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#1 smsm

 
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 04:56 AM

Hi, So after almost a year and a half into this, I am really truly seeing myself heal. My children are finally growing and sleeping (!!!!), my son is exploding in energy, and my daughter's stomach is better than ever. The downside is I am experiencing intense fear and discomfort with eating outside of the home - and I feel bad. My husband loves to eat out and he is incredibly patient and understanding about not going out, but I think I have become too extreme. I have only been glutened while eating out a handful of times (I tried to go out a ton in the beginning to show that it wouldn't be so hard, and usually I was ok - Disney was a monster success and so were many other places, but when it went badly, it went very badly). I want to teach my young children not to be afraid to go out and how to speak to waiters/chefs/managers and I am frustrating my friends and family with my inability to eat out when it really should be a safe environment (for example an omelet station at brunch where it is only eggs and oil or a steak house). It is just that my symptoms of gluten involve muscle and joint pain that can last weeks and I don't want to be in pain again - I can't enjoy eating out because no bite of food is worth going back to that. How often do you eat out? How do you handle any anxiety about it. I am to the point now where I allow my children to eat out in some cases, but I don't eat - they have not been glutened in our last 3 visits out - why can't that inspire any confidence in me?
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 05:18 AM

I eat out pretty rarely. I will eat at one restaurant in Dublin and two thai takeaways with gluten-free menus. Since thai food is often naturally gluten-free, it doesnt' take them too much trouble to provide gluten-free curries made from coconut milk.

I've had bad experiences at restaurants where the servers seemed clueless. I always pick a place with a gluten-free menu, but I have to add a soya and dairy intolerance on top of that, and it seems like gluten-free stuff is always drizzled with cheese or slathered with cream. :angry:

I'm pretty sure last time I ate out they pan-fried my fish in butter even though they went thru the trouble of leaving the butter off the vegetables. Didn't have the spine to ask about it and I regret that now...
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 05:29 AM

Pretty much never. The last two times we went (to Chilis) and got the gluten-free menu and spoke to the manager and server, I received a salad that didn't even have flour tortilla strips in it according to the menu description, but was filled w/ them. The sad reality is that I simply don't trust restaurants anymore. Hubs and I cook what we like and don't miss it that much.
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 07:05 AM

I don't go to many social events unless I am 100% certain I am safe OR I plan ahead and eat in advance or however I choose to handle it. If I visit my family I do all the cooking with my own stuff.

I do not go to chain restaurants but high-end restaurants where I feel safe. The chefs and staff have received more training (for the most part) and are far more knowledgable. Plus the food is superior. These places really know how to spoil you, yet are discreet. Many offer gluten-free brioche or other bread service as well. So, I eat out about once a month when we make the three-hour drive to the city.

Having said that, I can cook better than most restaurants and enjoy it immensely. So, I rarely even think about eating out! :P My pantry is filled with wonderful gourmet ingredients and my mind is filled with thousands and thousands of superb menu plans.

When traveling it is different - if in a foreign country I plan in advance and take along restaurant cards in those particular languages. Often I go to markets and grocery stores.
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 07:08 AM

We eat out about twice a month. It's only been since December that I had my kids' diagnoses though. We have actually been out more frequently than twice a month as of now, but now that I'm learning more creative things to cook, we are going back to our regular thing.

We've eaten at Buffalo Wild Wings, BD's Mongolian Barbeque (they will cook yours in a separate area in a clean pan), Red Robin, Applebees, Cheeseburger in Paradise, Golden Corral (buffet, tricky but doable), and Ruby Tuesday.

Ruby Tuesday was the most gluten-free-friendly.

I refuse to eat anywhere that has "Coney Island" in the name. All I see is sloppiness and lack of education when I think of them.

I want to make my kids confident that they can handle this disease, and not let it handle them. The more they are exposed to tricky situations that come out positively, the more it reinforces the fact that this isn't a lifestyle-ending thing. If it comes out negatively, you know what to avoid the next time.

My advice: go for it. You're giving in to the disease if you let it control what you do.
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 07:14 AM

Unless you count my mother's house who is very careful when she cooks for my kids, we have not been out to eat in over a year since before we went gluten free. Eventually I may go to Five Guys, when I get less nervous about it, so my kids can have a fast food burger and feel like everyone else, but I have no desire to eat out at all. If we want something special we find a way to make it in a way that satisfies all our dietary needs.
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 07:51 AM

I eat out about once per week. Sometimes more, but I try not to.

I go to high end restaurants that others have told me do gluten-free or publish a gluten-free menu/statement. I also have tried BJ's, Pei Wei, etc. and been fine.

I did have one horrid glutening experience, I think - a local place that had a gluten-free menu but I'd read reviews they were bad at it - they got me the second time.

I do have one totally gluten-free restaurant here, as well as a bakery (just opened) so I am luckier than most. Also, I live in a resort town, and I find they are very good at gluten-free.
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 10:31 AM

I don't go to many social events unless I am 100% certain I am safe OR I plan ahead and eat in advance or however I choose to handle it. If I visit my family I do all the cooking with my own stuff.

I do not go to chain restaurants but high-end restaurants where I feel safe. The chefs and staff have received more training (for the most part) and are far more knowledgable. Plus the food is superior. These places really know how to spoil you, yet are discreet. Many offer gluten-free brioche or other bread service as well. So, I eat out about once a month when we make the three-hour drive to the city.

Having said that, I can cook better than most restaurants and enjoy it immensely. So, I rarely even think about eating out! :P My pantry is filled with wonderful gourmet ingredients and my mind is filled with thousands and thousands of superb menu plans.

When traveling it is different - if in a foreign country I plan in advance and take along restaurant cards in those particular languages. Often I go to markets and grocery stores.


What she said! :P There are a few people on this forum who I feel are living a parallel life to mine!

If you live in an area where there are many higher end restaurants and awareness, then you will do fine with it. I fully realize that not all parts of the country are like that. You really get to know whether a place will work or not but that takes time and practice. I tend to go to the same places where I know they will not make a mistake and they never have. My husband and I probably go out about once a month to every 6 weeks.
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 10:59 AM

I don't go to many social events unless I am 100% certain I am safe OR I plan ahead and eat in advance or however I choose to handle it. If I visit my family I do all the cooking with my own stuff.

I do not go to chain restaurants but high-end restaurants where I feel safe. The chefs and staff have received more training (for the most part) and are far more knowledgable. Plus the food is superior. These places really know how to spoil you, yet are discreet. Many offer gluten-free brioche or other bread service as well. So, I eat out about once a month when we make the three-hour drive to the city.

Having said that, I can cook better than most restaurants and enjoy it immensely. So, I rarely even think about eating out! :P My pantry is filled with wonderful gourmet ingredients and my mind is filled with thousands and thousands of superb menu plans.

When traveling it is different - if in a foreign country I plan in advance and take along restaurant cards in those particular languages. Often I go to markets and grocery stores.



EXACTLY :)

Thanks for your post, LOVE2--- it is almost exactly what I would have written and you saved me the time. :lol: I fear chain places, diners, etc. --gluten galore! :blink:

I am also VERY fortunate to have a TOTALLY dedicated gluten-free cafe/bakery run by "one of us" :) about 45 mins. away that I go to for lunch twice weekly after physical therapy. It's my reward and I socialize with/and have the opportunity to help other celiacs. Lucky me. :)

We NEED MORE of these safe havens.

Cheers, IH
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 11:00 AM

What she said! :P There are a few people on this forum who I feel are living a parallel life to mine!
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We ARE indeed living parallel lives, kiddo. :lol: :lol: :lol:
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"Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way we cope with it makes the difference." Virginia Satir

"The strongest of all warriors are these two - time and patience." Leo Tolstoy

"If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else" Booker T. Washington

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Posted 29 March 2012 - 11:59 AM

About once a month and we go to the same three places because we have had good luck there . . . PF Changs, Red Robin, and Five Guys. I let my daughter order for herself most of the time so that she gets experience talking to the wait staff.
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 12:08 PM

I eat out way more than I should - but at the same few places. Mostly the local taco shop for work lunches - :)
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 12:26 PM

What she said! :P There are a few people on this forum who I feel are living a parallel life to mine!

If you live in an area where there are many higher end restaurants and awareness, then you will do fine with it. I fully realize that not all parts of the country are like that. You really get to know whether a place will work or not but that takes time and practice. I tend to go to the same places where I know they will not make a mistake and they never have. My husband and I probably go out about once a month to every 6 weeks.

We do live parallel lives in ways, don't we? Nothing wrong with enjoying the best food possible and being able to do so safely at the same time. :P
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Posted 29 March 2012 - 12:27 PM

We ARE indeed living parallel lives, kiddo. :lol: :lol: :lol:

YUP! :D
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When our lives are squeezed by pressure and pain, what comes out is what is inside.

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Posted 29 March 2012 - 12:30 PM

EXACTLY :)

Thanks for your post, LOVE2--- it is almost exactly what I would have written and you saved me the time. :lol: I fear chain places, diners, etc. --gluten galore! :blink:

I am also VERY fortunate to have a TOTALLY dedicated gluten-free cafe/bakery run by "one of us" :) about 45 mins. away that I go to for lunch twice weekly after physical therapy. It's my reward and I socialize with/and have the opportunity to help other celiacs. Lucky me. :)

We NEED MORE of these safe havens.

Cheers, IH

Only too glad to help, IH! :lol: Sure, make me look like the food snob I am. :lol:

No cafe/bakery anywhere around except the Kinnikinnick one in Edmonton. Oooooh...I almost forgot. They have reformulated their bread. It is now SOFT! No need to wait for 22-minute toast. I tried it the other day and it's true. It did not fall apart, nor did it become crumbly with my heavily-laden sandwich fixings. Good to know for the times I don't make my own.
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<p>Confirmed celiac disease February 2011 from biopsies. Strictly gluten free March 18 2011.Diagnosed with fibromyalgia April 13 2011.3 herniated discs, myofascial pain syndrome, IT band syndrome, 2 rotator cuff injuries - from an accident Dec. 07 - resulting in chronic pain ever since. Degenerative disc disease.Osteoarthritis in back and hips.Chronic insomnia mostly due to chronic pain.Aspartame free May 2011.

When our lives are squeezed by pressure and pain, what comes out is what is inside.




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