If your kids inherited your diseases, would you get your tubes tied?

[scholoring]

Sorry my titles so long but its hard to really shorten that. I'm trying to get advice for family planning, I guess. I am 26years old and have two little girls ages 6 and 3. They are both smart and strong but they have both inherited medical issues. My 6 year old especially. She has Celiac, dairy intolerance, some unknown allergy causing eosinophilic esophagitis (inflammation in her esophagus), and it seems she may have Periodic Paralysis like I do (causes temporary weakness/paralysis). She also has asthma related to animal dander. She had to get ear tubes in and her adenoid removed because her ears wouldn't release all the fluid it collected so she couldn't hear properly and her adenoid was swollen and causing problems. Shes been to the doctor way more than average and obviously, that's tough to deal with. My younger daughter is dairy intolerant and the doctor thinks she also has Celiac as well as a fairly benign skin condition called kopilaris pilaris (or something like that, maybe if she guts gluten it will go away*.*).

With all of this plus my own conditions, (Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Celiac, Normokalemic Periodic Paralysis) I'm wondering if I would be doing a disservice to my family and myself as well as any new baby if I were to get pregnant again. Like logically, it seems having a baby knowing all the risks now, would be a bad idea. Tough pregnancy's plus tough recovery's plus baby potentially being born chronically ill; probably shouldn't anymore, right?

So logically I know I shouldn't, but I'm having a hard time coping with the idea of never having a baby again. I am a lot healthier than I used to be, but being pregnant has a way of beating up the body so thinking about that has been helpful in preventing me from taking that step. But still, I'm disappointed. I would have liked to have like four kids and as it is it looks like I'll never get the chance to have those twins I always dreamed of:) (I'm a twin so I love:)

Has anyone else here had to deal with this? What have you done to cope with it?

[kareng]

1 hour ago, scholoring said:

Sorry my titles so long but its hard to really shorten that. I'm trying to get advice for family planning, I guess. I am 26years old and have two little girls ages 6 and 3. They are both smart and strong but they have both inherited medical issues. My 6 year old especially. She has Celiac, dairy intolerance, some unknown allergy causing eosinophilic esophagitis (inflammation in her esophagus), and it seems she may have Periodic Paralysis like I do (causes temporary weakness/paralysis). She also has asthma related to animal dander. She had to get ear tubes in and her adenoid removed because her ears wouldn't release all the fluid it collected so she couldn't hear properly and her adenoid was swollen and causing problems. Shes been to the doctor way more than average and obviously, that's tough to deal with. My younger daughter is dairy intolerant and the doctor thinks she also has Celiac as well as a fairly benign skin condition called kopilaris pilaris (or something like that, maybe if she guts gluten it will go away*.*).

With all of this plus my own conditions, (Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Celiac, Normokalemic Periodic Paralysis) I'm wondering if I would be doing a disservice to my family and myself as well as any new baby if I were to get pregnant again. Like logically, it seems having a baby knowing all the risks now, would be a bad idea. Tough pregnancy's plus tough recovery's plus baby potentially being born chronically ill; probably shouldn't anymore, right?

So logically I know I shouldn't, but I'm having a hard time coping with the idea of never having a baby again. I am a lot healthier than I used to be, but being pregnant has a way of beating up the body so thinking about that has been helpful in preventing me from taking that step. But still, I'm disappointed. I would have liked to have like four kids and as it is it looks like I'll never get the chance to have those twins I always dreamed of:) (I'm a twin so I love:)

Has anyone else here had to deal with this? What have you done to cope with it?

Reading your post, I would say you should not have more children.  Sounds like you have more than you can handle in your life right now. It would be unfair to a baby.

i say that because that is how I decided if I should have another baby.   I had what I could handle between myself , my hub and my kids.  I didn’t want to add more than I could deal with and not be there for any of the kids or spread too thin.  

 

Edit it to add - you are only 26, maybe something less permanent for a few years? Then see how you feel 

Edited May 23, 2018 by kareng

[Ennis-TX]

I would go with something less permanent, with the way gene editing is going, probably in the next 10-20 years you can have the genes edited too remove genetic diseases. I know I am messed up, and will not try to reproduce til we can edit the genes.