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#1 GlutenFreeAustinite

 
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Posted 12 January 2012 - 06:22 AM

So I've been gluten-free for a year and a half, and my boyfriend of five and a half months is not. He is quite respectful of my dietary needs, and will often order gluten-free so I can try whatever it is, but he does eat bread, pizza and things with bread crumbs around me. That doesn't bother me at all, and he's quite supportive, but after he finishes eating, he will kiss me. I've never really noticed gluten symptoms afterwards, and I'm more adventurous than some as I'll eat foods that aren't labeled gluten free but don't have anything in them, or stuff made on shared lines. But I've read enough, and it seems there's a risk of even "invisible" glutening.

Should I have my boyfriend brush and floss after eating? I'd feel insane doing that, but if it kept me from damaging myself, I'd definitely ask him.
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Posted 12 January 2012 - 06:29 AM

Its simple. No brushing, etc no loving.

Seriously, if you have been together 5 months, you should be able to talk about this. If he isn't willing, good to know that now. He can give you a hug or a kiss on the cheek or wherever else :ph34r: but not the mouth with gluten crumbs in there.
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Posted 12 January 2012 - 09:07 PM

I definitely get that---the thing is, I don't seem to have any reaction whatsoever. My boyfriend has never made me sick. But what I wasn't sure about was if I could be harming myself without having a reaction?

At any rate, I brought it up to Boyfriend tonight and he said he'd just stop eating gluten around me if it was that big a deal.
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Posted 13 January 2012 - 05:36 AM

I definitely get that---the thing is, I don't seem to have any reaction whatsoever. My boyfriend has never made me sick. But what I wasn't sure about was if I could be harming myself without having a reaction?

At any rate, I brought it up to Boyfriend tonight and he said he'd just stop eating gluten around me if it was that big a deal.

He sounds like a nice guy.

A crumb can be starting the antibodies flowing. Some people get an immediate & recognizable reaction. For me, I think its an acumulation of crumbs that get me.

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Posted 17 January 2012 - 03:12 PM

My husband is a beer drinker. He knows that I won't kiss him when he's been drinking beer until after he brushes. Your guy sounds like a good one since he's willing to accomodate your needs.
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Posted 17 January 2012 - 03:31 PM

Has anone had problems even after their husband/bofriend brushes? I sometimes feel bad about a hour afterwards and he brushes his teeth. I believed his toothpaste to be gluten-free, I'll ask him again.
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Posted 18 January 2012 - 09:31 AM

I haven't had a problem as of yet. But I find I'm becoming more and more sensitive each month I'm on the diet, so it may happen in the future.

I hope it's only the toothpaste. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't kiss my hubby :P
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Posted 18 January 2012 - 05:56 PM

My boyfriend is sensitive too about my needs. As long as you communicate well about it, it should be good.
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Posted 23 January 2012 - 01:59 PM

I definitely think Boyfriend would be willing to accommodate. My question is....is it really necessary? Am I really damaging myself internally, even if I don't get sick, just from him?
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Posted 23 January 2012 - 07:33 PM

a kiss one the cheek is one thing, passion is off limits unless you brush. I don't like it but if I'm sick it's no fun for either of us. Sounbds to me like a guy worth keeping. :D
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Posted 26 January 2012 - 06:03 AM

Boyfriend is totally awesome. :) I've been letting him keep on eating gluten with me (though he really doesn't do it thaaaat frequently anymore) because I'm going to be doing a gluten challenge/test in a few weeks, and there's no point in having him jump through hoops at this point to avoid it when I'm going to be eating it myself. After said test, I'm going to buy him a toothbrush and toothpaste as a way to inform him that he needs to brush after meals. :)
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Posted 18 June 2012 - 05:51 PM

I'm just going to throw this out there, as embarrassing as it is but here it goes....my ex started out drinking gluten-free beer around me, but when he realized it wasn't a big deal to me he swapped back to regular old gluten-full beer. On more than one occasion, we had eaten gluten-free meals together, that I made so I know they were gluten-free, I had reactions. Now I don't just mean gut pain, nausea, fatigue, I'm talking lips swelling along with the usual. The only thing with possible gluten I came in contact with was his lips that had been guzzling the regular old beer. Haha we laugh about it now....I didn't find it so funny back then, keep that in mind! 😘
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Posted 03 July 2012 - 07:26 PM

This issue JUST occurred to me tonight. Ive been gluten free now for about 7 months, but so far Ive been single since I got diagnosed with my gluten intolerance. Im very, very sensitive to gluten and the longer I am gluten free, the more intense my symptoms have become when I do come across it accidentally, so Im pretty sure this would be an issue for me in any future relationship that I pursue. Any ideas on how to tell a future beau that he cant kiss me unless he brushes/rinses/flosses?
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Posted 10 July 2012 - 07:51 AM

I definitely think Boyfriend would be willing to accommodate. My question is....is it really necessary? Am I really damaging myself internally, even if I don't get sick, just from him?


It's a possibility, yes. You're correct in that some people would get damage from this, and not everyone will show symptoms. It's a very frustrating situation, because some people don't seem to be affected by this - they do this, they feel fine, and their follow up tests are fine as well, as well. There's just no way to know which category you are in until test time.

I'd just make sure that if you allow this, you are being diligent in your follow up tests for the disease that checks if you are healing well, you know?
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Posted 10 July 2012 - 08:05 AM

Has anone had problems even after their husband/bofriend brushes? I sometimes feel bad about a hour afterwards and he brushes his teeth. I believed his toothpaste to be gluten-free, I'll ask him again.


Yeah, I have before. :-(

Toothpaste sounds like a good thing to check. Another you might want to check is if he uses chapstick or any other lip balm - that frequently has gluten and he might not be thinking about it.

There was a study on peanuts and kissing that had some interesting results. What they boiled down to is that how much protein remains in the mouth is rather individual. A few people had no detectable protein immediately after they ate, without even brushing. Just waiting an hour eliminated protein from almost all the rest in the study. But one person wasn't protein free for 4.5 hours. They also found that "no intervention really removed it from saliva uniformly." Intervention being brushing, chewing gum, etc...

If gluten is like peanuts in this respect, it sounds like sometimes, whether there's protein remaining in the mouth might have more to do with your spouse and how he digests proteins than with you, eh? (Article on the study http://www.webmd.com...lergy-dangerous )
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Gluten free since August 10, 2009.
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23 years with undiagnosed sulfite sensitivity

25 years with undiagnosed mast cell activation disorder (MCAD) 

 

Daughter: celiac and MCAD positive

Son: gluten intolerant
Father, brother: celiac positive





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