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In Topic: Sad, Overwhelmed, Discouraged.....

31 January 2012 - 08:16 PM

Cravings? Well, if someone offered me a buttered slice of sourdough french right now, I might look at it a bit longingly, but I wouldn't feel like I was going to die because I couldn't have it. Like I said, think of all gluten as being rat poison, and you will pretty soon learn not to want it. I look at OP's shopping baskets at the checkout and I think, yuck, look what tht woman is eating and feeing her family :blink: It depends on how quickly you transition from the grieving phase to the experimental phase. But you have had such a lot of grief lately, it must be really hard. I lost my best friend to whom I confided everything about six years ago, and I still haven't found anyone to talk to the same way I talked to her :( So I feel your pain.

I am really not sure what foods fall outside your must-have organic category. I too attempt to avoid GMO at every opportunity, and so eliminating corn and soy helped that problem a lot. And of course wheat. I don't know if there are any organic processed gluten free foods - this will require more label reaing on your part, but then you are alrleady used to doing that :)

Let me know if there is anything else we can help you with. And feel free to come and talk to us any time.

Thanks, Mushroom! You've been a huge help already, as well as a comfort. Yes, I have been a very avid lable reader for many years. I also research everything thoroughly on the Internet and in books. There just seems so much to research all at once now, so it's extremely overwhelming. What do you use for hair products? Do you have to research every single ingredient to know if it has gluten or is there a list published somewhere to tell if ingredients in hair and skin products contain gluten? I haven't been able to find much on that yet. What do you use for a moisturizer? Do I need to be concerned with laundry and cleaning products too? Can hand soap contain gluten?

In Topic: Sad, Overwhelmed, Discouraged.....

31 January 2012 - 08:08 PM

Hello..and welcome!
It's all very overwhelming at first. Having to give up foods you've enjoyed is hard, and a lot of us go through a bit of a greiving process. Our bodies go through a withdrawl too, which adds to the depression of it all. If your vitamin/mineral levels are off they add into your mood too. Just be sure to check the ingredients carefully if you want to add supplements.

I remember the first few times I went to the grocery store I fought back tears thinking of all of the things I couldn't have. I felt a bit angry too.
My best advice to you is to make a list of what you CAN have, rather than focus on what you can't. Shop the outer perameter of the store and get veggies, fruits, and unproccessed meats. I tried new fruits/veggies I never had before as my "treats"

I'm gluten soy and dairy free so I know there are some things we have to give up. Soy is actually harder than gluten for me. It's a challenge.

Stir fry with any variety of veggies you choose is easy. Baked or grilled meats with veggies, potatoes, or rice are good. Use Olive oil on your veggies, or get the Earth Balance tub of butter replacement.(I get at Kroger's in the health food dairy case) It's soy and dairy free. Great on a baked potato.

I use So Delicious coconut milk. It comes in a carton and I get it at Kroger's in their health food dairy case. There's soy free/gluten free cereals too. Corn Chex are good, Gluten Free Rice Krispies are good too in the main stream cereal aisle. I smash the Rice Krispies in a mini food processor and use them as bread crumbs for meatloaf and meatballs, and for making Salmon patties from canned Salmon.

There are a lot of blogs that have recipes for various food intolerances. Google Gluten free/soy free/dairy free/egg free for recipes that replace some of the foods you used to eat.

Ground flax seeds can replace eggs in baked goods.

You're going through an adjustment phase and it seems so hopeless, but I promise you it will get better!

Bubba's mom, thank you so much for the encouragement and the hugs. SOOOO appreciated!!!! :) Thank you for the tips. Will do the Google search -- thank you!

In Topic: Sad, Overwhelmed, Discouraged.....

31 January 2012 - 07:56 PM

Thank you, Mushroom. I've never been a pancake person -- I've always loved french toast. I am excited to check out the websites. Thank you very much!

Oh -- I've tasted Daiya cheese -- :( I can have goat dairy in moderation -- it was a low intolerance (had close to 50 low intolerances, so don't have to give up any of them, otherwise my doctor said there would be nothing at all for me to eat). I was wondering today if I could maybe melt goat cheddar in a pan with some rice milk and use it to make mac and cheese with brown rice pasta. I have no idea how to make cheese sauce from scratch, but plan to check it out on the Internet this weekend. Then maybe I could have one comfort food.

In Topic: Sad, Overwhelmed, Discouraged.....

31 January 2012 - 07:41 PM

oh, that is too bad about the spices :( what an investment and what a waste!

Hey, don't be so hard on yourself for your coping mechanisms. It is a big adjustment and it takes time, so allow yourself to grieve, even wallow a bit in self-pity if it helps, because there are indeed things that are lost to you. Most of them you will learn to forget and substitute adequately for so that you don't miss them much, but you really can't replace phyllo pastry or croissants :( I hope, having lost your parents, that you have some kind of support system you can turn to, someone who will try to understand what you are going through. You sound a bit like my hub's cousin, who wailed "I'm too young to be an orphan!" :D and I knew what he meant.

And I agree, if you have been eating a diet of "healthy" foods and not indulging in junk/fast food, it seems like double punishment to be told you can't eat your healthy foods either.

So tell us what you can eat, and we might be able to help you with menu ideas. Look in the recipe section here on the forum, and do google searches for ingredients you can have and see what comes up. Google a particular dish you would like to make and figure out how you can sub for the verboten ingredients. I am a bit limited too (although I can have garlic :) ), but no lemon or tomato, and no wine (hubs getts sinus from it - he is celiac too) makes my saucing a bit limited. And no soy, but I have found Coconut Secrets at Whole Foods as a soy sauce substitute. If you check my sig. it is amazing what you can get by without and learn to substitute for. Just think of it as having gone back to culinary academy and learning to cook all over again, with new ingredients and a new outlook. You can do this --it won't happen overnight, and you will grieve along the way, but I know that you will get there. You already know how to eat healthy - now you have to learn how to eat healthy with limiations. :D You will come to learn I am a bit Pollyanna-ish :D

There are lots of new products to try - hemp milk and ice cream for example if you can't do any more all the things you mentioned. Rice Chex cereals are gluten free, and are good crumbled as toppings or crusts. Keep talking to us and we will help.

Thank you, Mushroom. Pollyanna is one of my favorite movies! :) I just showed it to the 5-yr-old I take care of last week.

Chex cereal is not an option for me because it is not organic. Don't want to risk any GMOs. I don't think that would facilitate healing for me. I like coconut ice cream as a once-in-a-while treat, but Whole Foods discontinued the one with the healthier ingredients, which made me very sad. Now it makes me even sadder. :(

I'm having trouble finding a healthy salad dressing. My doctor said the one I'm using has gluten. I haven't been able to find a good recipe that would taste good without garlic. My former doctor wanted me to only use olive oil and fresh-squeezed lemon juice, but I don't like it without garlic. My new doctor said I can use apple cider or balsamic vinegar. Have been looking for a good recipe but haven't found one yet. I would also enjoy some type of a tahini dressing recipe if I could find one that's healthy. Unfortunately overpowering food cravings over the past 10 and a half years have caused me to eat a lot of things I shouldn't have, and now that I understand what is going on with my health I want to try to eat as healthy as possible to heal as quickly and completely as possible. I also need to lose another 28 pounds. I gained a lot of weight with so many people dying on me. Eating has been healthy again this past year with the exception of last month and the first two weeks of this month when I crashed -- mine and my dad's birthday, the anniversary of his terminal cancer diagnosis, holidays with no family to call, and this month the anniversary of his death -- well, it was too much and the pizza, mac and cheese, cheese cake, chocolate pudding and dark chocolate bars at Trader Joe's all offered warm and cold creamy comfort. In the past week I already lost the 5 pounds I gained back -- happy for that! But I really need to eat as healthy as possible from now on, though at the moment it feels like it's killing me. Cocoa also came in as a moderate intolerance but my doctor said I could keep that for now as long as I stopped everything else, but I discovered this past week that that was one of the things making me feel so sick. Devastating! That was my second strongest addiction next to dairy. Hard to believe anyone can truly survive without chocolate, but I'm going to have to learn if I don't want to keep feeling like I have a stomach virus every day. Chocolate immediately calms me whenever I become too stressed. The new food limitations have removed all of my comfort foods. Grieving with no comfort foods, plus actually grieving the comfort foods, is extremely difficult. I feel like I'm falling apart. Right now I would love several slices of bread with melted butter! Hmmm.... I think I digressed from my original thought. Sorry! It's hard with no one to talk to. Normally I would tell all this to my best friend out in CA, but since she's dying in hospice right now that won't be happening anymore. I thought I was going to lose my mind watching the 3-yr-old eat his mac and cheese today. I finally had to turn away, but I could still smell it. How long did it take you to stop missing all the different foods? Or do you still miss them? How long until the cravings go away? They're tormenting! :(

In Topic: Sad, Overwhelmed, Discouraged.....

31 January 2012 - 06:43 PM

you are in good company here :) you are sooo completely normal when faced with the whole gluten-free lifestyle change! right down to the supermarket trip - did exactly the same thing, as have many on this board. keep in mind that you might be having withdrawal symptoms - feels like the flu, w/irritability, fatigue, i even had night sweats! - pay attention to the good side of things. i was amazed at how much better i felt! i am 48, too (49 in a week or so, or "pushin' 50!!" my husband is so annoying...) and when the fog finally lifted, i felt at least 10 years younger. i continue to improve and it has been 18 months now - last week i noticed my sense of smell has been returning. who knew gluten affected so much???

anyway, my suggestion for your trip is to bring whatever you can eat with you. it's a visit, right? just break it down by how many days you will be eating there and plan it that way. maybe they could lay off the restaurants for your visit this time. i always bring a loaf of gluten-free bread and something to put on it. if i need to, i can live on boars head turkey and udi's bread. when we got stuck at the airport (el paso), and then we got stuck at the airport (dallas/ft worth) i was ok with it. i even got a little worried about the meat getting too warm so i got a cup with ice in it (w/ a lid) and jammed it in there (in a ziplok baggie) my anxiety levels are getting back to normal, so there is less panic involved when plans change. i just roll with it - i keep a backpack loaded with stuff to eat that i can grab and go. i put gluten-free meal portions in the freezer in case anybody wants to go out to eat i just pop one into my backpack or nuke it to take with me.

the personal care stuff - i would replace your toothbrush, shampoo/conditioner/gel (etc) and lipgloss/lipstick. i don't worry about my makeup so much - i use physician's formula anyway because of so many skin issues. plus i like it :) but eye makeup i use anything because i take that off with baby oil so it never runs down my face.

you can do it! and you will feel better! this forum is a great place to be to ask questions. alot of times i am wondering about 'this' or 'that' and i get on this site to ask only to find my same exact question already asked and answers rolling in. these people are priceless! oh, and also if you need meal ideas, go to the cooking/baking forum. we have some awesome cooks :D

Notme, thank you for the tips and encuragement! I don't think I am going trough any type of withdrawl -- the symptoms you describe I have all the time. My hot flashses and night sweats aren't from gluten, just old-fashioned menopause. :)

Unfortunately I can't have Udis bread because it has egg. Haven't found much "grab and go" stuff I can have. I think the closest I've found so far is an apple. Not sure there is much I can bring with me on the trip in the way of food. Everything I eat is perishable. Hadn't thought about not being able to buy anything at the airport. :(

Thankfully I don't wear make-up or lipstick so I don't have to worry about that. I only use Badger lip balm, which I think is ok but haven't checked yet, and a moisturizer which has to go because it has almond oil in it. :( I haven't checked my shampoo and conditioner yet.

Thank you for letting me know about the cooking forum. I will look for it and check it out.

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