I also do the cooking for my husband and I, I am Celiac, he is not. I use my pots and pans for my stuff, his pots and his utensils for his . When I cook I make sure the utensils do not ever touch and there is no cross contamination.I use seperate spoon rests. I have my colander and he has his. I am not a fan of bread anyway so I don't care about the toaster. When it comes to dishes I wash the dishes. I was my dishes 1st. separately , I will then wash his. I let the water run and make sure mine are washed with my gluten-free scrubber and rag. I also separate our laundry Cross contamination can be a very big issue. I never lay food on the counter. I always put it on a plate or platter. I have separate platters one for gluten one for non gluten.
I do the same sort of thing but I put my dishes through the dish washer with the rest of them
my laundry is usually washed on it's own when I've finished work for the week but I didn't think
about cross contamination in the washing machine.....