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Have A Date But Also Have A Problem

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Met a girl who wants to go out with me but she suggested we meet for dinner on Friday. Im still reluctant to eat out since any type of seasoning or spice will aggravate my delicate GI and will cause burping and indigestion which could be a problem on a date; then theres the whole gluten thing

How do i handle this? i cant keep going out on dates that consist of drinks only eventually the girl is gonna wanna know what my deal is and why i dont eat? maybe ill just cancel the date all together...any suggestions?


Endoscopy & blood panel all negative 12/09 after being strict w/ gluten free diet

As of 8/09 - Candida Overgrowth, C.difficile overgrowth, elevated fecal anti-gliadin, elevated putrefactive SCFA's

Developed severe lactose intolerance, IBS and food sensitivities in 02 after contracting Giardia from a river in Oregon

Had negative celiac blood work in 02

Elevated stool anti-gliadin Ab (21 with 10 being cutoff for normal) - 2008

Positive for DQ8- 2008

Tested high positive for egg, dairy, soy, ginger, mustard - 2008

Lactulose/Mannitol (leaky gut) test indicated slight intestinal permeability

Improved with gluten free diet but still have spastic constipation

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Call or stop by the restaurant a few days before, let them know you are gluten free and see what they can have ready for you. Go on the date, enjoy your self and your friend.

I know you can do this and enjoy yourself.


1960s-had symptoms-could have been before but don't remember

1970s-told had colitis or nervous stomach-was given phenobarbital, felt great but still had symptoms

Me, dd and ds diagnosed with Lactose Intolerance

2000-osteopenia

2001-had stroke because of medications I was given

June 2003-saw Chiropractor who specialized in nutrition: Celiac Disease not Lactose Intolerance, went gluten free with once in awhile cheating, off soy and dairy for about 6 months

June 2003-found excellent doctor for fibromyalgia (who has found out she has Celiac Disease)

May 2006-went gluten free with NO cheating-excellent! Made all the difference in the world

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Yeah Jason! I would think that telling a new girl about parasites & other gastric issues might be a bit of a turn-off. Maybe you could find a place that has something you can eat & talk to them ahead. When she asks why your eating plain chicken & cooked carrots, you may have to tell her you have some food allergies to sort out. Or your trying to loose weight/ get in shape. All true.

You could try for a date that doesn't involve food like bowling, golf, etc.

Good luck. Let us know all the juicy details. At least what the moderators will allow. :P


 

 

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Im just gonna keep it at drinks this time. This may sound silly but I usually dont bring food into the mix until date#3 and by then theres usually a good chance i will be able to cook dinner which makes me look even better :)


Endoscopy & blood panel all negative 12/09 after being strict w/ gluten free diet

As of 8/09 - Candida Overgrowth, C.difficile overgrowth, elevated fecal anti-gliadin, elevated putrefactive SCFA's

Developed severe lactose intolerance, IBS and food sensitivities in 02 after contracting Giardia from a river in Oregon

Had negative celiac blood work in 02

Elevated stool anti-gliadin Ab (21 with 10 being cutoff for normal) - 2008

Positive for DQ8- 2008

Tested high positive for egg, dairy, soy, ginger, mustard - 2008

Lactulose/Mannitol (leaky gut) test indicated slight intestinal permeability

Improved with gluten free diet but still have spastic constipation

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Is there an area restaurant you feel comfortable with? If so make sure to go there! Otherwise follow the above advice to check in ahead of time to see if they can accomodate you.

Have you told your date about having celiac disease? It's nothing to be ashamed of and beats canceling the date. Maybe she'd prefer to eat before seeing you and you could go to a movie or something.

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i decided to just do drinks...i dont get into the celiac thing until im comfortable with the girl. saying that on a first date can be a big mistake...gotta put on my best game face, make her fall for me & then reveal my shortcomings at a later date ;)


Endoscopy & blood panel all negative 12/09 after being strict w/ gluten free diet

As of 8/09 - Candida Overgrowth, C.difficile overgrowth, elevated fecal anti-gliadin, elevated putrefactive SCFA's

Developed severe lactose intolerance, IBS and food sensitivities in 02 after contracting Giardia from a river in Oregon

Had negative celiac blood work in 02

Elevated stool anti-gliadin Ab (21 with 10 being cutoff for normal) - 2008

Positive for DQ8- 2008

Tested high positive for egg, dairy, soy, ginger, mustard - 2008

Lactulose/Mannitol (leaky gut) test indicated slight intestinal permeability

Improved with gluten free diet but still have spastic constipation

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I totally feel your pain and agony about dating with this disease! While it's nothing to be ashamed of or anything, I don't like to bring it up too early because I don't want the disease to define me, you know? Plus I don't want to hit them with too much big stuff too early either. Hope you have a fantastic time!!


Diagnosed celiac 2002

Diagnosed lymphocytic colitis 2003

Casein free

Love baking/cooking

Love triathlons

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How about this? What if she has celiac, too? There are a lot of us and some of us are really really cute!

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Im just gonna keep it at drinks this time. This may sound silly but I usually dont bring food into the mix until date#3 and by then theres usually a good chance i will be able to cook dinner which makes me look even better :)

Cooking for her is great! I tell my boys this every time they complain that they have to fix thier own food.


 

 

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I don't know what part of the country you are in but what about a picnic at a local park or something? You could bring the food. I think it would be sweet.


Me:
Celiac disease(positive blood work/biopsy- 10/2008), gluten free oat intolerent, Hashimoto's Thyroiditis/Disease, Raynaud's Disease


DS2(age 9):
celiac disease(positive IgA tTG, no biopsy- 11/2010)


DS1(age 13):
repeated negative bloodwork and negative EGD/biopsy. Started on a gluten free trial(8/2011). He has decided to stay gluten free due to all of the improvements he has experienced on the diet.

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I'd capitalize on the great spring weather...drinks and a walk by a lake or river, botanical gardens, zoo or miniature golf or something you might have locally that you can use the spring weather as an excuse to go. A "we can't waste this beautiful weather" kind of approach. Assuming of course that spring has hit where you live.

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Met a girl who wants to go out with me but she suggested we meet for dinner on Friday. Im still reluctant to eat out since any type of seasoning or spice will aggravate my delicate GI and will cause burping and indigestion which could be a problem on a date; then theres the whole gluten thing

How do i handle this? i cant keep going out on dates that consist of drinks only eventually the girl is gonna wanna know what my deal is and why i dont eat? maybe ill just cancel the date all together...any suggestions?

awwe sweetie - don't be so hard on yourself.

I was up front about my issue and come to find out - they are a cook in a hospital that knows all about cooking gluten free....and has gout too so diet is understood.

Drinks is cool too - and getting to know a person for who they are rather than what you can afford is priceless too!

Now me and that hospital cook gout sufferer are very much in love because there is someone out there that understands.

I hope you are understood too!

Hugs and good luck! Prayers are with you!

Tena


Take everything away from me - food, habits...take it all! But don't touch my bacon! You can NOT have my bacon!

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I totally understand! Discussing flattened villi and abnormal bowel movements aren't very "romantic" first date conversations. :)

However, consider this: it could possibly lead to a very interesting conversation! If she knows nothing about it: great! She'll probably have loads of questions and you can educate her. She's a girl, is probably familiar with the cookie aisle (as all females are), and has probably noticed all the "gluten-free" signs popping up everywhere. Now you can fill her in.

And if she knows something about it--yay! Maybe her cousin has it. Then you have something in common (a good thing).

And with so many people being vegan, vegetarian, octo-lacto-vegetarian, on Atkins or paleo or bla bla bla, everyone seems to have an opinion on diets. Eating differently is no longer that weird...in fact, people are fascinated with other people's diets. You don't have to show this girl your lab results or go into any icky detail. You can just say your doctor recommended it or whatever. No big deal!

The point is--celiac is part of you, and it makes you interesting! And it makes for interesting conversation.

So no need to be scared.

Good luck!

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p.s. I recommend a sushi place for dinner, since they usually don't have a lot of wheat lying around (lower risk of c/c). But call ahead of time and talk to the chef, if possible! You can order sashimi (raw fish) if you want to be safe, since the rice could be carelessly sprinkled with crumbs or whatnot.

Or, like others have suggested, cook your own dinner! I'm a girl, and YES, this is very charming.

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Go out to dinner to a place that serves food that is naturally gluten free. Talk about the celiac but leave out the gross details. It will give you something to talk about and chicks dig that kind of thing as long as it doesn't get gross. B)


If all the world is indeed a stage and we are merely players then will someone give me the script because I have no f!@#$%^ clue as to what is going on!

What does not kill you makes you stronger.

Nobody cares about losers and quitters never win. If you fail with the cowards then what's the message you send?

Can't get it right, no matter what I do. Might as well be me and keep fu@$ing up for you. - Brian Thomas (Halloween, the greatest metal band ever!)

Ian Moore. Self diagnosed at 36 because the doctors were clueless.

Started low-carb diet early 2004, felt better but not totally gluten-free. Went 100% gluten-free early 2005 and life has never been better.

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Met a girl who wants to go out with me but she suggested we meet for dinner on Friday. Im still reluctant to eat out since any type of seasoning or spice will aggravate my delicate GI and will cause burping and indigestion which could be a problem on a date; then theres the whole gluten thing

How do i handle this? i cant keep going out on dates that consist of drinks only eventually the girl is gonna wanna know what my deal is and why i dont eat? maybe ill just cancel the date all together...any suggestions?

Hi Jason!

I feel your pain and insecurity TOTALLY! I am a woman in the dating scene requiring a gluten free menu and Ive noticed that if you just try to order "with this, without that" and not mention anything THATS when people start to wonder. Is she high maintenance?? So I have found it better to be open and say "that I have food allergies and just try to keep to my diet." Almost everyone has something that they cant eat and if they cant accept that then they are not worth dating anyway. Its life. Keep it simple until they get to know you but all dates end up eating food. Outback has gluten free menu, been good with sushi, salads. You can do it and not be completely freaked about it. Have a great date-and so what youre a wine drinker not a beer drinker! LOL

Wendy:)

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one of my best 1st dates (before my dr. even thought i might have celiac's) started over 5 plates at as tapas resturant. 1/2 the choices could have made would have killed me but i just told him I had a lot of weird allergies. ended up being one of THE BEST DATES I EVER went on. I kept trying to get him to talk about himself, he kept wanting to know more about me and all my weird allergies. I finally asked if he was putting together a dossier to kill me on a later date.


-severe soy, wheat & yeast allergies 2006

-penicillin allergy 2008

-multiple other food & environmental allergies starting 1982

-non-iron deficient anemia - life long

-migraines 3/07

-negative celiac blood testing 10/09 & upper endoscopy biopsy 3/10

-negative GERD observation during upper endoscopy 3/10

-positive hereditary hiatial hernia during upper endoscopy 3/10

+continually working on gluten-free/CF/SF related to allergies & celiac like symptoms

+continually working on elimination of caffine, chocolate, & spicy foods related to hernia & heartburn

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How about this? What if she has celiac, too? There are a lot of us and some of us are really really cute!

SO TRUE! OMG what if she's Celiac and doesn't want to tell YOU?

MY how the tables could TURN lol


Diagnosed with Gluten Allergy April 2010. Family history of Celiac disease and bowel cancers. Already feeling a billion times better since going gluten free.

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And if she doesn't.... there are bigger problems in her life than dealing with a dates celiac! (Possible exploding worries, for one! lol)


Diagnosed with celiac in the summer of 09 - after being sick since I was a teen with no answers. I miss "real" pasta - but its a fair trade off for getting my life BACK.

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I would LOVE the home cooked meal! ;)

Have you found any places that are just gluten free? Some of the places here in MI that are strictly gluten free don't have huge signs or any over the top signs announcing gluten free. I even asked if this was "the gluten free" place just to make sure.

Relax and go at your own pace, but don't wait too long. She is going to have to make sure she has gluten free lips for some safe kissing. :P


Michigan

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