Fellow Soccer Mom Wants To Make Treat Son Can Have

[CeliacMom2008]

We had a very nice gesture tonight at our soccer game. One of the players came up after the game and asked if my son could have whipped cream. I said, "Some, why?" Her and her mother want to make an after game treat our son can have too (usually he takes his orange slices and eats those while the other kids get their Oreos, chips, crackers, etc.). He's very content with this and is always given the choice to take whatever treat he wants - he just really like oranges when he plays soccer.

So they decided they would do a blueberry/strawberry fruit treat with whipped cream. I was nervous. am nervous. I don't know these people well at all. They seem very very nice, but they're not friends or family or anything. When we got home my son was quick to tell me he wasn't going to eat anything not made by me or my mom. And I'll admit that's definitely in my comfort zone and this offer, while incredibly kind, makes me nervous. No one besides my mother, my husband, and I have really made anything for him. We've had just a few restaurant experiences (Disney - awesome, Chili's - disaster, restaurant in Chicago - great, sister restaurant in Chicago - horrendous), so that's not even something we're used to. But I don't want him to be afraid and it is fresh fruit and cool whip (that's what I told them he could have). I'd call the mom again and go over things, but I'm still not so sure. And I'll have to do a lot of talking to my son to convince him. Should we accept the kindness of others? Do I need to help him be less afraid or is being afraid of others cooking a life skill that is now just part of his life?

Very confused...

[lonewolf]

If you talk to the mom and explain cross-contamination issues and it seems like she understands, I would accept the kindness. Fruit and whipped cream seem pretty safe, as long as the person is aware of CC. Being careful is a VERY good thing for your son to be, but there has to be a balance. Accepting the kindness of others is also an important skill - as long as you can trust them to be careful.