Trying To Build A New Lifestyle

[eKatherine]

"what is fair to the rest of the family?"

i always tell my kids that there is no such thing as fair.

In my opinion, what's fair to the rest of the family is what's minimally safe for you. Work out a plan that requires their cooperation, and a second plan of action if it turns out they won't help and you keep getting sick.

That way, they will know in advance that if they keep leaving crumbs around and you get sick, the household will go gluten-free, or whatever the next step you have chosen is.

[TriticusToxicum]

In my opinion, what's fair to the rest of the family is what's minimally safe for you. Work out a plan that requires their cooperation, and a second plan of action if it turns out they won't help and you keep getting sick.

That way, they will know in advance that if they keep leaving crumbs around and you get sick, the household will go gluten-free, or whatever the next step you have chosen is.

Yeah, I agree. It's a tough subject. How do you weigh "fairness" -vs- "prudence"...Minimally safe, as you so aptly put it, doesn't make me feel comfortable in my own kitchen. Is that FAIR? Knowing you're a well placed crumb or flour bomb away from a week of agony isn't a great feeling to have. With that said, you need to find a system that will work in your kitchen, and one that EVERYBODY can stick to. If you choose to have a co-mingled kitchen make sure you let EVERYBODY know that THIS IS AS GOOD AS IT GETS! Cooperation is key. Let them no that if things don't "work out" you need to make further adjustments (read: LESS FAIR to them, more PRUDENT for you).