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#31 Eric096

 
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Posted 30 January 2012 - 04:26 PM

Kareng said they act like mean 5 year old children.


I have seen mean 5 year old kids myself and Karneg is right, they act exactly like mean 5 year old kids
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Posted 30 January 2012 - 11:30 PM

It amazes me how ignorant and rude people can be. If you would have told them you had diabetes, I imagine you would have had a different response from these people. There is a bit more awareness to diabetes but unfortunately i think too many see celiac as a choice when it is not. I think the diet is viewed as new-wave fad and many do not see the importance so they piddle it away with belittling comments and jokes. Realize these people are the ones who have the problem and not you. Only until they have issues will they not find this funny.

I had a sitaution this last week where a family member (knowing I am taking lots of vits) told me that supplements are just junk and "junk" was capitalized. Really? That's the only thing that was giving me nutrients at one point. I didn't rely to the email.
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Posted 22 February 2012 - 04:06 PM

hi i know how you feel i have had it for 5 or 6 years now and i do not like it at all. But hey, we all have are ups and downs.but lets all remember that god has us on this earth for a reason and if that reason is to fight against our temptations then so be it and do not let it bring you down. Just remember that good friends shouldn't do that to you and if they are really your friend, then they should be nicer.
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Posted 20 March 2012 - 07:07 PM

I would definitely talk to the youth pastor and explain the situation to him, so he knows the seriousness of it, and ask him if he would explain it to the kids there. I know it might be awkward, but if they hear it coming from him, they should acknowledge it and know how serious it is. Especially cross-contamination (what a waste of crackers- those are expensive too!) That's what I did with my youth leader, and he understood and was really nice about it. He told the other kids, and after that they made sure they didn't eat any of the snacks the youth leaders set out for me and were very supportive. Yeah they joked around a little still (though they have never joked around in an unkind way to me) but that was because I joked about it too. I'm sorry the kids in your youth group are rude about it. :( If they are your friends, you need to let them know you need their support. And don't feel like you need to downplay your condition around them because they'll feel bad if you tell them the truth- if you tell them how you feel they should feel sorry. Don't ever compromise!
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Posted 02 February 2013 - 07:36 PM

I have the same problem at my youth group! I always have to bring my own snacks too. If they were awesome friends they would try to understand. I hope they become understanding! Just keep praying for them!
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Posted 17 June 2013 - 06:04 PM

My middle schooler had the same problem.  It had gotten to the point that there were very few things she was comfortable bringing to school for lunch and most of it is not great for you.  Many teens and pre-teens carry the additional burden of being made fun of for what they must eat.  As adults we have the confidence and self-esteem to blow off negative comments from ignorant people. But teens are often forced to eat with peers that are not their "friends".  Her older brother and sister assure her that next year in high school, no one will care what she eats...middle school is a tough few years.


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Posted 17 June 2013 - 07:12 PM

We can't always change others, but we can  try to perceive them differently.  My thoughts lately is that I have to learn to be okay with some unjust treatment and low opinions of me.  All people do make mistakes.  I don't always react well either.  Last time flour ended up in the kitchen, I threw it on the floor.  That sure didn't help!

 

It may seem like others are out to get you.  However, it is more likely they are just trying to have a good time.  It is at your expense, but not purposely.  Not many got up this morning thinking to gluten a celiac for the fun of it.  If they do it, they are likely just careless.  We have problems with carelessness at times also.  Don't we.  One never knows what grief they are passing through that day.

 

  Put yourself in their shoes, or remember what you felt before you found out you had celiac.  If someone claimed they couldn't even have a crumb, would you believe them?  I would have thought it outrageous.  I understand how incredible it sounds. 

 

I heard of a person who accused their friend of being obsessed with  her disease.  After the second one got diagnosed with celiac, she went back to apologize to her friend.  Now she could really understand.  Your friends don't understand yet.  Hopefully someday they will learn compassion for others  In the meanwhile take care of yourself, and try not to be crushed when they think low of you. 

 

That is what I am trying to do, but there will always be trouble as long as we are here!  Trouble with others, and trouble with yourself!


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Posted 27 June 2013 - 12:43 PM

Hey all,

Well I've been on the gluten free diet for about 7 months (it feels like it's been 7 years haha wink.gif ) I was diagnosed with Celiac in September, 2010.

In the beginning, I obviously had no idea which gluten free foods tasted good and which ones didn't. I do a lot of activities with my youth group at church, so I am constantly bringing meals and snacks with me and eat them in front of my friends. So, in the beginning I would bring some pretty nasty stuff because it's all I could find. My friends were curious and wanted to try my "strange and abnormal food". I let them and they ended up wasting my cupcake and, may I say, being quite rude by wiping what was left of it all over the pavement right in front of me. The next time I had some crackers and I got up to get a napkin....when I came back my friend had reached her hand in the box (while eating pizza) to try one of my crackers. When I said that I couldn't eat them now because of that, all my friends decided to laugh at me and make a big deal out of it. I didn't get what their problem was...

So after that, noone really wants to try any of my food (not that I want them to). But they make it a point to say something about my food, like "Oh, what do you have today, another meal that looks and tastes like rotten dog food?" Or, "How can you eat something so disgusting like that." Why do they need to make such unnecessary rude remarks to me?! Going gluten free is hard enough as it is, and I don't need my friends acting like this on top of it all.

I also get the annoying questions like "What are you going to do when you are dating, tell him 'oh we have to go somewhere gluten free'" And they say "gluten free" like I am some sort of exaggerator. That's another thing......they don't believe me. Especially about cross contamination. I try to explain that I am doing this because it is for my health..sometimes I even use scary things like "If I eat that my body will destroy itself." hahaha...I have to have a little fun with them sometimes! wink.gif But most of the time I feel like either A.Freaking out!! B. Wringing their necks. or C. Praying that they all get celiac disease. lol

So how do you deal with those things:
1. Your friends not believing you or saying you are exaggerating.

2. Your friends making awful comments about what you're eating and about how careful you have to be.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

Thanks smile.gif

 

 

Hey all,

Well I've been on the gluten free diet for about 7 months (it feels like it's been 7 years haha wink.gif ) I was diagnosed with Celiac in September, 2010.

In the beginning, I obviously had no idea which gluten free foods tasted good and which ones didn't. I do a lot of activities with my youth group at church, so I am constantly bringing meals and snacks with me and eat them in front of my friends. So, in the beginning I would bring some pretty nasty stuff because it's all I could find. My friends were curious and wanted to try my "strange and abnormal food". I let them and they ended up wasting my cupcake and, may I say, being quite rude by wiping what was left of it all over the pavement right in front of me. The next time I had some crackers and I got up to get a napkin....when I came back my friend had reached her hand in the box (while eating pizza) to try one of my crackers. When I said that I couldn't eat them now because of that, all my friends decided to laugh at me and make a big deal out of it. I didn't get what their problem was...

So after that, noone really wants to try any of my food (not that I want them to). But they make it a point to say something about my food, like "Oh, what do you have today, another meal that looks and tastes like rotten dog food?" Or, "How can you eat something so disgusting like that." Why do they need to make such unnecessary rude remarks to me?! Going gluten free is hard enough as it is, and I don't need my friends acting like this on top of it all.

I also get the annoying questions like "What are you going to do when you are dating, tell him 'oh we have to go somewhere gluten free'" And they say "gluten free" like I am some sort of exaggerator. That's another thing......they don't believe me. Especially about cross contamination. I try to explain that I am doing this because it is for my health..sometimes I even use scary things like "If I eat that my body will destroy itself." hahaha...I have to have a little fun with them sometimes! wink.gif But most of the time I feel like either A.Freaking out!! B. Wringing their necks. or C. Praying that they all get celiac disease. lol

So how do you deal with those things:
1. Your friends not believing you or saying you are exaggerating.

2. Your friends making awful comments about what you're eating and about how careful you have to be.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

Thanks smile.gif

If your "friends" can't even respect you and support you when it comes to something as simple as the foods you eat, they're not going to respect you about anything else, or something even more serious than this (not saying this isn't serious). Not to sound mean or harsh, but if I was you i'd get some new friends who don't straight up bully you. 


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