I Should Just Live Alone
Posted 03 January 2013 - 05:54 PM
They are mostly awesome about my diet, keeping my nephew on a gluten-free diet so that I can pick him up and help take care of him. But sometimes... they're not.
It's pretty difficult when I'm suffering from "lady pains," on top of finally quitting cigarettes, on top of being riotously sick for 21 hours straight after drinking alcohol on NYE and reacting to it, and THEN having my sister bring home fast food. <<VENT>>
So I am saving up money to move out with a friend whom I've known for 13 years and I think is a trustworthy kitchen-mate. I was pretty excited about this, until she suggests adding in a 3rd roommate. UGH! I am already worried about jeopardizing my friendship with this person I've known forever because I've seen how hard it is for my family to understand my "picky" disease. How could someone I've never met put up with me, and how can I trust them??
I know there are people with celiac disease who live with "WE" roommates, but I dont know how you bear it. I feel like I am constantly worried and constantly frustrating people. Do I need to just save up enough money to live alone?
5/11/12 Endoscopy confirmed scalloped Duodenum
Gluten Free since 5/11/12
Posted 03 January 2013 - 06:29 PM
Cheer up, the holidays are OVER, and the next round of avoiding people trying to give you gluten starts in Mid- February. There may be things that you can do at home to make a better workspace for yourself, for example, that is not as drastic as moving in with someone whom you discover after the fact, despite assurances, is a typical carb addict and a sort of crumb- spreader, or worse, they eat your stuff too, and don't replace it.
If you are not taking a gluten free vitamin B complex, calcium, magnesium, and D supplement, then you ought to start, because quitting smoking is stressful.
Posted 04 January 2013 - 03:32 AM
I was sooo happy when I was finally able to get my own apartment. It was super cheap because I was living above a dance studio. Yes, the music could get loud but I'm a former dancer so I was used to it. And they never raised my rent. So I managed to be able to save up some money and then eventually I got what I thought was a nicer/better apartment. Turns out it was not because it had serious plumbling problems and still does today. My mom knows someone that moved into that same apartment. And when she was describing the plumbing problems, my mom said, "Where is it?" Bingo!
What you might consider doing until you can earn and/or save up more money is renting a room somewhere. It certainly would be cheaper but it could have its own set of problems such as sharing a bathroom. Someone could be using gluteny cosmetics in the shower or tub and you might not know it. And you wouldn't have a kitchen. But you would most likely have a fridge and perhaps a microwave and they might even let you use a hot plate.
Posted 04 January 2013 - 06:33 AM
if the most financially sound option for you right now is to stay put at home (if there aren't issues other than gluten driving you out of the house. I know I can't spend more than a week with my parents without going batty) and save up until you can move out on your own.
I could save tons of money if I had a roommate, but a: I like my space at the best of times and b: I just don't want to have to worry about the kitchen situation. When I do decide to cohabitate with someone again, there will be some serious gluten-proofing required. I won't go as far as to force a friend or partner to go gluten free at home, but they would have to take all precations to make sure its safe for me.
That said, if you have a friend, or friends, who you trust and is willing to accomodate you, then that would be great. There are always going to be issues. That's unavoidable. But if you can agree that a happy house is one where you don't get sick, then it should work out.
Also, definitely give yourself some time to recover from the holidays first. I was fine until accidentally glutened at Christmas dinner, then horribly sick New Year's Eve, and just now getting back to normal. It's a crazy time. Think about it, consider your options, and make the decision that's right for you.
~ Be a light unto yourself. ~ - The Buddha
- Gluten-free since March 2009 (not officially diagnosed, but most likely Celiac). Symptoms have greatly improved or disappeared since.
- Soy intolerant. Dairy free (likely casein intolerant). Problems with eggs, quinoa, brown rice
- mild gastritis seen on endoscopy Oct 2012. Not sure if healed or not.
- Family members with Celiac: Mother, sister, aunt on mother's side, aunt and uncle on father's side, more being diagnosed every year.
Posted 06 January 2013 - 08:25 PM
I've been lactose intolerant since 1990 and discovered my gluten sensitivity in 2010. We also have a vegan housemate, so we've always cooked to the lowest common denominator: gluten-free and animal-product-free. This living situation isn't for everyone, but those whom we invite to join the community are fully aware and accepting of the dietary considerations. Some new housemates need more "training" than others. I have one housemate who would seem to be almost gluten and dairy dependent, but over the past year-and-a-half he's come to learn that you can make delicious food without wheat and milk. With a family history of type II diabetes, he's also discovered the unexpected value that comes from the deliberateness required to eat a gluten-free, vegan diet: less processed food and more whole foods. Today, I taught him how to make a roux with chickpea flour (but forgot to show him how you can use soy milk and margarine to make it dairy-free--he tried to make it with just soy milk instead of his preference of whole cream).
As I mentioned, intentional community is not for everyone, starting one is not easy, and finding one that you can adapt to living in can be difficult. But my main point is that what I've found over the past 15 years (and 20+ housemates) is that people are more flexible and open than you think. Be confident in what you need, let people know that your dietary needs are not a choice, but a necessity with serious consequences if you deviate. If living with and established friend seems too risky, seek out a safe resource for finding housemates (if you have a faith community or other social group to which you belong, that can be a good start). We usually don't tell people about the vegan/gluten-free thing until they come to the interview (usually over dinner). We do say we're vegetarian in our Craig's list posting and on the website, but people are more open to the gluten-free/vegan thing once they've had a delicious vegan/gluten-free dinner with interesting dinner hosts (at least we think we're interesting). If we meet someone who can't fathom eating anything but Mac-and-cheese steak-stuffed chicken with egg topping, we know it isn't a good match.
Be confident, let people know that your dietary needs are not a choice, but that they are not a restriction on enjoying a delicious, healthful and varied diet! Most people would probably benefit from eating a rich gluten-free diet only because it generally forces one to cook more from scratch using whole foods. Can't go wrong with that!
My IgA came back at low-normal levels, and I have not had gut biopsy for celiac because I was gluten-free for at least a month before I could get in to see a GI specialist. By then I wasn't about to eat gluten again just so I could have an invasive procedure that might tell me I shouldn't eat something I already know is making me sick.
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