Hi there everyone,
I don't think I've posted on this section of the board before. My boyfriend invited me to go away on a Christmas Vacation with his family! I'm so, so looking forward to it but I'm a little nervous because I've only met them a few times (they live 4 hours away). They seem really great though, so it should be fun!
Here is my problem: I really, really don't want to get sick because my problems are pain and neurological… I get depressed, snappy, teary and kind of feel crazy. Once I heal this all goes away 100%. Not an awesome (almost first) impression. I also desperately don't want to inconvenience his family in any way or make them feel uncomfortable at all.
I don't see though, how I can have both. I wish it weren't so but I'm extraordinarily sensitive. I would probably have to have my own food prep area and I wouldn't be able to sit at the table with them if the meal is very gluten-heavy. I got very, very sick the first time I visited them, likely because I wasn't vocal enough about how sensitive I really am. I'm scared they will feel weird if I'm not eating with them but I want them to be able to eat whatever they want!
I tried explaining to his mom on my second visit that I wanted to find a way to not inconvience the family or make them feel uncomfortable. I was trying to say I could eat separately and maybe a few days my boyfriend and I could cook dinner for everyone and we could all eat together!
I think (hope) she misinterpreted me somewhat because she seemed tense and upset and (I forget the exact words) thought I was trying to make the whole family go gluten free :-(
I tried to explain I wasn't saying that at all… I really want everyone to have whatever food they want and enjoy. I tried to explain that, but I'm not sure she believed me. Hopefully that doesn't cause problems...
Any advice? What can/should I say that will be really clear and not make anyone feel bad?