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Erica94
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ugh... my little sister (well, she's 10) just had a meltdown in front of me and both my parents cuz we haven't been ordering pizza enough. she's upset cuz i think she thinks i'm like the favorite or sumthing, but our parents are totally equal!! she sez we haven't been getting pizza cuz i'm sick, and i don't have a time lock on my computer (eee!! sorry, still excited, it was a birthday-christmas-hanukkah present) but she does (that's cuz i'm on it like 24/7 doing hw), and she thinks i get in trouble less than she duz, and UGH!!!! :angry: i think she's maybe jealous cuz i've probably been getting more attention since i got sick, and i don't know what to do to make her feel better!!! and i know everybody sez "oh, it's not your fault, you can't control it," but it really doesn't help!! what should i do!?!

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confusedks Enthusiast
confusedks
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Is there any way you can maybe make a gluten free pizza with her or something? Just something to get her involved with your gluten free lifestyle so she doesn't feel so left out. Is your whole house gluten-free or mixed? If it's all gluten-free, I'd maybe try and make yummy gluten free treats WITH her so she feels a little more involved with this big change.

I don't know if you are even on good enough terms with her to do that...but after all she is only 10, so it may be pretty easy to reason with her...unlike my 19 yo brother! LOL!

Erica94 Rookie
Erica94
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hmm... that could be a really cool idea! maybe we could even do that as a whole family... wait, would it be better if it was just with her? nope, it's mixed, but we could definitely still do that!! just gotta find some good ingredients or mixes... :) thanks!! :D :D :D

lol =) ... yeah, i'm usually on pretty good terms w/her, but we still fight a lot...

hehe... wow... i feel like an idiot... she's actually 11... 0=)

i mean it's not so bad cuz it was just a little bit ago, but still... :wacko:

blueeyedmanda Community Regular
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Involving her is a great idea :) Let her help you bake and show her some yummy new treats. She will feel more wanted and understand :) It could be like your special sister thing.

confused Community Regular
confused
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Even take her shopping with you to get the stuff, make it a girls day and shop and cook and also do something that she likes to do. Maybe she is just afraid she will end up like you and wants all the pizza just in case one day she cant eat it. There was more i wanted to say but lost my train of thought

paula

confusedks Enthusiast
confusedks
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There are some great mixes, etc. It would be a lot of fun....I babysit for lots of kids, one girl is 11 actually. These kinds of things get her really excited. Since I'm older, she thinks it's really cool I want to spend time with her. :)

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kbtoyssni
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Well, you are the oldest so things like you not having as many restrictions on computer time is just something that happens as you get older. She'd probably be jealous of this regardless of celiac. And maybe your family ordered lots of pizza before so it's a hard adjustment, but takeout pizza isn't very good for you anyway so in a way, this is good for her health, too.

I do think it's hard for the siblings of the kid that been sick, though. Including her in cooking is a great idea. Or doing lots of things as a family or just the two of you - going ice skating, to the mall with her, letting her pick the movie, etc. Eventually your health will be much improved and the celiac won't be such an issue with your family relationships. I'd talk to your parents, too. Maybe they can do something special for her or make sure they spend a little bit more time with her individually each day.

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x1x-Stargirl-x1x
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hey, it ain't your fault.

you should show your little sis that you love her.

she'd feel better about it all and maybe take her out somewhere.

i know, you might feel mad about doing it cause you're saying

'hey i'm the one sick, and she's the one getting on my nerves about it!'

why should i be the one to make her feel better.

but if you make her feel better, then you'll feel better yourself.

maybe you could get her some gluten free pizza, though it won't taste as good.

or you could tell your parents to take her out to pizza, then you wouldn't have to have it sitting

in front of your nose, and it wouldn't be in the house.

and about the computer, well, you should get computer time, i mean your older.

i know how little siblings can be, they think they deserve as much as you, but they don't thats why they're 'little' siblings. ;)

let her get her way sometimes, but only when she's being good.

and make sure she understands that when you let her get her way

that it's a TREAT, not a normal thing. like going out to pizza with her parents

could be a once a month treat, and only when she's being good.

.::STARGIRL::.

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2kids4me
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I agree with other posters about doing things with her. The fact that she pointed out about you spending time on the computer may be her way of saying "what about me?" (She is only 10...)

Another way to make it fun is to make her a gluten free pizza with all her favorite toppings on half- yours on the other half and then sneak out the back door, ring the front doorbell and tell yell "Pizza delivery"... and watch a movie while you munch on pizza - just the 2 of you....no parents included. How special would she feel :)

A little planning involved / let your parents know of your sneaky plan...Maybe that would be a night they should go out for dinner, and leave it to a girls night!! Bet she fights with you less...at least for the next 24 hours LOL

Sandy

allison lynn xo Newbie
allison lynn xo
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it's not your fault you have celiac. i think maybe she's just too young to understand what this lifestyle requires and how it affects you, your family, and everyone's diet.

you should try making a fun and creative gluten-free snack with her a day or two out of the week. this will help her to understand what you can and can't have, and i feel it may lessen the tension in the household due to food issues. who knows, she may even end up having favorite gluten-free snacks!

also, depending on how intolerant you are to the gluten, let your family order a pizza how ever often they feel is okay, and you can find some other food to eat as dinner or whatever.

that's what my family does all the time. my brother's best friend works at a pizza place so he always brings over pies and all this good italian, gluten-infested, stuff i can't eat. it's a little irritating at first because it's tempting, but you learn to cope. but when that happens, i just make something that's gluten-free that's one of my favorite things to eat. you'll find yourself wanting your gluten-free goodness instead of that pizza.

:P

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