First, I am sorry if this is on the site and I couldn't find it.
My DH has been very supportive of me going gluten free. He actually works at PF CHangs part time and knows about CC and knew a bit about the problems. Once I approached it as a potential problem, he was like 'I can see that...". However, I don't think he recognizes the emotional problems that can come from that. From me being glutened or me still recovering. I understand that is a much more difficult area to show. Emotional/personality changes are not something I initally thought of or recognized. However, I have done my research and understand a lot more now. He does not spend much time on the computer and is not research minded like I am. Does anyone have any tips of how I can bring up the topic and have some valid proof to back it up? He has never out right said that these problems are not valid, but he does appreciate valid sources.
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Posted 10 December 2011 - 10:54 AM
Here are some links. I wouldn't know when or how to tell you to bring it up. Everyone's relationships are so different!
http://www.celiac.co...Diet/Page1.html
http://www.examiner....disease-anxiety
http://www.celiaccen...th-Anxiety/614/
http://www.celiac.co...Diet/Page1.html
http://www.examiner....disease-anxiety
http://www.celiaccen...th-Anxiety/614/
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Posted 10 December 2011 - 11:23 AM
You can put him in a room of Celiacs on a gluten challenge???
Sorry, that wasn't funny...
I find the mental/emotional difference between me on gluten and off becomes more obvious every day. Sometimes I just blurt out "wow, if that would have happened 6 months ago I would have lost it" and hubs laughs and agrees.
My son wishes I was back on gluten, I think, because I am a bit more "aware" now and now I'm evidently pretty strict and mean (comparatively speaking).
Sorry, that wasn't funny...
I find the mental/emotional difference between me on gluten and off becomes more obvious every day. Sometimes I just blurt out "wow, if that would have happened 6 months ago I would have lost it" and hubs laughs and agrees.
My son wishes I was back on gluten, I think, because I am a bit more "aware" now and now I'm evidently pretty strict and mean (comparatively speaking).
Apparently there is nothing that cannot happen today. ~ Mark Twain
Probable Endometriosis, in remission from childbirth since 2002.
Hashimoto's DX 2005.
Gluten-Free since 6/2011.
DH (and therefore Celiac) dx from ND.
Responsive to iodine withdrawal for DH (see quote, above).
Genetic tests reveal half DQ2, half DQ8 - I'm a weird bird!
Probable Endometriosis, in remission from childbirth since 2002.
Hashimoto's DX 2005.
Gluten-Free since 6/2011.
DH (and therefore Celiac) dx from ND.
Responsive to iodine withdrawal for DH (see quote, above).
Genetic tests reveal half DQ2, half DQ8 - I'm a weird bird!
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Posted 12 December 2011 - 08:02 AM
You can put him in a room of Celiacs on a gluten challenge???
Sorry, that wasn't funny...
Actually that was pretty funny
Blood tested 8-11 positive
Biopsy 9-11 negative
Waiting to do genetic test
Issues related to gluten: depression, low iron, hair loss, positive ana test for lupus, low vitamin D, headache, sinusitis, environmental allergies, brain fog, GI problems, weight gain....the list goes on....
Biopsy 9-11 negative
Waiting to do genetic test
Issues related to gluten: depression, low iron, hair loss, positive ana test for lupus, low vitamin D, headache, sinusitis, environmental allergies, brain fog, GI problems, weight gain....the list goes on....
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Posted 12 December 2011 - 08:17 PM
Actually that was pretty funny
we'd all do each other in!
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Posted 13 December 2011 - 02:26 AM
the first thing you need to do is rename the issue
"emotional problem" is like telling men you have PMS. They have no idea. They can't "fix" it. And have no idea how to deal with it.
Tell us here on this forum how you feel about your gluten problems, gluten symptoms, gluten free issues and we might be able to help you with a loved one who doesn't understand.
I work with a way too many people that have their own opinions about "tolerance". To about 90% of them "A little bit is okay" because it is intolerance not allergy.
It is ignorant for us that have learnt so much more but to so many this is the norm.
Ask your DH how he would consider a serious nut allergy that involved epi=pen and explain that perhaps the reaction isn't life threatening, but the reaction is just as intense in other ways.
"emotional problem" is like telling men you have PMS. They have no idea. They can't "fix" it. And have no idea how to deal with it.
Tell us here on this forum how you feel about your gluten problems, gluten symptoms, gluten free issues and we might be able to help you with a loved one who doesn't understand.
I work with a way too many people that have their own opinions about "tolerance". To about 90% of them "A little bit is okay" because it is intolerance not allergy.
It is ignorant for us that have learnt so much more but to so many this is the norm.
Ask your DH how he would consider a serious nut allergy that involved epi=pen and explain that perhaps the reaction isn't life threatening, but the reaction is just as intense in other ways.
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Posted 13 December 2011 - 03:00 AM
Clue (Celiac Edition)we'd all do each other in!
In the kitchen,
By all of them
With the loaf of bread
Undiagnosed for 20 years since first symptoms.
March 2009 - Negative Blood work
April 24, 2009 - Gluten-free
April 29, 2009 - Notably positive response to gluten-free Diet.
May 2, 2009 Dairy Free
May 6, 2009, Soy Free
May 27, 2009 Enterolab Results: Positive Anti-gliadin IgA, tTG IgA, Casein, HLA DQ2.2, HLA DQ8
June 4, 2009 Refined sugar free (except Raw Honey, pure Maple syrup)
June 29, 2009, Dad diagnosed Celiac by GI specialist via blood work and dietary response.
July 2009, Dad's gene test: double DQ8! Thanks Dad - I'll try to get you something nice for Christmas!
August 8, 2009 Really Soy free this time - Thanks Blue Diamond for the soy lecithin in the almond milk!
March 2009 - Negative Blood work
April 24, 2009 - Gluten-free
April 29, 2009 - Notably positive response to gluten-free Diet.
May 2, 2009 Dairy Free
May 6, 2009, Soy Free
May 27, 2009 Enterolab Results: Positive Anti-gliadin IgA, tTG IgA, Casein, HLA DQ2.2, HLA DQ8
June 4, 2009 Refined sugar free (except Raw Honey, pure Maple syrup)
June 29, 2009, Dad diagnosed Celiac by GI specialist via blood work and dietary response.
July 2009, Dad's gene test: double DQ8! Thanks Dad - I'll try to get you something nice for Christmas!
August 8, 2009 Really Soy free this time - Thanks Blue Diamond for the soy lecithin in the almond milk!
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Posted 13 December 2011 - 09:05 AM
I think it's hard to explain the mental issues because while you may know you're feeling bad inside, that may not be what you're showing to the outside world. For instance, right now I have horrible brain fog. But I cover it pretty well, so other people may not notice.
We usually don't link our symptoms to Celiac at first, so it's even harder for other people to. I'm making a point to tell DH stuff like that when I'm glutened. For instance, "Gosh, I'm so tired tonight. I know it's caused by being glutened last night." or "I hate having this gluten brain fog. I can't think straight."
On another subject entirely... Korwyn, the Clue game is too funny. I just get this visual of a group of people beating someone with a baugette.
We usually don't link our symptoms to Celiac at first, so it's even harder for other people to. I'm making a point to tell DH stuff like that when I'm glutened. For instance, "Gosh, I'm so tired tonight. I know it's caused by being glutened last night." or "I hate having this gluten brain fog. I can't think straight."
On another subject entirely... Korwyn, the Clue game is too funny. I just get this visual of a group of people beating someone with a baugette.
Blood tested 8-11 positive
Biopsy 9-11 negative
Waiting to do genetic test
Issues related to gluten: depression, low iron, hair loss, positive ana test for lupus, low vitamin D, headache, sinusitis, environmental allergies, brain fog, GI problems, weight gain....the list goes on....
Biopsy 9-11 negative
Waiting to do genetic test
Issues related to gluten: depression, low iron, hair loss, positive ana test for lupus, low vitamin D, headache, sinusitis, environmental allergies, brain fog, GI problems, weight gain....the list goes on....
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Posted 13 December 2011 - 10:37 AM
Clue (Celiac Edition)
In the kitchen,
By all of them
With the loaf of bread
I just love your humour, Korwyn.
Neroli
"Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted." - Albert Einstein
"Life is not weathering the storm; it is learning to dance in the rain"
"Whatever the question, the answer is always chocolate." Nigella Lawson
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Caffeine free 1973
Lactose free 1990
(Mis)diagnosed IBS, fibromyalgia '80's and '90's
Diagnosed psoriatic arthritis 2004
Self-diagnosed gluten intolerant, gluten-free Nov. 2007
Soy free March 2008
Nightshade free Feb 2009
Citric acid free June 2009
Potato starch free July 2009
(Totally) corn free Nov. 2009
Legume free March 2010
Now tolerant of lactose
Celiac.com - Celiac Disease Board Moderator
"Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted." - Albert Einstein
"Life is not weathering the storm; it is learning to dance in the rain"
"Whatever the question, the answer is always chocolate." Nigella Lawson
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Caffeine free 1973
Lactose free 1990
(Mis)diagnosed IBS, fibromyalgia '80's and '90's
Diagnosed psoriatic arthritis 2004
Self-diagnosed gluten intolerant, gluten-free Nov. 2007
Soy free March 2008
Nightshade free Feb 2009
Citric acid free June 2009
Potato starch free July 2009
(Totally) corn free Nov. 2009
Legume free March 2010
Now tolerant of lactose
Celiac.com - Celiac Disease Board Moderator
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Posted 13 December 2011 - 10:44 AM
I just love your humour, Korwyn.
Can I quote you on that? Our kids will never believe me otherwise.
Undiagnosed for 20 years since first symptoms.
March 2009 - Negative Blood work
April 24, 2009 - Gluten-free
April 29, 2009 - Notably positive response to gluten-free Diet.
May 2, 2009 Dairy Free
May 6, 2009, Soy Free
May 27, 2009 Enterolab Results: Positive Anti-gliadin IgA, tTG IgA, Casein, HLA DQ2.2, HLA DQ8
June 4, 2009 Refined sugar free (except Raw Honey, pure Maple syrup)
June 29, 2009, Dad diagnosed Celiac by GI specialist via blood work and dietary response.
July 2009, Dad's gene test: double DQ8! Thanks Dad - I'll try to get you something nice for Christmas!
August 8, 2009 Really Soy free this time - Thanks Blue Diamond for the soy lecithin in the almond milk!
March 2009 - Negative Blood work
April 24, 2009 - Gluten-free
April 29, 2009 - Notably positive response to gluten-free Diet.
May 2, 2009 Dairy Free
May 6, 2009, Soy Free
May 27, 2009 Enterolab Results: Positive Anti-gliadin IgA, tTG IgA, Casein, HLA DQ2.2, HLA DQ8
June 4, 2009 Refined sugar free (except Raw Honey, pure Maple syrup)
June 29, 2009, Dad diagnosed Celiac by GI specialist via blood work and dietary response.
July 2009, Dad's gene test: double DQ8! Thanks Dad - I'll try to get you something nice for Christmas!
August 8, 2009 Really Soy free this time - Thanks Blue Diamond for the soy lecithin in the almond milk!
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Posted 13 December 2011 - 11:02 AM
Can I quote you on that? Our kids will never believe me otherwise.
Yep, you can tell them that I believe you are a certifiably funny guy
Neroli
"Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted." - Albert Einstein
"Life is not weathering the storm; it is learning to dance in the rain"
"Whatever the question, the answer is always chocolate." Nigella Lawson
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Caffeine free 1973
Lactose free 1990
(Mis)diagnosed IBS, fibromyalgia '80's and '90's
Diagnosed psoriatic arthritis 2004
Self-diagnosed gluten intolerant, gluten-free Nov. 2007
Soy free March 2008
Nightshade free Feb 2009
Citric acid free June 2009
Potato starch free July 2009
(Totally) corn free Nov. 2009
Legume free March 2010
Now tolerant of lactose
Celiac.com - Celiac Disease Board Moderator
"Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted." - Albert Einstein
"Life is not weathering the storm; it is learning to dance in the rain"
"Whatever the question, the answer is always chocolate." Nigella Lawson
------------
Caffeine free 1973
Lactose free 1990
(Mis)diagnosed IBS, fibromyalgia '80's and '90's
Diagnosed psoriatic arthritis 2004
Self-diagnosed gluten intolerant, gluten-free Nov. 2007
Soy free March 2008
Nightshade free Feb 2009
Citric acid free June 2009
Potato starch free July 2009
(Totally) corn free Nov. 2009
Legume free March 2010
Now tolerant of lactose
Celiac.com - Celiac Disease Board Moderator
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Posted 13 December 2011 - 12:40 PM
Yep, you can tell them that I believe you are a certifiably funny guy
They'll start nodding in agreement as soon as they hear "certifiable".
Undiagnosed for 20 years since first symptoms.
March 2009 - Negative Blood work
April 24, 2009 - Gluten-free
April 29, 2009 - Notably positive response to gluten-free Diet.
May 2, 2009 Dairy Free
May 6, 2009, Soy Free
May 27, 2009 Enterolab Results: Positive Anti-gliadin IgA, tTG IgA, Casein, HLA DQ2.2, HLA DQ8
June 4, 2009 Refined sugar free (except Raw Honey, pure Maple syrup)
June 29, 2009, Dad diagnosed Celiac by GI specialist via blood work and dietary response.
July 2009, Dad's gene test: double DQ8! Thanks Dad - I'll try to get you something nice for Christmas!
August 8, 2009 Really Soy free this time - Thanks Blue Diamond for the soy lecithin in the almond milk!
March 2009 - Negative Blood work
April 24, 2009 - Gluten-free
April 29, 2009 - Notably positive response to gluten-free Diet.
May 2, 2009 Dairy Free
May 6, 2009, Soy Free
May 27, 2009 Enterolab Results: Positive Anti-gliadin IgA, tTG IgA, Casein, HLA DQ2.2, HLA DQ8
June 4, 2009 Refined sugar free (except Raw Honey, pure Maple syrup)
June 29, 2009, Dad diagnosed Celiac by GI specialist via blood work and dietary response.
July 2009, Dad's gene test: double DQ8! Thanks Dad - I'll try to get you something nice for Christmas!
August 8, 2009 Really Soy free this time - Thanks Blue Diamond for the soy lecithin in the almond milk!
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