I have been in the unfortunate position of being out of food due to my house burning
down. It will most certainly freak you the **** out to be suddenly without access to food,
however, the situation described by the OP sounds chronic rather than acute in nature.
Considering that the OP might have mental health issues due to gluten consumption is
most certainly valid, given what we know of the disease, and counseling the OP in that
light is also most certainly valid. Counseling the OP in the 'tough love' light is also entirely
appropriate, given the amount of time they have been in the situation and the number of
years they have had available to them to rectify it.
Those two viewpoints do not need to be mutually exclusive, and arguing amongst
ourselves over them is less than constructive. I'm sure it's possible for each camp to offer
their advice and personal experience to the OP without having to comment on the other