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My hubby gave my son pasta that was in the fridge left over from this afternoon. I guess I have to put it on BIG BOLD LETTERS NOT FOR NIKOLAS>...

oh, please , i can't even leave the house without worrying...what is up with that...I am supposed to go away Wed night to the cape until Fri with the other 2 kids....oh like now I am going to be able to relax. What was he thinking? I specifically said make him chicken, brocoli and a fruit, and he gave him chicken, wheat pasta and nothing else....UGH!!!!! just had to get that out...no need to reply..... :angry::angry::angry:


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Been there...

Two incidents that come to mind are:

My husband is Filipino, went to the Filipino market and got some wheat based treats. Then as he is standing in the kitchen eating it he offers a bite to my 4 year old daughter who just started the diet and didn't know better. She takes a bite just as I am walking into the room. Boy did I let him have it. His response was "I forgot". <_<

Then more recent was February. I had surgery and a few days later I am recovering in bed, and he takes the kids to a family party out of town. I had packed food for them to eat. Instead of him feeding the kids what I packed he fed them chicken and rice at the party. (He didn't even tell them there was gluten-free cup cakes for them in the bag and it was a b-day party!) Now of course the chicken was marinated in soy sauce (they are Filipino remember) and all 3 kids came home sick. So there I was recovering from surgery and then I had to take care of my poor sick kids. :blink:

Sometimes it can be stressful, but the good news is that he is getting better. It just takes time and there will always be mistakes along the way.

God bless,

Mariann

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Been there...

Two incidents that come to mind are:

My husband is Filipino, went to the Filipino market and got some wheat based treats.  Then as he is standing in the kitchen eating it he offers a bite to my 4 year old daughter who just started the diet and didn't know better.  She takes a bite just as I am walking into the room.  Boy did I let him have it.  His response was "I forgot".  <_<

Then more recent was February.  I had surgery and a few days later I am recovering in bed, and he takes the kids to a family party out of town.  I had packed food for them to eat.  Instead of him feeding the kids what I packed he fed them chicken and rice at the party.  (He didn't even tell them there was gluten-free cup cakes for them in the bag and it was a b-day party!)  Now of course the chicken was marinated in soy sauce (they are Filipino remember) and all 3 kids came home sick.  So there I was recovering from surgery and  then I had to take care of my poor sick kids.  :blink:

Sometimes it can be stressful, but the good news is that he is getting better.  It just takes time and there will always be mistakes along the way.

God bless,

Mariann

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well you are so nice to reply...I am still p'd off though!! Seriously, my son has an epi-pen for wheat, eggs, dairy, soy, certain fruits, etc.....I can't take it anymore. I know good days and bad, but what is with men!!! No offense I'm sure not all are like this although I have not met any... ;) Just very frustrated! And as mad as I am I really didn't give it to him, not like I wanted to, cause I know he was just being stupid and didn't know...but the way I look at it, if you don't know don't do it. I specifically said what to give to him!! I mean that is bad enough that I had to even tell him what to feed him! UGH!! It is nice to know that I am not alone, although it is sad to know in a way that I am not alone......certain people need to get with it!! Thanks for the reply, although you didn't need to, I know I am impossible right now and just needed to vent, but i do appreciate your reply.

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I feel ya... I'd be seriously pissed too. My DH was kinda unconcerned at first about having to be so vigilant on the diet until one night when he was watching her while I was out and he fed her something with gluten and she got seriously ill... Ever since then he's been very vigilant. I dunno what it takes for some people to "get it"...

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well you are so nice to reply...I am still p'd off though!!  Seriously, my son has an epi-pen for wheat, eggs, dairy, soy, certain fruits, etc.....I can't take it anymore.  I know good days and bad, but what is with men!!!  No offense I'm sure not all are like this although I have not met any... ;)   Just very frustrated!  And as mad as I am I really didn't give it to him, not like I wanted to, cause I know he was just being stupid and didn't know...but the way I look at it, if you don't know don't do it.  I specifically said what to give to him!!  I mean that is bad enough that I had to even tell him what to feed him! UGH!!  It is nice to know that I am not alone, although it is sad to know in a way that I am not alone......certain people need to get with it!!  Thanks for the reply, although you didn't need to, I know I am impossible right now and just needed to vent, but i do appreciate your reply.

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Wow did he have to use the epipen? Maybe your husband either needs to play a bigger role and learn this or you should say maybe we should only keep food in the house that your son can have if he is going to feed him stuff he can't have.

That would make me mad too so I completely understand where you are coming from. Did he not know it was wheat or something? Why would he give it to him? It's like hello-anybody up there.

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Wow did he have to use the epipen? Maybe your husband either needs to play a bigger role and learn this or you should say maybe we should only keep food in the house that your son can have if he is going to feed him stuff he can't have.

That would make me mad too so I completely understand where you are coming from. Did he not know it was wheat or something? Why would he give it to him? It's like hello-anybody up there.

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ugh...he says he thought it was just for Nikolas since it was in a tupperware container, he didn't think I saved anything unless it was for Nikolas. I am not a big left over person, so I can kind of see his point (but not really). I mean if he even looked at the pasta it is clearly different looking....I'm sorry he is just not on my A-list tonight. I will get over it by tomorrow. I clearly know I am alone on this one. I am going to the cape (MA) this wed until Fri with the other two kids and I am going to fill this house with notes everywhere. Oh and no he didn't need to use epi-pen, he wouldn't have even known where to look probalby. One is in my pocketbook and the other in the diaper bag. From now on, one is taped to fridge and I said who ever takes Nikolas out has to take the other epi-pen with them....what a nightmare.

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Sharpie markers are great for labeling. I also used to use those colored circle stickers you buy to mark prices on yard sale items.... You know what I mean? I would put a colored sticker dot on my son's foods. For us the main thing to do has always been to write the kid's name on the food that was for him. Or write in great big letters..."NO...." I always, always, always tell my husband what I just labeled. I just mention it in a simple and direct way and we're good to go. I would suggest you try a shelf dedicated to the celiac kid. A low shelf so that he can also begin to see where his stuff is and reinforce your belief that this is important for him. Some kids dig the exclusive shelf and pantry privledges and it helps create a positive attitude towards this life-long disease.


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Sometimes, I think whoever wrote that book "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus" (or something along those lines.....), had incredible insight into the male psyche.

I have been celiac for years now, but hubby brings home some Granny brand butter tarts from the supermarket, and he bought the "club pack" version, LOTS of butter tarts. He says, "You can have these, right?"

DUH, HELLO, MCFLY, ANYBODY HOME?????? <_<

Men, God's anomaly..............

Karen

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Sometimes, I think whoever wrote that book "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus" (or something along those lines.....), had incredible insight into the male psyche.

I have been celiac for years now, but hubby brings home some Granny brand butter tarts from the supermarket, and he bought the "club pack" version, LOTS of butter tarts.  He says, "You can have these, right?"

DUH, HELLO, MCFLY, ANYBODY HOME??????  <_<

Men, God's anomaly..............

Karen

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ah ha ha....thanks I needed that....still laughing!! :lol:

Hennessey Rookie
Sharpie markers are great for labeling.  I also used to use those colored circle stickers you buy to mark prices on yard sale items.... You know what I mean?  I would put a colored sticker dot on my son's foods.  For us the main thing to do has always been to write the kid's name on the food that was for him.  Or write in great big letters..."NO...."  I always, always, always tell my husband what I just labeled.  I just mention it in a simple and direct way and we're good to go.  I would suggest you try a shelf dedicated to the celiac kid.  A low shelf so that he can also begin to see where his stuff is and reinforce your belief that this is important for him.  Some kids dig the exclusive shelf and pantry privledges and it helps create a positive attitude towards this life-long disease.

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Oh you can bet I will have the sharpie out...I had already marked some things in the cabinet prior to this happening. I will mark the tupperware containers from now on as well, and verbally tell him that they have been marked. After last night I think he is starting to understand more. Nikolas will be 1yr in a couple of weeks and my husband can see today what external damage it caused him from having the wheat...it won't be happening again.

tarnalberry Community Regular

I think that the point of remembering to verbally tell the other person what you did is a good one. I can't think of how many times I assumed that my written instructions were obvious, only to find out that some other person didn't think so. It's happened both from my own mistakes, and from it just being the other person (as confirmed when other people *did* understand it just fine). Though remembering to do that verbal communication can be tough some times, 'cause it just seems so darned obvious to us! :-)

I'm glad to hear, though, that he's starting to understand the seriousness of it, and see what the effects are.

Joan L. Hawkins Newbie
well you are so nice to reply...I am still p'd off though!!  Seriously, my son has an epi-pen for wheat, eggs, dairy, soy, certain fruits, etc.....I can't take it anymore.  I know good days and bad, but what is with men!!!  No offense I'm sure not all are like this although I have not met any... ;)   Just very frustrated!  And as mad as I am I really didn't give it to him, not like I wanted to, cause I know he was just being stupid and didn't know...but the way I look at it, if you don't know don't do it.  I specifically said what to give to him!!  I mean that is bad enough that I had to even tell him what to feed him! UGH!!  It is nice to know that I am not alone, although it is sad to know in a way that I am not alone......certain people need to get with it!!  Thanks for the reply, although you didn't need to, I know I am impossible right now and just needed to vent, but i do appreciate your reply.

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my son is 10 and can't eat EGGS, SOY, CORN, WHEAT 100%. 32 other foods all together.. tomatoes, watermeleon, etc. Sometimes I go nuts. :huh:

I have to think he has his eye's to see and arms and legs and can walk and talk :D

Joan

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I have been celiac for years now, but hubby brings home some Granny brand butter tarts from the supermarket, and he bought the "club pack" version, LOTS of butter tarts.  He says, "You can have these, right?"

DUH, HELLO, MCFLY, ANYBODY HOME??????  <_<

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:lol: Ha-Ha...that was funny!

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