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tarnalberry

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#846785 Grinding Sesame Seeds/tahini

Posted by tarnalberry on 04 January 2013 - 03:40 PM

Totally don't have to get into a car to work on relaxation. You just start by breathing. Two exercises you could do:

1) Count your breath. Sit or lie, comfortably, and count every inhale/exhale set. When you get to 10, start over at 1. If you lose your place, start over at 1. If you suddenly realized you stopped counting and were thinking about what you were going to eat next, start over at 1. Do this for 5 minutes at first, and work your way, a few minutes more at a time, up to 20 or 30.

2) Count the length of your breath. Sit or lie, comfortably. As you inhale, count (maybe every second, but the exact timing isn't important), and do the same as you exhale. So, many people may start with a 3-count (3-second) inhale and a 3-count (3-second) exhale. Watch that pattern for a while, and then start to lengthen the exhale, one count at a time, taking a few minutes every time you add one count to your exhale to repeat that pattern. Repeat up to three times (or whatever gets you to an exhale that is twice as long as an inhale). Any time that you feel short of breath or anxious from the breathing practice, stop counting, breath normally, and try again after a few minutes.

(The point of these is to keep a long breath and a long exhale, to reduce the activation of the sympathetic nervous system (flight-or-fight stress hormones) and increase the activation of the parasympathetic nervous system (the relaxation hormones).)
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#846711 My 16 Month Old Daughter Got A Borderline Positive

Posted by tarnalberry on 04 January 2013 - 12:44 PM

Absolutely - if she got a positive after being gluten free for so long, I wouldn't want to know what her scores were before that. New doc is DEFINITELY in order, as your current one, AGAINST TEST RESULTS, is telling you to make her sick.
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#846060 Amande Yogurt Is Not Dairy Or Soy Free

Posted by tarnalberry on 01 January 2013 - 07:03 PM

You know, I made gluten free stuff in my kitchen all the time, because I have to eat gluten free. Most all of our meals are gluten free, most every ingredient in the house is gluten free, and most all of our kitchenware is dedicated to gluten-free ingredients only. But my husband gets to have his granola bars stored in his kitchen cupboard, and a small corner away from everything else where he can put hamburger buns or bread.

I have no qualms saying that the food I offer to friends and family is gluten free. I don't even add on. "Oh, yes, these are totally gluten free. But my husband stores granola bars in our kitchen."

But it's made in a shared facility. Just like the yogurt is. Just like many, many, many foods are. And like most households are.

It's not fair to say that just because it's made in a shared facility it has something in it.

I believe you that you can't tolerate their yogurt - whether it's from the almonds, the fruit juice, rice bran, locust bean gum, pectin, tapioca, or anything else in there. Or that there is cross contamination. (I happen to have a container of the blueberry amande yogurt in my fridge.) But that doesn't prove there is dairy in it. (That said, this board IS a great place to post the "I reacted to this. Be careful; there may be cross contamination." It's just not fair to say "This must contain this in it, because I felt bad after eating it.")
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#843863 Gluten Free Diet Or Gluten Free Lifestyle?

Posted by tarnalberry on 18 December 2012 - 03:08 PM

As the primary definition (not colloquial use) of diet is "food habitually consumed", I say diet. The same way, when I talk about my dog's (or, in the past, my bird's) diet, I'm not referring to a weight loss approach. Same way, when I tell my toddler, "a cow's diet consists primarily of hay" and I'm not referring to putting a cow on a diet. 'Cause I like using terms properly and all. :P
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#843862 Daughter Recently Diagnosed, Questioning Diagnosis

Posted by tarnalberry on 18 December 2012 - 03:03 PM

Is she still playing with playdoh? Is she in daycare, in a playgroup, with a nanny, or watched with other kids who eat gluten foods? Did you remove all gluten from your house or find another way for her to not get ahold of any gluten foods that anyone else in your house eats? Did you remove all sources of contamination from her foods (no shared toasters, cutting boards, strainers for things like pasta, etc.)? Are you still nursing and eating gluten yourself?

I'd look for sources of contamination first. as false positives are not common at all.

But, as a mother of a 2.5yr old, eh... a lot of what you are describing is 100% normal. Or is a product of a tired child who didn't sleep well. Or teething (two year molars can come before two years). Or a cold/virus as is SO common this time of year. Or a growth spurt/developmental milestone (which still affect behavior, but are harder to pinpoint as they get older as they might just be things like understanding time concepts or grammar concepts).
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#843214 Am I Unreasonable?

Posted by tarnalberry on 15 December 2012 - 12:45 PM

It's your choice. A pain, maybe, but your choice. I do think, however, that means you have to figure out how to pack/travel so that you can have enough food, even if they choose to eat out too. For starters, I would suggest a roof rack!
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#840097 I Think I Did A Foolish Thing, And Now I'm Having Trouble

Posted by tarnalberry on 29 November 2012 - 09:46 PM

I would like to point out that you have TWO very positive tests right here. You feel better without gluten. You feel worse with it.
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#838440 Not Sure I Can Do Much More Of This...:(

Posted by tarnalberry on 22 November 2012 - 03:32 PM

As if I don't struggle enough with adjusting to this lifestyle and trying to figure this out (2 weeks out), today was a disaster for me. I, honestly, am ready to give this up because it causes too much grief for others, as well.


Honestly, YOUR DIET isn't giving grief to others. Their inability to accept, respect, and move on is what is giving them grief. That's their own choice, their own problem. Your health is yours.

But you at at the very beginning of a very big learning curve, if you've not already been fairly used to cooking from scratch. Anything this big takes time to learn. And I don't mean a day or a week or even a month, but a year or more. You are UNLEARNING 40 years of a culture of food and relearning a new one all at the same time. That is a challenge, even if you don't already have a busy life on top of it. It's a really hard challenge if you have people who are trying to serve as roadblocks, or knock you back the other direction.

We always go to mom's on Thanksgiving and she is very "Type A" about life, in general, and doesn't really pay attention to details and doesn't always remember things I say, etc because her mind is always running a mile a minute.

With trying to be tactful, a few days ago, I asked about the ham and turkey she was planning on having. They are gluten-free. She said potatoes and vegtables, as well...and those gluten-free. I would bring my own gluten-free bread and desert (and choke it down since I don't care for it, as it is...)so i thought we were great.

The only thing gluten free was the ham. The potatoes were some special potatoes that were full of gluten.


I'm sorry that you had to learn so very early in this process that "she said those are gluten free" doesn't mean anything. Especially for someone who doesn't know every little ingredient in their food and CARE about every little ingredient in their food. But it's true, you really have to read every label, and read it for yourself. Not to mention be CONFIDENT that the person doing the cooking can avoid cross-contamination issues.

And sometimes, that means your mom can't cook for you any more.

This is where things get tricky in close relationships, of course. Because someone thinks, "you don't love me if you won't let me cook for you", which is, of course, stupid. But it's ingrained in the culture for many, many of us. And so you have to tackle it head on, not try to be passive, or passive-agressive, about it. Saying "I know you love cooking for us. And your food is really great. But I'm not feeling ready to take any sort of risks of contamination. Whether that's paranoid or not, that's my choice right now."

So as I am trying to hold back tears and find alternatives, my step-father procedes to swear at me as if I am just being "picky" and on some "fad" diet.

I was in awe. I was very upset. Needless to say, even when he "apologized" it was in a loud, insincere way, and I'm probably more hurt than I've ever been in my life. It upset my kids and made my husband frustrated......


Mean people are mean. It sucks when it's family members, but mean people are everywhere, so they're bound to show up in our families too, right?

Remember that right now, as tired and fed up with this diet and its restrictions and its changes and complications, you're going to be more sensitive to criticism in that area. That's fair! But, like any sort of criticism, you have to figure out if you're going to let it slide, face it head on, or leave the situation. Those ARE all options, though some are less desirable that others depending on the situation. At the end of it, though, try to remember that you are not "just being picky", and sometimes people are wrong about things.

And I just can't do much more of this. I still haven't found any gluten-free foods that I actually like but also am not sure how I can live solely on basic meat and vegtables ((I'm insulin resistance so I really have to watch the fruits and, honestly, the carbs, anyway)).

I am unsure how to balance both conditions without starving...


Here's where you lost me. You are insulin resistant, so it's hard to live without bread and cookies? Ok, I'm being slightly glib, but if you already have to watch the carbs, then that just makes the prospects of eliminating a major source of them (wheat) all the more important. These are two highly compatible diets! And you can make SOOO much with "basic meat and vegetables", especially if you add in eggs and nuts and seeds and legumes and low-glycemic fruits. I mean, really, you can make A LOT of foods. I would say the bulk of non-bread foods that people eat are made with these items. ;)

For instance, I'm making dinner for 20 for a day-after-thanksgiving dinner tomorrow night. We're having pumpkin soup, green salad with oranges and pomegranate seeds, turkey and gravy, mushroom risotto, apple-cranberry sauce, sauteed garlic green beans, roasted beets and greens, mashed potatoes, baked pears, and apple pie. All of it is easily made gluten free (except the pie crust, which is the only thing that really needs subs). Last weekend we had a dinner party for my birthday and made sushi for 15. I often cook for friends and we've had chicken salads, lentil soup, marinated kebabs, grilled salmon with grilled veggies and sweet potato fries, stir-fry, beef stew, and a bunch of other things I don't remember. But it's all gluten free, and dairy free. With few exceptions ('cause no cook is going to be perfect), everybody loves my food.

I've got a thread in the recipes section with 85 recipes in it - most of them pretty easy to make, most of them taking half an hour or less from start to finish, and all of them gluten free and most dairy free. I tend towards reactive hypoglycemia, so most of them try to be moderate about fat/protein/carb ratios. http://www.celiac.co...-a-few-recipes/ Most of these are actually "I'm hungry; what can I cobble together with stuff out of the fridge".

So while I am sitting here, foodless, I am watching everyone else eat pies and ice cream cakes, I'm wondering if this is really worth it. To just avoid a potential "higher risk" of lymphoma and the like? I still sleep numerous hours and a chef I spoke with yesterday told me it took him 6 years to heal.

I'm 40 years old. I want to LIVE my life....not live it frustrated and upset and constantly being ridiculed.

I just don't know how to do it otherwise.

Anyone successfully find happiness with this? I'm failing miserably at it.


This diet does not have to be hard. But it requires giving yourself the time, patience, and perseverence to learn something new. And unlearn a lot of old stuff. Some of what you have to learn and unlearn is food related (don't eat the bread, read the labels on everything, etc.) but some of it is emotional (learning how to handle frustration, learning how to approach ridicule, leanring how to stand up for yourself, etc.). And I think that throws a lot of folks for a loop when starting the diet. We're told "oh, just eliminate gluten", which is *true*, but so very much not a complete picture.

You find happiness by working through this stuff, and by finding happiness in all those other facets of your life that aren't food - your friends, your hobbies, maybe your work, your relatives, your activities, maybe your pets, and so on. There is a lot to the world that isn't strictly food, though I know it really feels like that at the beginning!

Hang in there, keep reading this forum, and be patient with yourself. You've got a difficult transition, and the most difficult time of year to do it. But you can get there if you keep moving forward.
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#831050 Newly Diagnosed Celiac- Have Removed Gluten But Still Having The Primary Symp...

Posted by tarnalberry on 19 October 2012 - 08:31 PM

If you are using shared condiments, a shared toaster, and other sources of contamination, you are not yet gluten free, and cannot really expect to get better until you go completely gluten free.
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#830443 A Freedom Diet? Im So Lost!

Posted by tarnalberry on 17 October 2012 - 07:02 AM

Can you clarify a bit?

"Flour" free doesn't really make sense, as you can make flour out of many things. You can make flour out of grains, yes, but also things like tapioca (which you list, but it's not a grain) or arrowroot (also not a grain, but a tuber) or beans (again, no grains, but legumes) or almonds (neither grains nor legumes or tubers, but nuts). So "flour" free doesn't really make sense to me without clarifying the source foods you're trying to avoid.

When you say sugar free, are you talking about added sugars, or something else? Apples have lots of natural sugars, would you eat them? Even things like pumpkins have natural sugars, what about them?

Additionally, I don't understand "tropical fruit free" in a desire to reduce acid. Lots of other foods have higher acidity contents that wouldn't be included here (especially tomatoes!) and some tropical foods don't have a lot of acidity (bananas, for instance). So, what are you really trying to get at here?

So, can you clarify a bit the *foods* (rather than preparations) you are trying to avoid?

So far, I see:
gluten free (this should include oats unless you've determined otherwise anyway)
partially dairy free*
soy free
corn free

I'll leave GMO in a separate category, because it's not eliminating a specific food, but a process.

* if you're going to give diary free a try, I'd go totally dairy free, not mostly.
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#828100 Psychosomatic

Posted by tarnalberry on 07 October 2012 - 03:36 PM

Well said.
I would not have believed it possible myself, except for having had success with lowering muscle/joint/connective tissue pain levels with meditation, deep breathing and gentle yoga. I cannot take pain medications (I have tried them all) and I pooh-poohed the whole idea, thinking my brain could never "be tricked" into such a thing. I tried to remain open-minded about it --and I would try it and get so frustrated and think "this is BS; this is not working", but I just kept at it ---and one day, it seemed to be helping. Then, I could tolerate intense physical therapy and deep tissue work to restore mobility and help reverse the muscle weakness and resulting parasthesia. I went from being unable to walk the length of my driveway without agonizing pain to going kayaking and being able to swim again this summer.
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No big wonder at all. You learned to calm your sympathetic nervous system, hence reducing the amount of inflammation-inducing stress hormones going around, and hence reducing the amount of inflammation in your body (which generally causes havoc!). You gave your parasympathetic nervous system more ability to operate, giving more blood flow and hormonal support to the processes of digestion and repair in the body. At the same time, you (literally) rerouted the pathways in your brain by consciously choosing NOT to go down one particular thought process but instead go down another - like a muscle, strengthening the brain's ability to respond the way you want it to. And, finally, you did this while getting the body appropriate physical movement to help the lymph system move fluid and keep joints (and hence nerves) moving appropriately.

Meditation, breathing practices, and yoga are far, far, far from mystic. :)

(If you haven't already, IrishHeart, you might find reading "Why Zebras Don't Have Ulcers" interesting.)
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#828098 Hunger Pains

Posted by tarnalberry on 07 October 2012 - 03:21 PM

And you're eating a lot of low energy-density foods. The don't have many calories for their size and ability to fill you up. Which is great for some people, but not so great if you're needing the calories (and sustained energy) to keep your blood sugar up.
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#825009 Psychosomatic

Posted by tarnalberry on 22 September 2012 - 08:35 PM

I find it frustrating that when you use the term "psychosomatic", people get cranky and think you're dismissing them.
But if you use the term "placebo effect", the same people may well be more open.

These things are the same. The placebo effect is a psychosomatic response. And it is measurably real. (Like, real diagnostics of brain scans and blood tests show an effect from "nothing" when it is believed to be something.)

It's just biology. Really crazy, amazing, our-bodies-are-brilliant biology. But still just biology.

Pre-emptive edit: Let me be VERY clear - I am NOT commenting on whether or not any particular person's experience was psychosomatic or not. This isn't about 'vapors' or wine or whatever other controversial posts have come up on the board. If I had an opinion I wanted to share on that front, I would.
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#822658 Awaiting Tests But Can't Eat Gluten - Scared Of False Negative

Posted by tarnalberry on 10 September 2012 - 09:16 AM

Yes.
If you can't go back on gluten, there is no way to find out if your system is reacting to gluten.
Gene tests give you some information, but they cannot tell you if you are celiac or not.
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#819334 Will My Daughter Be Able To Have Children Of Her Own With This.disease.

Posted by tarnalberry on 23 August 2012 - 12:43 PM

As long as she is following the gluten free diet, her fertility will not be impacted by having celiac.
It's genetic, so she can pass the genes on to her children, but that is not a guarantee they will develop celiac disease. It requires both the genes AND a trigger. And even if she does, it's not the end of the world to eat gluten free.
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