Hey, has anyone out there solved this problem ever? Here is me again. How does one cope? How can we husband and wife win? I just want to live in peace and without gluten.
Make your home gluten free. Serve everyone the same delicious wholesome foods that you eat. Tell "them take it or leave it"?
My husband went gluten-free with me (I did not ask) after he saw how easily cross-contamination can occur and how deathly ill celiac made me.
He chose to put my health first over everything else.
He learned how to read labels and he helped me replace what needed replacing in the house.
He does not feel deprived of anything, believe me; I feed him like a king.
The main thing is, he is no longer deprived of his wife! --because I am recovering and no longer dying --as he watched me, helplessly, dwindle down for years.
Until your spouses, family members (and friends, too) get it through their heads that gluten is poison and will kill you, I do not know how how supportive they will be. Have any of them READ anything about this disease so they understand it?
Can spouses live together--one gluten-free and the other not? SURE!!
Lots of members on here co-exist just fine with gluten eaters.
But it takes COOPERATION on the part of all family members--are they willing to learn how to keep the celiac safe? Do they keep their gluten foods separate? do they accept and understand that Mom (or Dad) need support and understanding--not mocking, ridicule or teasing?
Put your foot down. This is your own life you are saving. You have a potentially life-threatening disease and without these safety measures in place, you will not really get well. You will keep feeling lousy and putting up with the stress their non-cooperation and criticism causes you.
Without their cooperation, you guys will continue to butt heads with your family members--for the rest of your lives. Who needs that?
Just my two cents. Feel free to ignore.