I use Smart Balance organic spread in the green tub. It is gluten free and dairy free and tastes just like the real thing. You can use it for baking and cooking as well.
I have been gluten free for a little over a week and after a rocky start I am feeling a lot better already. I quickly realized that I need to eliminate dairy from my diet to feel better along with gluten. I guess I am pretty normal in that regard, but I don't know if I am sensitive to casein or if I am just lactose intolerant. I guess a challenge would be...
Everything you have described sounds very much like Poly-Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). I am brand new to this whole celiac thing so I have no clue if the two are related in any way. I have been off BCPs for about 5 months and I am charting. I originally went on BCP to help with cycle irregularity 7 years ago and now my cycles are still just as messed up...