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aidan-802 Rookie

What the hell am I supposed to do when dating non celiacs.. Take them to a gluten free restaurant? I know theyres many gluten free options at nice restaurants where we can both be satisfied. But what if a girl wants to go to a cheap pizza joint. This sucks.


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For one, if you are dating someone they need to be informed of your Celiac and explained in detail just what it does to your body.  Many people have been glutened by their significant others from eating gluten and forgetting to brush their teeth.

For two, if you explain your condition to a girl and they still want to go to a pizza joint are they even worth dating?

Just my thoughts.

LauraTX Rising Star

Hi Aidan,

I understand that there is going to be a level of suck involved, but there are tactful ways around awkward interactions you can deploy.  First, get your solid diagnosis and with a little time you will become more comfortable with what to do dining on your own... then you can extend those skills to the dating world when it comes up.  Most girls are not going to object if you pull the romantic thing and offer to take care of dinner plans and surprise them... it can be at a gluten-free friendly restaurant, a home cooked meal and a movie at your place, or a nicely packed romantic picnic by you that happens to be gluten-free.

 

There is another recent discussion on this, check out this thread:

https://www.celiac.com/forums/topic/107966-how-to-approach-dating/#entry918695

NatureChick Rookie

Summer time is easier than winter.

• Movies: Can sneak in your own food.

• Hiking/canoeing/kayaking: Active dates are supposed to make for good dates - something about the physical activity translating to enjoyment, making them like you more than if you were just sitting in a restaurant.

• Picnics: Bring your own food. I often bring hand-made salami, cheese, and crackers to gatherings to share with everyone, then make sure I get enough before it is gone.

• Have them come to you? Cook at home?

• Ice Skating in winter. 

If you bring food, that also means that they didn't eat any gluten and you can move in for a kiss at will.

Also, if the dates that you take them on are different than the standard fair, then they'll probably end up being more impressed. I agree that gluten free will likely do more to weed out the people who aren't worth dating than it will affect the relationship ... once you find a keeper.

GottaSki Mentor

Yep....this sucks.....yet?

I am not being preachy....this comes from years of teen and young adult kid experience...

dude! Turn it to your advantage.....girls....for better or worse are interested in what the gluten free diet can do for them.

Arm yourself with knowledge..........need help, then ask. We will always help.

:)

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aidan-802 Rookie

Ok i wrote this just before I went on my diet, and I am now way more mentally rational and such. GottaSki knows whats up, so dang true ^^^   Haha its kind of a good tool to use. Thanks

GottaSki Mentor

Ok i wrote this just before I went on my diet, and I am now way more mentally rational and such. GottaSki knows whats up, so dang true ^^^   Haha its kind of a good tool to use. Thanks

Anytime...glad you are feeling better :)


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