO WOODEN SPOONS!

This made me laugh out loud. I forgot to tell my mum no wooden spoons. I caught it before any liquid was added so we kept the flour and just switched spoons - I figured at that point the spoon couldn't have transfered too much badness. Hope you were ok too!

0

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Okay, so instead of eating what everyone else was having, I ate a salad... Yeah, lettuce, spinach, and sundried tomato vinagrette dressing. I had chicken and vegetables to go with it, but I just wanted salad... Is that crazy or what?

(And of course, I never heard the end of it from my siblings. Hahaha)

So I guess it doesn't matter that I didn't tell her no wooden spoons.

Though I didn't say no to my MIL either, or tell her about wooden spoons... So I think I may have gotten sick from that... (Though not sure which made me sick... All I know is I didn't feel good saturday or sunday.)

0

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I feel like I am always telling friends the exact same thing... "I am used to not eating what you are. I honestly don't miss it." They don't seem to believe me and still don't want to eat certain stuff in front of me. Don't know how to make others feel more comfortable.

0

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!


Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.


Sign In Now
0

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      104,636
    • Total Posts
      921,532
  • Topics

  • Posts

    • Oh, and as I mentioned in my own post on pain, xanax. I swear. I tried it just to deal with the occasional panic I had at weird scary symptoms and clueless doctors. I am not a fan of long term use. But I recently found that .25 mg seems to aid with the neuropathic pain. It does not go away, but it helps. 
    • It does sound like a Glutening and you are just a few months into the diet.  It might help if you read our Newbie 101 thread under the "Coping" section.   Here is some information about rice milk: https://www.verywell.com/is-rice-dream-gluten-free-562354 Many, many celiacs are often lactose intolerant temorarily or permanently if you are naturally genetically inclined.  When I am glutened, I lose the ability to digest lactose for a while.   Salad?  Great but it can be rough on a sore gut!  Think soups, stews, easy-to-digest foods that you prepare yourself until you feel better.  Did your folks give you salad after a bout of flu?  Or did you stick with jello and broth?  I am intolerant still after three years to garlic and onions (the lactose resolved, thankfully).  You have a leaky gut (Google zonulin and Dr. Fasano who is a leading celiac researcher to verify that this is true) and that means you can become intolerant to anything (hopefully, just temporarily).   If you are 100% sure that you have had no access to gluten....did you eat out lately?.....then see your doctor.  Remember, celiac disease symptoms can change.  And here is the biggie.....it can take weeks, months or years to heal from celiac disease.  Two months in is nothing, really.  Why?  It takes time to figure out the diet and time for antibodies to come down.  celiac disease is an autoimmune disorder triggerEd by gluten.  once triggered it can go on and on damaging your gut especially with repeated glutenings (accidental or through cross contamination). I hope you feel better soon!  
    • I concur! I literally feel your pain as well. Like, at the moment, lol. Did you have an endo to see inflammation or damage? I am close to begging my GI for carafate or something to coat and protect. How about testing your antibodies to see if they are still rising? I read somewhere here rice milk may not be a good option.  Folks here have also suggested to me to stick with whole foods. Limit processed. Especially stuff that is not certified gluten-free, like chex. I think small amounts of gluten are in processed foids and can add up. I too reacted to lettuce the other day like I was ingesting glass. My sibling  had a food sensitivity panel done and it came back positive for a few things he had been eating a lot of. He can now eat them, but had to cut them out of his diet. Lettuce is probably on mine.  I have been drinking carrot and pomegranate juice,  dandelion root tea with hiney, aloe water, lots of squash, fish. Mild, no garlic, no onions or hot sauce. No coffee. It sucks.  Inflammation can tick off other organs, you mention a "Pain below". Not exactly sure which side, but certainly call your doc Monday. Sooner if the pain increases.
    • You should see a GI specialist before you go gluten free.  They should do a upper endoscopy to check for celiac damage.  Colonoscopy won't show anything related to celiac.  Also no you should not feel worse on gluten free, you should feel better.
    • So ok, I get the pain/bloating thing, but it still feels so crazy. But my god, I look 6 months preggers after dinner and 4 months the rest of the time. How long will this last?! I have not gained any weight but have to hide me belly now. I can hardly breath! Omg, that does take me back to pregnancy.  I had "acute marked focal duodenditis" a few weeks ago and an elevated DGP. the pain sometimes makes me seriously think I must be bleeding somewhere. It is actually worse then 3 weeks ago. Although many of the other glutening symptoms are finally vanishing. Even my mid and lower back is tender to touch. Sometimes it burns, aches or like someone is stabbing me in my side. My ribs hurt and everything is tender.  I am on protonix and fish oil. I have a prn for xanax which helps the pain (off market use for muscle relaxant).    I am fair skinned and notice a red under-the-skin discolored rash that comes and goes on my upper stomach. Sometimes it travels down one side. Not itchy. Almost like I can actually see the inflammation under my skin.  1) when will I stop looking knocked up?  2) Any other fair-skinned folks notice a purpleish-red rash on your bellies? It mostly goes away and comes back, which I tske to be a good sign. 
  • Upcoming Events

  • Blog Entries

  • Recent Status Updates

  • Who's Online (See full list)

  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      61,639
    • Most Online
      3,093

    Newest Member
    NickyW_UK
    Joined