Dh Glutened Me On Accident-sorta

[Guest AutumnE]

He came home after eating out at his mom's. I fixed a nice fruit salad while he was gone. I see him picking out a bowl to eat some fruit salad with me and my daughter. I asked him did he pick out fruit yet, he said no and I said i just wanted to make sure you didnt have gluten on your hands from your mom's foods before eating over here. So he washed his hands. About 1/2 hour later I realized I definitely was glutened and then dh confessed that he was picking out fruit in there and had just finished eating his mom's homemade bread before he came here

@#$!! I wish he just would have been honest with me in the first place, yeah I would have been a bit frustrated but I wouldnt be having "D" and brain fog! I swear he is like a kid who gets his hand stuck in the cookie jar!

[Ursa Major]

I guess the poor guy felt like being stuck 'between a rock and a hard place' when you asked him if he had touched the fruit with gluten on his hands. You'd get upset if he admitted he had contaminated the fruit salad, and he probably thought there was a chance that you wouldn't get glutened.

Others just don't understand how little it takes to make us sick. I hope he understands now how serious cross-contamination is. Make sure he realizes how sick you are by not hiding your distress. No words need to be spoken, really, other than letting him know that 'this is what happens when you touch my food with gluten on your hands'.

Hopefully he will remember and not do it again. Or if he forgets, to at least be honest about his slip up.

I hope you feel better soon. And don't let him stay in the dog house too long, he didn't do it on purpose and probably feels badly enough.

[Guest AutumnE]

Thanks Ursula

He isnt in the dog house it would take alot for me to get that mad at him. I hate arguing anyways. I grew up in a house where it was a commonplace and I refuse to argue with him because of it, to this day (been together for 10 years) I have never raised my voice to him because I feel like its pointless. All it does is make everyone upset and you might say things you dont mean. Journaling it usually calms me down.

I just told him that I felt I was glutened but I couldnt figure out how. He told me he didnt wash his hands and did eat the fruit and I said I wish you would of told me before I ate it. He didnt see the effects because he went to work afterwards. He knows though since I had symptoms for years before my diagnosis. He grew up in a household where secrets and white lies were no big deal and doesnt realize how much it bothers me. I always tell him the truth.

thanks for the response