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This Is Too Hard!

Bravie

By Bravie
in Coping with Celiac Disease

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Bravie
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I have a boyfriend. I don't think I ever meantioned that I have a boyfriend. He's great. Only problem is my mom doesn't allow him to come over to see me, so I call him on the phone and go out with him when I get the chance. He's very open to this diet and he tries to eat gluten free just so I don't feel bad. He's offered to let me stay at his place because my family isn't very understanding of my illness, and that we could clean up his place and live gluten free. But as you may know, I am living in a house with a strict mom, whom I listen to even when she's wrong.

She does not want me to stay with my boyfriend, who I will most definately marry someday. I'm angry because my mom gives him such a hard time, and he knows this. I'm 20 years old and I can move out if I want to. But you just don't know my mom...She'll have a panic attack and call 9-1-1 and make it look like i was kidnapped or something >< (not kidding).

I believe that things would be better if I stayed with my boyfriend because he is willing to help in any way possible.

(btw, thanks everyone who has taken the time to read about my lame complaints and outrages)

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I have a boyfriend. I don't think I ever meantioned that I have a boyfriend. He's great. Only problem is my mom doesn't allow him to come over to see me, so I call him on the phone and go out with him when I get the chance. He's very open to this diet and he tries to eat gluten free just so I don't feel bad. He's offered to let me stay at his place because my family isn't very understanding of my illness, and that we could clean up his place and live gluten free. But as you may know, I am living in a house with a strict mom, whom I listen to even when she's wrong.

She does not want me to stay with my boyfriend, who I will most definately marry someday. I'm angry because my mom gives him such a hard time, and he knows this. I'm 20 years old and I can move out if I want to. But you just don't know my mom...She'll have a panic attack and call 9-1-1 and make it look like i was kidnapped or something >< (not kidding).

I believe that things would be better if I stayed with my boyfriend because he is willing to help in any way possible.

(btw, thanks everyone who has taken the time to read about my lame complaints and outrages)

Wow, now having somebody who tries to do this diet with you? That is a blessing! Everything is easier with somebody that will do it with you.

And you don't have to feel that your comments are lame, we've all been there and it's great to have somebody to listen to us, so it's our pleasure to do it for you :-) Take care and let us know how things are going.

little d Enthusiast
little d
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I have a boyfriend. I don't think I ever meantioned that I have a boyfriend. He's great. Only problem is my mom doesn't allow him to come over to see me, so I call him on the phone and go out with him when I get the chance. He's very open to this diet and he tries to eat gluten free just so I don't feel bad. He's offered to let me stay at his place because my family isn't very understanding of my illness, and that we could clean up his place and live gluten free. But as you may know, I am living in a house with a strict mom, whom I listen to even when she's wrong.

She does not want me to stay with my boyfriend, who I will most definately marry someday. I'm angry because my mom gives him such a hard time, and he knows this. I'm 20 years old and I can move out if I want to. But you just don't know my mom...She'll have a panic attack and call 9-1-1 and make it look like i was kidnapped or something >< (not kidding).

I believe that things would be better if I stayed with my boyfriend because he is willing to help in any way possible.

(btw, thanks everyone who has taken the time to read about my lame complaints and outrages)

So let me guess your mom doesn't think that there is anything wrong with you as well. You just may have to move out to show your independence and to show her that you will be ok, and that your boyfriend is a good guy, regardless of his flaws. But on the other hand coming from a mother side of View she may not understand or want to understand that something could be wrong with her baby, if your mom is abusive in any way physical, mental it is not healthy for you to stay with her any longer, and I can fully understand that you don't want to hurt your mom's feeling, I'v been there. Like you said you are 20 your an adult you can make your own mind. I know that it is hard I lived with my mom until I was 28 and I moved out with my now husband and pregnate, and yes we planned on have a baby but didn't expect for it to happen so soon. But anyway your mom knows that you will eventually move out she may not be ready. If your dad is supportive of you dicisions then and your diet then maybe he can get her to understand, propably not likely if your mom is a strong woman that has strong opinions, I can understand that, and I can see were you it would be easy for you to get really upset. I am happy that you have a boyfriend that is supportive that is something that you need.

donna

Red Bonney Jo Newbie
Red Bonney Jo
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I understand that being young with this crazy diagnosis is difficult. I am 23, I have mastered my diet at home, which meant moving into my own apartment (mainly to have a gluten free kitchen!) Going out with friends is still a major struggle for me. Many don't understand how I have to plan meals for every situation and how I don't trust anyone but me to make my food. I am less social than I would prefer to be because I am at home baking. This isn't bad for me though, it forces me to slow down, eat healthy and really enjoy the friends that understand my dining limitations. The diet is also very difficult with a very low income. I am lucky enough to have a job with insurance, but don't make much beyond rent. It is hard to see friends eating full meals at happy hours for less than $5 when I have a $10 plain salad, or co-workers getting free pizzas and knowing that if I want a pizza it will cost around $15 and at least an hour to make.

The way I look at it now is that my entire life style is changing for the better. I am living more organically, eating much much healthier than I ever thought possible, and happier than ever. I have found a nice where I belong, friends that understand and am growing up faster than I would have without this hurdle to jump over. I know it is possible for you to find your place too. I understand your anger as well, it comes and goes, but eventually it will get better. You will feel better, it took me over 6 months on a completely gluten-free diet before I started to feel like a human (which is exhilarating after being undiagnosed for at least 10 years).

Yellow Rose Explorer
Yellow Rose
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I also have been at this a short time only 4 months. I have glutened myself so many times I don't think I will ever get the hang of it. I have ranted, raved, and cried. Yesterday was my birthday and all my children and grandchildren came over to eat and celebrate with me. One of my daughters asked what she could bring and I told her to bring a cake for everyone else as I was not making one. She made a beautiful chocolate fudge (my favorite) with strawberries cake. It was a piece of art. I found myself in a very new place with a different attitude. I looked at that cake and didn't even want a bite. I knew if I took a bite every muscle and joint in my body would be inflamed within 2 hours and for several days. It just wasn't appealing anymore. You too will get to this point. I was able to enjoy my family eating my cake and I was eating a popsicle. It really felt good to be over that misery of wanting what I can't eat. I have been thinking of it as poison for the past couple of weeks after reading someone's post on the shelf of evil that has been designated for gluten products in her house. Poison is not appealing. Try looking at gluten food in this light and your subconsience mind will take over your consience mind and help you get through this. You also mentioned all you have left is God. How wonderful, there is nothing more that anyone needs. All things are possible with God. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Ask God to help you with this and be very specific in your prayer life. I will add you to my own prayers.

Yellow Rose

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