How do you get thru the holidays?

[Sherma]

I am a 77 yr old grandma. I am already crying daily about being alone for Thanksgiving! My husband will go & be with our children and their families. Our son has a gathering and our daughter has another and we have gone to both every holiday - since we no longer have them at our home. Last year I went to our daughter's when she had her 3 grandchildren in to bake Xmas cookies. I love watching this memory of when our 4 children did it. I sat in the farthest of the front room with a good view of the kitchen table where all the fun was! Boy, did I get glutened with all that flour in the air - way in there! I don't care about the food that I used to bake and eat! I miss my family! I don't want my husband to miss it, I want him to go, in fact if he would go earlier and stay longer, I could have more hours to really get into doing something to get my mind off it. But out of the "goodness of his heart" he is gone at a minimum of time! 

I have considered, sewing a big project, organizing my hobby of genealogy, even doing fall cleaning!  These take hours, preferably alone, which I won't be alone long enough to get anything done. Hubby will return and tell me everything, bring food that should not be brought but with his mild dementia, he will talk & talk & and follow me around and interrupt what I want to really, truly do! Then there is always the possibility of taking the antidepressant that puts me to sleep and I will wake up when it's all over!

So how do you get thru the horror of holidays? What am I doing wrong, there must be an in-between, not just all or nothing? 

 

 

[knitty kitty]

@Sherma,

First, be thankful that you have family to spend Thanksgiving with.

Second, get a video link to your family.  Your kids can help you set it up.  Then you can watch from home.  You could do sewing projects while you video chat.  This could be a way to keep hubby busy while you do other things.  Use it for visiting more than once a year. Echo Shows are easy to use, voice commands to Alexa.  

Third, watch the video link below.  It's about how thiamine supplementation can help with Parkinson's and dementia.  

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iuSOQOTyB9w

Hope this helps.

 

 

[Sherma]

Thank you so much, Knitty kitty.  I have let this get out of hand! I see that now. And amazingly, I just got an iPad, last week! Don't know how to do what you said, but was shown it is possible! Thank you. I have plenty of tech geeks who can get this done = it is the next best thing!  I have more mental issues with the Parkinson's than physical, (Lewy Body?) and then found out this celiac has its own, with it! I take B1 but will watch the video, i'm sure I', not taking enough. Have found out that niacin (B 3) is a miracle against dementia/ sundowners & depression. I was taking it daily for years but not enough to be the miracle I needed and still can use more miracles. Thank you. 

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[Scott Adams]

I know this isn't ideal, but could you attend wearing an N95 mask and just use the covid risk as the excuse for the mask, eat before you go, and just be there for the experience?