Posted 13 April 2012 - 05:14 PM
Posted 13 April 2012 - 05:36 PM
If you have a choice, pick a reputable one that gluten-free well. If not, call them and see if they can accommodate you and take it from there.
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Posted 13 April 2012 - 06:01 PM
Posted 13 April 2012 - 06:31 PM
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Posted 13 April 2012 - 07:08 PM
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Posted 13 April 2012 - 08:07 PM
I realize that my opinion probably won't be popular because people here seem to think bringing food and hurting other's feelings is better because it's "safer" for the person with celiac. But, there are times where other's feelings do have to come first even if it's difficult for you.
Posted 14 April 2012 - 04:45 AM
But the thing is, as you understand well, I was FINE with bringing my own! So I went ahead and brought something which I figured I'd eat if the gluten-free option was suspect. Well, everyone had a chef salad, and there was a plate of raw veggies with some kind of dip in the middle. And a plate of fruit. Three kinds of salad dressing, none labeled with ingredients. My plate was plain lettuce. I was supposed to put the veggies on and make a salad I guess. Except that there were no ingredients on the dip or dressings, so of course I didn't trust them.
So I just pulled out my food that I'd brought.
I'm just finishing up a second unit of the course and I'm not even going to discuss it this time. Last time I did ask him "why does it concern you?" heehee... So I'll just say that this time, yet again.
Of course, this is a bit different from what you're describing. In your case I would call the restaurant and talk to them. If nothing else you could probably have a salad and a drink. If he asks why you're only eating that then just tell him (again). Explain that you cannot take the chance. Period. Personally I think it's rude of people to keep on INSISTING over and over and over and over that we do what they want, when we've said what works for us!
Sorry...my pet peeve.
Posted 14 April 2012 - 08:21 AM
Were it me, I'd call the restaurant and see if they can reassure you; how well they understand your needs will depend on you. It is very possible to arrange for something simple that will do the trick. I'm thinking you're young and you'll have to find your way in that area at some point. But if this is still not an option, I'd then tackle it head on, have a sincere heart-to-heart talk with the supervisor, telling him how much you appreciate the kind gesture but you are apprehensive about the situation. Your post says "he pretty much said" he'd feel uncomfortable if you brought your own food; that doesn't sound to me like he came out and stated this. I am thinking he may not have a clear understanding of what this could mean for you and you may be so worried about burning bridges, (and that is wise) that you are afraid to assert the situation. If you clearly explain to him (and I'd write down the points I'd want to cover) and he still insists you do it his way, you will realize his gesture is misplaced. But make sure you understand his feelings on the subject before you help him understand yours. I have a hunch that he sincerely wants to include you, and if that's the case, he certainly can understand whatever compromise you and he reach. In any event, if you are calm, sincere and mature about the whole thing, you won't burn a bridge, in fact you will show traits valuable in an employee.
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Posted 14 April 2012 - 08:52 AM
Posted 14 April 2012 - 08:53 AM
He offered to let you pick the restaurant. I'm not sure why you are turning this into a problem by not picking one.
I am finishing up my internship. My supervisor has been great during my internship. However, a problem has arose. He wants the interns to go out for dinner before we all leave. He wants to take us somewhere that I can eat because he knows about my celiac. I told him not to worry about it and that if I didn't feel like the place he picks would be able to feed me safely I would bring my own food. I don't think he quite understands the extent of the sensitivity. I don't eat out unless I absolutely have to (ie traveling). He pretty much said that he would feel uncomfortable if I brought my own food. I go out with friends to restaurants but I just get something to eat. I have to check out the restaurant he wants to go to, but I am worried if they can't provide something I can eat. I can just do what I do with my friends which is order something to eat, but that might be awkward. While I am leaving this internship I may end up working here and having him as my supervisor again in the future, so I can't burn this bridge. Any advice would be appreciated. thanks.
Posted 14 April 2012 - 10:54 AM
Anyway- back to your problem. You should do what some of the others suggest...call the place or go by and talk to them about it. My daughter has celiac and we eat out about once a week with no problem. I just recently attended a catered event with my daughter. I found out who was catering it and then called them. The man even read me the seasoning ingredients over the phone to make sure. You will face this a lot in the corporate world...and that's bad for a celiac. But you don't have to take your own food. You can safely eat out.
Posted 14 April 2012 - 10:59 AM
I would give my supervisor these choices, I go and not eat or I go and bring my own food or I do not go. His choice.
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Posted 14 April 2012 - 11:44 AM
There may be more choices for safe dining than you realize.
If you don't feel comfortable ordering anything, eat before you go and just get something like a drink or coffee or a dessert and push it around the plate.
I disagree that you should "feign illness" on that day, as it just further isolates you and that is no way to live.
If you still do not want to eat out anywhere, I think it is best to make sure your supervisor understands WHY you are so apprehensive, ESPECIALLY if you may be working with this guy after the internship. He may not realize why it is so important to you.
You need to assert yourself a little, hon, especially in the business world---no time like the present.
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Posted 14 April 2012 - 03:55 PM
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Posted 14 April 2012 - 04:16 PM
"Bob I made a list of restaurants I'm comfortable eating at. If you insist on a different one I will insist on bringing my own food, there really isn't another option for me. I know you aren't comfortable with that but I'm not comfortable watching everyone eat. There is no reason that me eating food that won't make me sick should make you uncomfortable and I really wish you'd just stop making a big deal out of it."
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