My only brother is getting married next week. I really don't want to go because it's the first time I'll have to travel with celiac disease, but also because I dislike every one that will be attending the wedding (and they all dislike each other, it's a jerry springer episode in the making). I'm very lucky I wasn't roped into being a part of the wedding party, and get to be a regular guest.
My survival plan is to drive 3 hours to the hotel, check in, hide in my room with my electric stove and cooler of food, and not leave until the ceremony begins. Then, after the ceremony and somewhere in the middle of the reception, I'll sneak back to my room and hide, eat dinner, and pass out, before leaving early the next morning to get the heck out of there. The fewer people I have to socialize with the better.
Unfortunately my dad found out I'm arriving early, and is demanding I attend the rehearsal dinner. I said no. Then he said I don't have to go to the rehearsal, just the dinner. I said, no thanks, I'd rather attend the rehearsal but not the dinner. So he got mad and stopped talking to me. My brother asked me to go, and I again said no. At first I thought they were just trying to be nice and make me feel including by asking and giving me a chance to decline, but now I realize they're just being inconsiderate of my disease. If the dinner was somewhere in or near the hotel, I might have said yes, but they're going to a mexican restaurant a clear hour away on the other side of town! It's ridiculous to think I would be ok with that! So I ended up just lying flat out and telling them I won't be arriving until late, like 11pm, and unfortunately won't be there in time.
I shouldn't have to lie to get out of a family function with unsupportive family members who think their social needs are more important than my health.