Dealing With A Non-celiac Spouse

[Camilla]

I think I've hit a series of wrong buttons... apologies!

[Lisa]

Camilla:

In my almost 51 years, I certainly have learned that men deal with things differently then women. That is truely a duh...statement. (without the premisis of offending the men on the site, I will be specific).

My husband is one that wants a routine. He truely cares about my health, but is quite upset when things are different, not normal, not routine, not the way things used to be. I have always been the one to make things "normal", to fix things. He is a retired airline pilot and was away for 3 -4 days a week. I raised the girls, and for instance, we had Christmas when Dad could get home. I was in charge.....until he retired in 99. It has been quite the adjustment for both of us. He was used to doing what he needed to do and then headed back to work.

Without digressing too much. Husbands don't want the boat rocked very much. Maybe your husband is not ready to accept the changed that will effect your life as well as his.

My advise to you is, try to stand down (military word for backing off) and you do some cooking that is gluten-free. You can get some great recipies on this site, forum "recipies", and do some gluten free cooking for him. Trust me, he will never know that it is gluten-free. Do this for a while, then call it to his attention. In the mean time, if you have to, clean up behind him with the bread crumbs and wash you hands well, do it safely.

"If you can't go in through the front door, try the back door".

He may need some time to know that things may not be "normal" again. Give him some space.

Hope my suggestion will be helpful. ( sorry that I may have offended some husbands out there, my intent is not to make a general statement, but a personal one.)

Lisa B.

[Lisa]

I responded to your original message........don't know where that went too....??

[tarnalberry]

I think the solution depends on where his difficulty stems from. Has he clearly articulated to you what his trouble is with dealing with the diet? (I too can't see the original post, so perhaps you already stated it...)

[GIJane]

I responded to your original message........don't know where that went too....??

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I'm not sure either. I was trying to fix a typo and managed to delete the whole thing...

[Lisa]

Well, can you repete your original as best you can remember. I think you will get many responses.

Give it a try.

Lisa B.

[tiredofdoctors]

If I'm getting the jist of your topic, your husband is having a hard time "getting on board" with your gluten-free diet? I'm having the opposite problem. My husband is the one who is paranoid about the foods I eat. He has read the books more than me, and questions a LOT -- "it has ( ) in it. can you eat that?" I think it's the "fix it" mentality. When I complain with my girlfriends about something, they know that I'm just complaining. When I complain to my husband, he immediately thinks of the solution to fix it! Don't know what to tell you other than you can tell him that my husband loves my gluten-free cooking as much as my previous cooking. He honestly can't tell the difference. You may want to tell him that -- maybe it will let him know he's not alone!