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A really close friend of mine is so worryed about me. He wants to blame him self bout me having celiac disease. I just dont know what to do. I keep telling him to stop worrying bout me cuz i will be fine but he still worrys. I was thinking of tellin him to, if it makes him feel better, to go gluten free with me but he has told me before when we first found out that he would die if he couldnt have bread. Plus i know how hard it is to be gluten free i just dont want him to go through it and i dont think he could do it. I think he is willing to try. What do you think i should do?

Joe Moe

Gluten-free since February 23, 2004

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Celiacs is a genetic disease so there is no way he is to blame for you having it. If he is feeling this bad maybe going gluten-free would ease his feelings. I have friends who want to try my food but I wouldn never want them to go gluten-free if they don't have to. Talk to him and let him know to lighten up and that this is your new way of life. It is a new diet and you will be fine. It is better to know and be healthy that to not know and be sick. At least he cares a lot about you.

Kristina

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i keep tellin him that i will be fine. he just wont listen he will worry bout me no matter what so maybe i can tell him to go gluten-free that might help but i wont know till he trys. so thanks for the help. i will post later what he thinks bout goin gluten-free.

Joe Moe

ps i even talked to his sister and she said that he wont stop worryin bout me.

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Hya

Its good to hear ytou have someone close to you who cares.

but i was wondering why he wants to blame himself for your illness?

Does he think something he has done made it happen?

Maybe try surfing the website with him so he can see where celiac disease comes from and how many people have it for years before being diagnosed.

it might be that ytou had it before you knew him - you never know.

I hope you get sorted anyway - good luck!

nickra

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yeah he really does care bout me but i dont know why he blames him self he said it is just something that he does. i told him to go on line and try to talk to people that have friends that have celiac disease i dont know if he did or not i hope he did. well i got to go talk to him so i will post later

joe

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so this is what he said

me: i was askin round to peeps to see how i could help you to stop worrin bout me so much and they said that maybe that it would make you feel better if you went on the gluten free diet with me

him: whats got glutens in it?

me: bread

him: it'll be tough but i can try

him: im not sayin that you sould do it but if you think it will make you feel better then go for it

him: well it might make me feel a bit better, so i'll try it

me: ok

him: i'll still worry about you, but it might reduce the fears a bit

me: i will warn you it is hard you wont beacble to eat school if you are really gonna do it

him: like what?

me: burgers spagetti umm you name it it has glutens in it

him: wow...well, i will see what i can do for the most part, ok?

me: ok

him: i can't make guarentees

me: ok thats fine your doin this for you not me

him: ok, i will

Joe

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That is really weird. Hoepfully he will calm down some by going gluten-free, too.

Kristina

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It sounds like you have a tough situation but one where someone cares. Ultimately it is up to him to make the decision. I would suggest telling him how you feel once in a while, I mean if you feel sick or frustrated with the disease or if you feel great. It can be annoying but it may just help him settle down. I would also suggest going on the internet and finding information with him help him learn about the disease.

If it comes down to it and he is really dedicated to the diet, I wouldn't suggest it, but if he is let him do it and help you with your own after a while it gets easier to not eat gluten and enjoy life. Your friend will realize that after a few months.

Stepha

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Thanks for all your guys help. I do tell him when i do and dont feel good but when i do tell him that i dont feel good he really doesnt like it. I did suggest the gluten-free diet but he isnt doin good with that one. I think he want to do it but he just doesnt want to bring a lunch to school. So i dont know what he is gonna do. Thanks for the help i really appreciate it!

Joe Moe

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I have just one more suggestion:

Send him to this site and have him sign up. There is a message board for family members and friends that know someone with celiac, it might be a big help for him to find a support group.

Stepha

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I have told him about this site and he told me that he looked at it but i dont know if it helped any. I will ask him later if he has checked things out on the message boards.

Thanks,

Joe Moe

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Well i talked to him and i dont think he is goin to go the goluten free diet. i have decided to just not bring it up. So if i just dont talk bout it everything will be just fine.

Joe Moe

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I'm newish to gluten-free and my friends and family still worry about eating in front of me. I smell everyone's food (weird, but at least I get to semi-taste it) and I just tell them that I live vicariously through them... I think it helps them to know that I'm glad THEY enjoy gluten.

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I don't have someone who worries about me like that but what the other said is true why would he blame himself? it's genetic and he can't possibly be responsable. My friends were just glad to see me gain weight as I was 60 lbs weighing less than my 6 year old friend. My very best friend (a guy aswell) doesn't blame himself because he knows it's genetic and stuff but he worries that I don't eat enough and that I'm going to die and stuff but I tell him that I ain't going to die by missing a meal now and then. I don't think he believes me that much

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