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kwylee

Member Since 01 Jun 2010
Offline Last Active Jan 31 2014 10:14 AM
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#787576 Supervisor Problem

Posted by kwylee on 14 April 2012 - 08:21 AM

As with all like dilemmas, the way you handle this is going to boil down to what makes YOU feel most comfortable. Like many kind gestures, they are really born out of the giver's own need to feel good about themselves and not primarily about how it makes the recipient feel. Keep that in mind before you decide how to handle this in a way that is true to yourself.

Were it me, I'd call the restaurant and see if they can reassure you; how well they understand your needs will depend on you. It is very possible to arrange for something simple that will do the trick. I'm thinking you're young and you'll have to find your way in that area at some point. But if this is still not an option, I'd then tackle it head on, have a sincere heart-to-heart talk with the supervisor, telling him how much you appreciate the kind gesture but you are apprehensive about the situation. Your post says "he pretty much said" he'd feel uncomfortable if you brought your own food; that doesn't sound to me like he came out and stated this. I am thinking he may not have a clear understanding of what this could mean for you and you may be so worried about burning bridges, (and that is wise) that you are afraid to assert the situation. If you clearly explain to him (and I'd write down the points I'd want to cover) and he still insists you do it his way, you will realize his gesture is misplaced. But make sure you understand his feelings on the subject before you help him understand yours. I have a hunch that he sincerely wants to include you, and if that's the case, he certainly can understand whatever compromise you and he reach. In any event, if you are calm, sincere and mature about the whole thing, you won't burn a bridge, in fact you will show traits valuable in an employee.
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#781935 Newly Diagnosed

Posted by kwylee on 20 March 2012 - 12:57 PM

First, if there is more celiac testing to be done, then you should not discontinue gluten until after all that is completed. I have a feeling that others will pipe up about that.

Secondly, I never had intestinal trouble either (although I would consider a daily bout with diarrhea to clearly be intestinal distress, as this is NOT normal). 98% of my gluten intolerance symptoms were neurological in nature, lethargy, brain fog, and that in time led to dizziness, etc., before I started trying to find answers. But even though I tested negative for celiac to blood work and biopsy, a few months later I did test with a exceedingly high antibody count through stool testing. I immediately gave up gluten (and quickly dairy and soy), and the symptoms that had plaqued me for years were eliminated.
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#777105 Sad, Worried, Sad, Sad, Sad, Worried, Etc.

Posted by kwylee on 28 February 2012 - 02:59 PM

First of all, this is the place to come when you're down and need to talk to people who understand. I think it's okay and normal to go through a short period of grief over what seems to be such a tremendous life change. But once you get the hang of it, those changes more than make up for feeling better. You asked how you were going to survive this? The answer is that you're going to survive BECAUSE you're doing this. I was NOT a cook prior to having to remove gluten/dairy/soy from my diet, but thankfully, mostly everything I can eat is super easy to prepare, meat, vegetables, salad, fruit. And I have dropped well over 40 pounds since June 2010 without ever feeling hungry - and believe me when I say, I was the American south's biggest chow hound!!!! At first, I would advise staying away from gluten free treats, as well as processed foods and preservatives, until you heal. I think you'll feel better faster, and you'll lose more weight that way.

My symptoms were all neurological, and those are gone entirely just by eating this way. This forum is a plethora of information on everything physical, emotional and culinary, so start reading and let everyone know how you're doing.
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#771859 Baffled By Little Caesars Pizza

Posted by kwylee on 08 February 2012 - 01:03 PM

I have tested negative for Celiac as well, but I did test positive on another showing that my body was producing antibodies to gluten, which means that for years prior to my antibody test, my body would be on the defensive anytime I ingested gluten in any amount. I had become lightheaded all day every day, but gluten intolerance manifests in many ways and the symptoms can vary drastically one person to the next. Gluten can create systematic inflammation internally and lead to many diseases and autoimmune conditions too numerous to list here, not the least of which is Celiac, MS, Lupus, RA, diseases of the skin and thyroid, cancer, and in my case, attack of the brain and nervous system.

That slice of gluten filled pizza is doing harm to your mother's body, and if you feel like you are sensitive, chances are you could wind up like me as well. I ate it for 55 years before I found out what was making me dizzy and scared. Luckily, I found out in time to take it out of my diet and recover. But if people who are poisoned by gluten continue to ingest it, the outcome will not be as happy. Please consider all of this, especially the next time you let your mom take just one piece, it's just not worth it.
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#768266 A Farewell... Beating My Symptoms

Posted by kwylee on 26 January 2012 - 07:25 AM

I totally understand what you are saying but certainly sorry to see you go. I think the board could benefit from a member and poster who is not Henny Penny, not assuming the sky to be falling with each off moment. Because there are so many people out there, intolerant to gluten, on this board and yet-to-be on this board, who could use a level head in times of crisis.

But if you are incapable or weary of sifting through the ideas presented because you run the risk of taking bad advice, then I agree you should depart in your own best interest. To my way of thinking, I let my own psyche decide what feels right for me, and in the same vein of taking responsibility for what happens to me, I agree with your decision.

All the best to you.
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#766532 No One Will Come Over To Eat At My House

Posted by kwylee on 20 January 2012 - 09:01 AM

OK, got it...the food is important - and it seems that you are really most upset that they won't come to you and you feel left out. But there must be things you can make that don't include olive oil or rice milk.

You seem to indicate that you and your Mom were very close at one point, with all the lunches. It also seems that you are really (understandably) sad about not having children and now it's Celiac again messing with your life and relationships, making you feel shut out. It makes sense that your Mom might even unconsciously gravitate toward where the grand kids are - not saying it's right (or even true) but just acknowledging the possibility, and you may be feeling that too. And that's got to hurt. But your Mom, or even your sister, may not realize how much this is hurting you on so many levels. Is is possible for a heart to heart with your Mom? She may not realize how much her little "ew" comments drive a wedge in your relationship.
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#765539 Scared To Take My Daughter To The Dentist

Posted by kwylee on 17 January 2012 - 08:35 AM

There is no reason for a dentist not to be able to easily address gluten or other allergies. I was nervous too the first time I went for a check up since finding out about my gluten intolerance, but the morning of my visit, every label was checked and they even thought to make sure they wore gloves that had no powder additives, just in case. As I recall, there was at least one change they made to accomodate me so it was a good thing they checked, but they were happy to do it.

I think your Mom's intuition is right to make you apprehensive of trusting such people with your daughter's health. I'd also let them know why I wasn't going back, but that's just me.
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#763748 Why Do I Now Get Sick From Gluten When I Didn't Before Going Gluten Free

Posted by kwylee on 10 January 2012 - 11:27 AM

Let me add I am 18 weeks pregnant...

I would have rather never stopped eating gluten then live a life of eating a little bite and now getting sick.

Shame on me for skimming over your original comments and missing the most tragic sentence. I'm glad you have started to follow the forum, because clearly you didn't realize what gluten is capable of doing. I can't say anything better and more directly than those comments above. I truly hope you read and reread those words, and please show the intelligence and mindset that your unborn baby (and probably the beautiful baby as your profile pic) is counting on.
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#763736 Why Do I Now Get Sick From Gluten When I Didn't Before Going Gluten Free

Posted by kwylee on 10 January 2012 - 11:12 AM

People who do not have Celiac/Gluten Intolerance can go on and off of gluten as many times as they like with no reaction. However, those of us with Celiac/Gluten Intolerance will have reactions ranging from mild to severe with some reactions so mild that they are imperceptible. However, damage is still being done to your intestines if you are Celiac. If you were very good at avoiding gluten for those 9 months then the antibodies produced by your body may have calmed down. Then you ate the bites of cookie. Your body recognized the enemy but it had sent all the soldiers home...the antibodies may not have been there anymore. Then you ate the bread. Your body said WTF?? Gluten is back? Let's call in the troops and mount for a huge attack on the enemy. So the antibodies built up in ready for another gluten invasion. Then you ate the pizza and the war was on. Nausea and vomiting and feeling awful and damaging your intestines. You can't feel the antibodies your body produces. Celiac is an autoimmune disease. Likely you would not have been able to go on eating gluten with only mild symptoms for the rest of your life. If you had not stopped eating gluten, there would have been other symptoms like thyroid disease, miscarriages, depression, anxiety, muscle weakness, headaches. The list is over 300 symptoms so your body could have presented you with a lot more problems if you had not stopped gluten. This is not a preference thing. If you are pregnant you really need to be very careful. Many of us have had miscarriages before we were diagnosed with Celiac. It is very common among women with Celiac. find some gluten free alternatives for you pizza and cookies. For some of us the reactions intensify over time. The body is so relieved to be rid of gluten that it reacts strongly when even traces of gluten or cross contamination happen. Sometimes reactions appear to go away. That is why they used to say that children outgrew Celiac. Then they learned these people developed secondary autoimmune diseases and suffered from vitamin deficiency diseases and maybe developed lymphoma from untreated Celiac. We now know you cannot outgrow it. And you cannot prevent the damage from gluten if you are Celiac. And the only treatment is being strictly gluten free.

This is a great explanation to a question I get asked alot. Thanks! I'm going to be quoting you on this!
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#759507 Family Sometimes Makes Me Feel Bad...

Posted by kwylee on 24 December 2011 - 09:33 AM

That was incredibly insensitive of him to say and I'm not someone who is overly affected by the thoughtless comments of others. I also understand why you were made to feel these things. But I'm not telling you this to commiserate, I'm wondering if this isn't a good time for you yourself to try preparing some special things just for YOU to eat. I'm no cook, but there are many on this forum who are, and I'll bet you can make sauce easy from scratch that may just be the envy of all who are eating the packaged stuff, which probably contains fake ingredients that aren't good for anyone. That would be a pretty satisfying moment.
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#748056 What Are You Cooking For Thanksgiving?

Posted by kwylee on 16 November 2011 - 09:31 AM

You are all making me hungry!!!! In addition to gluten, I can't have a trace of dairy or soy but luckily, Thanksgiving fare is so easy to keep free of all of those.

1. Turkey and homemade glace from stock and drippings
2. Fresh sweet potatoes with bourbon pecan glaze
3. Fresh cranberry sauce made with apples and honey
4. Special Jambalaya traditional in my southern family
5. Steamed assorted vegetables tossed with olive oil and minced garlic, mixed with mushrooms sauteed in vermouth

Not kidding, my stomach is growling right now.

6. Copious amounts of wine
7. Dessert will be black bean brownies, topped with So Delicious coconut vanilla bean ice cream and Bakery on Main granola

My husband is a diligent allergan free cook, (he's not intolerant to anything that I am but mostly eats what I eat by choice) and he'll be helping to prepare all of this. Twelve people will eat this menu and no one will miss a thing!
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#745336 Very Angry W/ Husband

Posted by kwylee on 07 November 2011 - 04:56 AM

He's usually so considerate and has always been my biggest cheerleader in this, but right now I'm just so pissed. I left the house for a few hours before he went to get his pizza and we haven't spoken a word to each other in the hour now that I've been back.

OK, I'm going to go against the "grain" - pardon the offensive term...I don't want you to forget that your husband is usually so considerate and has always been your biggest cheerleader in this. I know narratives sometimes lose their details, so there may have been good reason and back story for you to feel anger because he was hungry and wanted to eat the chicken breast even though you had different plans for when he should eat it. And yes, he certainly did know which button to push with the pizza to make you feel badly. My husband is also very understanding but he has bad days. Could it be that your husband just needed to vent?
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#743611 Karma Is A .....

Posted by kwylee on 01 November 2011 - 10:08 AM

It's 8:21 and hrs in bed. All the years I was in bed this early and he complained that I was "ignoring" him. Sounds like pay back?

Being truly cruel would be believing that someone was suffering and choosing to taunt them anyway.

Being truly ignorant (or in denial) means they really don't believe, and therefore they don't understand. It sounds like your husband is the latter.

I know it doesn't make it much easier to bear seemingly cruel comments from him for all those years, but it would be a shame for you to endure even worse Karma because you yourself were truly cruel.
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#742592 Ugh! People Just. Don't. Get. It.

Posted by kwylee on 28 October 2011 - 12:13 PM

I hate this diet.

I read your post and guessing "I hate this diet" is what's really going on here. I know you don't want me to trash your friend because you acknowledged yourself that she was only trying to be supportive as a result of your complaint. Truth is, you know the score. You know what celiac/gluten intolerant is and what it is not.

It's absolutely not fair that you have to watch what you eat or else you'll get sick. I totally get it. But messing up your stomach acid balance over innocuous comments of those who do not get it (and maybe never will), only hurts you in the long run. I think you're entitled to an occasional pity party, just hope you know when to turn the page and move on. Maybe you could educate your friend. She might really only want to help.

Sorry if this wasn't what you wanted to hear. You have a nice face and smile, you seem like a good person. There's so much more to life than wheat bread and pasta.
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#738467 The Day After I Graduate Culinary School I Have To Go Gluten Free :(

Posted by kwylee on 13 October 2011 - 02:04 PM

That's the first thing I thought of too! Turn this to your advantage! Who knows, you may wind up being the next Food Network star of allergy free cooking!! Put some videos on YouTube! Or perhaps you could be a personal chef to someone who is wealthy and gluten intolerant. Gluten free requests are on the rise. Perhaps a restaurant would need a dedicated gluten free chef and that way you only have to taste what you have control of.

I don't mean to minimize what you're feeling and I think you need time to feel it. But please don't let this control the rest of your life.
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