Just because a restaurant has no gluten free menu, does not mean they cannot accommodate you. Many can and will do just that. I don't know where you all live but my experience has been the total opposite, especially with high end restaurants.....and they manage to get it right all of the time. The only places I have had less than stellar experiences with are those with a chef who has no formal culinary training and waitstaff who have no nutrition or food knowledge. They are used to serving people who will eat anything, without giving a thought to ingredients....which is a large percentage of the population. I am not excusing the behavior outlined here but restaurants are not obligated to offer us anything so I am usually very appreciative when they do and get it right.
This is also a reminder that the more you eat out, the bigger the chance you will sustain repeated gluten hits. Whether you like it or not, Celiac's have to limit their eating out experiences or suffer the consequences. Even on vacation, I limit my restaurant visits more than most people do and save it for the places I know will do it right. I don't ever go to chains or fast food places, either. You just cannot blame people for their lack of food knowledge....apparently, this is not taught in school anymore. Just like the people who cannot make change at the register, they know a whole lot of nothing.
I agree with this! We have found some reliable restaurants near home, some with gluten free menus and some without (but thoughtful and careful, know what gluten is). Away from home, its a complete unknown. Getting to the point of knowing the trusted places near home took a lot of glutenings (at places we won't eat at anymore) to find the good ones. It took time. Out and about, reviews can help some, but I am not usually in a position that being glutened would work out so well (does it ever?) in the travel so now try to avoid it as I can. In the end, near home or away, restaurant visits are now much more limited, always more risky than homemade.