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I do think you need the Dr to read these results again.  It looks like pretty much all of them fall out (or almost) out of the normal ranges.  You need to go back with test in hand to ask again.  What any of it means is beyond me but the practice of getting copies of your tests is a smart one.

I have my own ice cream maker and the biggest problem is it tastes so awesome I eat way, way too much.  My family has no idea how much it actually makes.

I always tell the truth.  "I can't eat that....because I have Celiacs Disease.  When I eat gluten my body starts to attack itself."  

And to answer "Can't you just have a little or can't you eat around the crust/scrape it off?"  I answer that any gluten I eat is doing damage and 10 years from now if I get cancer from this I'll wonder "Was it because I had that doughnut or because I didn't take it serious enough?  I'd rather try my best to be as healthy as possible and not have to worry about complications as I get older."

I find if you present a strong front although they may not understand and poke fun behind your back, they won't challenge you to your face.

I never have to eat another piece of store bought birthday cake with the inch of gag me icing again just to be polite.

And at potlucks etc.  I don't have  to wait to eat because I've brought my own food I can eat when I am ready.

A fist bump followed by the dusting of imaginary crumbs.

I never cheat.  When you cheat you are only hurting yourself.  

I assume that she has received good medical advice and that she fully understands that she can not ever eat gluten or it will hurt her now and/or later.  My Doctors have not said that and thankfully I have found good council elsewhere.

You should ask the question "Do you want to spend your life with someone who is intentionally hurting herself?"  She is an adult and you can not save her from herself.  She has to want to look after her own needs (not eating gluten ever)

Someone who will not make sacrifices for her own health may have problems making sacrifices for you or your future children.

I don't think you can make her look after herself and it is not your job to nag her.  She will only resent you and see your nagging as trying to control her.

I just let them know when we are talking about when and where I usually say something like..

"I am so looking forward to getting to together.  Something you should know is,  I can't have gluten which is in a huge number of things and they like to hide it in places.  How about I make it simple and just bring food for myself.  I know it has been hard for me to think of what to cook when I was new at all of this so I don't want you to have to worry about it

or if it is a really good friend who really wants to know what to make and wants to include me  might help her plan the menu.  Like

"Well,  we could just have roast chicken, and potatoes and veggies.  Just make sure you season the chicken with herbs and salt and pepper and don't make the gravy 'til I get there and we'll use cornstarch.  I know it is a lot but it makes a huge difference to me.  Thank you so much for including me!"

And then I would still bring my own food and leave it in the car just in case.

I am sorry that people are so rude to you.  What do you think about making an appt. with your youth pastor and asking him why he allows people to bully you?  The behaviours you are describing are not okay for any reason.  He needs to come up with a plan to stop them.  He is responsible for creating a safe environment.  If you get no where with him go to the senior pastor or other elders.  You need some help in getting this under control.

Celiac is not that big a deal.  We can't eat some foods (unfortunately the yummy ones) and need to be careful but it really only affects the celiac not anyone else.  So it isn't really any of their business.

Money talks.  Cancel the booking and have the party elsewhere.  If they are unable to meet your needs they don't deserve your business.

When you RSVP you could write a quick note asking if it  is not too much bother could they provide a gluten free meal but to also say if it is a problem you'd be happy to bring your own and just to let you know so you could be prepared.

I guess you have to decide if this is what you want to sign-up for a lifetime of.  

If he doesn't want to take care of himself, can you depend on him to take care of you?  It is not your job to rescue him.  There are many things in life that are hard to deal with.  As annoying as celiacs is, it is a very simple medical diagnosis.  Don't eat gluten and you will be better.  How many other things do you cure as simply as that.  No side effects, no surgery.  
Life will throw you twists and turns.  If he can't step up and look after himself because it is hard, how is he going to sacrifice his wants to support you and the family you may have?  

You have gone above and beyond by being supportive of him and trying to make this a way of life for you as well as him.  I don't think there is anything more you can do.  Only he can change his behavior. You might have to consider he might not.

I think staying gluten free while pregnant is the safest way to go.  If you are celiac then you are giving your body and baby the best of what it needs.  If you are not celiac you are still giving the baby a healthy diet.  On the other hand if you eat gluten and you are celiac then you and your baby are not getting what you need.

Your testing may still show positive.  But if it is negative then you may still be positive.

Try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy.  It is the most amazing time.  Giving life to and feeling that sweet baby moving around is the best.

Thou shalt have snack in your pocket.  Justeth in case.

Thou shalt remember you are eating out to enjoy the company not the salad.

Congrats, and Prayers.

How Rude!

I guess the first time this happens you are surprised.  But the second time you can have a plan.  

It is like when you are pregnant and people you don't know come and rub your belly.  I just started smacking their hand away.  They have no right to touch you even if you have a big baby belly.

They have no right to be in your food.  I wouldn't worry about being rude.  After you tell them "it is yours now as I don't want to chance being sick"  I'd add.  "Don't worry you can give me the $10 to cover the cost tomorrow, and it is too bad I don't have anything to eat now.  I guess I'll just have to be hungry."