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lovesaceliac

Member Since 02 Jul 2011
Offline Last Active Dec 05 2011 05:10 PM
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In Topic: Dating A Celiac

20 November 2011 - 04:08 PM

April in KCs response was so good. I think that's one of the trickiest situations, well-meaning friends who are going out of their way to "help" but not being informed enough to avoid cross contamination or gluten containing ingredients, and then the gluten-intolerant person looking ungrateful when he/she can't eat what was offered.

I think it would also be good to find out from her what her reactions to gluten are like and to be aware that for many celiacs, there are emotional responses when they get glutened: depression, anger, anxiety. Knowing upfront about some of those reactions will help both of you deal with them better when they come.

In Topic: The Most Annoying Thing About Celiac Is...

20 November 2011 - 03:53 PM

Please give some advice Meatballman to me, the gluten-eating wife of a super-sensitive celiac...I find myself on occasion apologizing to him when I eat gluten in front of him. I can't help it! I know he wishes he could share...what's more annoying - me turning down his suggestion that I have that cinnamon roll (becuase he feels guilty if I don't eat what I can) or me eating it in front of him (then I feel guitly while I do.)

In Topic: Sometimes It's Hard ...

17 November 2011 - 10:02 PM

I am the wife of a super sensitive celiac and we experience the same thing. One of my husband's reactions to gluten is depression and anger. He'll say, "I'm just so angry!" and unfortunately as the one closest to him it often gets directed at me. I adore this man. He is the best friend, husband, and father, but when he gets glutened he turns into an awful person (temporarily.) I'm so thankful that we can at least understand that this is a reaction and that we have enough experience to know that it will pass. That makes it easier, but by no means easy. I just have to "turn off" my emotions and give myself a constant dialogue of "this is the reaction speaking, this is not him, etc. etc." I sometimes call a friend who is familiar with our situation to have a good cry. I'm proud of your husband for going out and getting away from you to go through it. I try to remind myself that I love a package and his difficulties when glutened are part of the package.

I know what you mean about feeling or being seen as "weak." We're not supposed to put up with verbal abuse, right? That's hard - because there are truely abusive situations - but, I don't know - it seems like the abuse I get when he's working through a reaction isn't him and fighting it only makes it worse. I kind of treat him like a child throwing a tantrum - I don't respond emotionally, I do my best to do/say what I know is right, and I try to keep my voice calm and low. Whenever possible, I send him to bed to "sleep it off."

In Topic: Immediate Reaction?

17 November 2011 - 09:25 PM

My husband can usually tell within minutes of eating the offending food (always cross contamination only, he never intentionally eats gluten and we are very careful.) His first symptom is "brain fog" which goes away after a while. His worst symptoms appear the next day: severe joint pain, extreme fatigue (usally spends an entire day asleep in bed), followed by crushing depression/anger. Not real fun to live through or live with.

In Topic: The Most Annoying Thing About Celiac Is...

17 November 2011 - 09:19 PM

That we can't even trust the "gluten free" options at most restaurants. Well meaning friends say, "such and such a place has gluten free pizza now!" Not a chance my super-sensitive celiac husband could eat it safely. Stupid cross-contamination.