this is such a great thread and so what I needed to see right now. I have now been gluten, dairy and soy free for one year. I have gone through lots of learning over the past year, and now have settled into my reality. like what has already been said, I miss the days of spontaneous living, just heading out the door for the day, planning a weekend, etc. I now don't eat anything if I didn't make it. I have gone through too much being sick this past year, and part of my learning curve is that I am super super sensitive. adding the dairy and soy to the mix, well, eating out or grabbing a quick bite somewhere is just not something I do anymore. I sometimes get angry, really missing my old life, but I have adapted. like you have said, I have things I can grab quick and have on hand to be out. I keep food in my car, you never know when your plans will change.
I no longer stay home declining social settings, I go to restaurants and bring my food. I don't ask, I don't talk to the waiter about it. when others order, I just order a drink, I mention nothing, then whip out my food when others are served. no one anywhere has ever said a word. this is my reality.
I feel wonderful, my body has just adjusted itself to a healthy weight, so all in all I am happy. every now and then a little pity party rears it's head, and just remind myself that there are many who would trade medical conditions with me.