MyWifeHasIt replied to Dasmith's topic in Celiac Disease - Friends and Loved Ones of CeliacsIMHO... If your intention was to provide a differing opinion (and by the way, I'd say your 1st/2nd paragraph was true to this) then you may have wanted to state that upfront and could have possibly put more effort in your choice of words. For example, if when you stated "Driving is polluting the air we breathe every day. Are all of you complaining about people and their inconveniences giving up your car? Or are you making the choice that the benefits outweigh the negatives? Why is there so much anger for people who don't change?" you would of used "we" instead of "you" (as in including yourself so as to not put yourself above others), it might have come across a bit more receptive. Again, I thought you made some good observations but agree that the tone (which is almost impossible to perceive in written form since we cannot see facial expressions nor hear volume) seemed harsh and unkind. Also, I've found the hard way that it is best to be apologetic when misunderstood versus being defensive (and that being "right" is not as important as being kind and understanding). The thing about forums where people are expressing themselves as best they can (we come from all sorts of backgrounds, education level, life experiences, social status, etc.) is that we're going to inevitably offend somebody... but regardless, I want to believe most people on here are sharing with good intentions. My wife was just diagnosed with celiac disease and having found this site has been great... I hope to become informed and be able to help her with this as much as possible. She's only 38 and was a very active and energetic woman being a marathon runner, always active in one form or another (e.g., yoga, working out, dancing, etc.) despite apparently having had this for many years given her symptoms (diagnosed with IBS since very young, a few years back with thyroid - Hashimoto's - disease, and of late... loss of energy, anxiety, depression, and... what "broke the camel's back" heart issues to the point where she was wearing a heart monitor since she was loosing her breath and had irregular heart beats). These recent events prompted her to continue to look for answers as doctors were not being very helpful. And... of all the ironies.. it was a freakin chiropractor that actually gave her hope and got her steered in the right direction (at one point I used to think they were quaks... was I wrong). I am just now beginning to comprehend this disease and what's ahead for her and am glad and very hopeful that she can beat this (or at least be able to live with it ... knowing is half the battle). Several posts on here have brought me to tears as there's nothing like reading real life stories of people/family/friends coping with celiac disease to make something that was foreign to me a couple of days ago seem very real. I am very grateful to all of you and hopeful that the collective thoughts and energy as they're being put in writing via this forum will help my wife in one form or another. I sincerely thank Scott and all of you for your contributions. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You!!