Reception Dinner Etiquette
Posted 24 July 2012 - 04:24 PM
I have debated calling the bride and telling her not to order me a dinner because I'll bring my own food.
I have then felt she would likely try to accommodate me and I just don't trust wedding hall staff. There are too many variables and I wouldn't be talking with them myself.
So then I switch back to saying nothing and risking some odd moments at the reception.
And around it goes.
I find that not having a diagnosis yet but sure of the need for Gluten-Free eating is a bit awkward.
How have you handled situations like this? What seems appropriate? Also, I know about the need to eat gluten for testing, I wrote about my situation elsewhere so you don't need to cover. That here, lol, thanks if it occurred to mention it though!
Posted 24 July 2012 - 05:15 PM
Posted 24 July 2012 - 05:18 PM
I am gluten intolerant, and my blood test came back negative, but I'm still feeling sick after four months eating gluten free. If you know gluten makes you sick, then eating gluten free to get well is just as important whether or not you test positive.
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Posted 24 July 2012 - 05:33 PM
I say bring your own food to the wedding, and when the meal comes, a hungry guy will gladly eat it for you, in addition to his own meal .
Yup, this is exactly right! Haha I always bring my own and my guy friends count on it! Meaning they know they are going to get my dinner/cake everytime! Even at work when we celebrate birthdays two of my coworkers always try to see who is going to get "my" piece of cake haha works for me!
Posted 24 July 2012 - 07:14 PM
Posted 24 July 2012 - 08:15 PM
Posted 24 July 2012 - 09:41 PM
Posted 24 July 2012 - 09:43 PM
I did have one bride insist on ordering me a gluten free meal because she went thru the whole diagnosis learning curve with me -- but I still brought my own food -- just in case as I have had a some great experiences with caterers and some horrid ones - not worth the risk.
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Posted 24 July 2012 - 11:33 PM
Posted 25 July 2012 - 03:25 AM
I let the bride know in advance - saved them $300 by not having two additional plates served that were not needed.
I have the "MR. BENTO" food jar (amazon) and it is amazing. Compact and sleek, and it keeps food hot, hot, hot for hours.
Posted 25 July 2012 - 05:06 AM
Posted 25 July 2012 - 09:25 AM
I do bring back up food just in case something goes wrong. I have a pretty purse that's really a cooler in disguise. For men there are backpacks that are coolers.
My dad's funeral is Thursday and it's being held at the American Legion. That is one place I'm not comfortable with, so for that I'm bringing food for me and my celiac son. But otherwise, CALL them! They will be happy to take care of you.
Had GI symptoms, allergy symptoms and unexplained illness my whole life.
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Posted 25 July 2012 - 11:38 AM
gluten-free since June, 2011
Can't eat soy, corn, or foods high in salicylates.
Nightshades now seem to bother me too.
BUT I CAN STILL PLAY MY GUITAR AND THAT"S ALL THAT MATTERS!
Posted 25 July 2012 - 05:51 PM
This is an outdoor wedding with the reception at a legion hall a day's travel away. I simply will not call or trust them.
I also know for a fact that the plate cost is included in the hall rental fee. As in it is a set rate per guest. So they'll be paying x fee no matter what.
In this situation I am going to leave it at not calling but appreciate the added insights as they will help down the road.
As a formerly paid Chef, I will also ensure that I bring something other than a smelly sandwich to prevent turning other guest's stomachs and will do my best to keep my cupcake dessert more simple so as to avoid out-shining the wedding cake.
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