Personally, now that I am a tad educated, think he's got it too, if not worse than I. But he would never change his diet or even admit that he does. Our marriage is tenuous as it is. This may be the breaking point. In retrospect and in educating myself, I believe that our marriage is this way because of his probable celiac. His personality completely changed, he's angry, paranoid, explosive, emotionally abusive and sometimes on the verge of physical.
I too believed in my vows when I said them, but the hell we have had to endure has just been that, hell! He doesn't see his behavior as bad as it is. and that's a problem too. I am hoping against all hope that maybe I can convince him, if I can switch the whole family over to gluten-free and he improves and I get the man I married back. Maybe that would convince him, and it probably won't happen until he slips off the gluten-free wagon and turns into a monster again. Then maybe he can see himself as others see his rage and stay gluten-free then maybe he can get off all those psych meds that only trim the edges of angry-ness. and we can all be normal? Has anyone else experienced this or am I just dreaming and he's just an @#$#@%$#!
If this works for his behavior not to mention his bowels and he doesn't see it, we are out of here! If he knows the solution and won't accept it or do what it takes then how much does he love us to begin with. Right? Plus, I am not going to be emotionally tortured when there is a fix for it! That will be an 'enough is enough' moment. Don't you think?
I hope everything works out well for you and you find peace. Sorry to rant on, just thought you'd like to hear another story to tell you: you are not alone!