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cinda

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i am so frustrated right now.. i have been trying so hard for only a month now.. went out of town... thinking i have maybe been cross contaminated.... i can deal with that... i can deal with the sick, tired, achy body, headache, nausea, .. what i can't deal with is my friends and family... "why are you sick again"... " are you sure this is what you have?" "seems like you have not gotten any been better" "i haven't noticed a change in you" "shouldn't you be better by now" maybe i expect too much... and i am to the point of not telling anyone anymore when i am sick... but i am so grouchy... and ready to pounce.... edgy... kinda hard to hide..

no i don't always feel like this.. i have felt great the last couple of weeks... i try to explain this.. and i get the canned reply's.. "well whatever, seems like you are still sick all the time"... for the first time in years the bathroom doesn't run my life... my jeans fit.. my little jeans fit.... it is like they don't notice the good... only when you are sick... i have given my best friend this site addy and my mom... she read things on here and said oh yeah that is you... and still i get all the remarks like i did today... and bless my mom... she keeps telling me.. so and so is on this vitamin or this health food and now they are cured... she knows of so and so and there sister, mom, grandpa, dad, niece, blah blah blah... they are cured now ... it is never first hand... i have told her over and over... this is a way of life... i accept it.. if i can .. can she try... maybe i am just so on edge that i am reading more into it... it has been barely over a month now since i have been diagnosed... and yes i have still have been sick a lot.. but the good days far out weigh the bad ones... them doubting me.. makes me doubt myself... i just wanted to vent... i read everything on here i can find.. and it helps.. and makes me feel better... like i am not crazy... or feeling sorry for myself... i see it does and will get better... thanx for being there .. all of you...

cinda


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away

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I know exactly how you feel. It's like they think you should be instantly better and ignore all the good and it is disheartening. You are not crazy and it's not in your head. Even the little bit of improvement by now should be so encouraging for you :) We are here to support you and share your feelings anytime and if you ever need to talk just email me.


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Cinda,

First of all, big {{{HUGS}}} to you. I still don't know for sure if I have celiac or any other gluten problem, but I've been dealing with the symptoms of it all my adult life, as well as what can be very painful scoliosis. For some reason, healthy people don't have any concept of what it is like to have health issues every single day for years on end. Because they don't see something, like a wheelchair or a huge surgery scar, they seem to think that it can't possibly be true. I think they also feel helpless and want us to be well, so they try to talk us into it somehow. :blink:

I wish I had some answers for how to deal with all of this, but I'm going through the same exact thing with my family. I've pretty much thrown up my hands with the whole thing and have vowed not to talk about my health with any of them. Haven't seen them since I decided that, so not sure how that is going to go, but I'm just fed up with the whole thing.

Sorry I couldn't be more helpful, but I just wanted you to know that you're definitely not alone.

Nancy


The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person who is doing it.

~Chinese Proverb

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Well at least I see that I'm not alone in dealing with family members that are less than supportive. My own Mother was going to ask to get tested for celiac disease when I told her I may have it and it's genetic. Well once I elaborated about the diet - for life - that was the end of her interest. She will never be tested no matter what so I won't waste my time nagging her about it. I think all I can do is print several articles and send copies to my parents/siblings/cousins and tell them to please read so at least they are informed. The other thing I can do is be grateful that I don't live in the same state with my family. The distance is a blessing when it comes to this new chapter in my life.


Dx'd with anemia - March 2005

Positive blood tests - Sept. 2005

Positive biopsy - Jan. 2006

Gluten free since 1-23-06

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Floridanative, Gosh, I could have written your post word for word! The 15-20 yrs. or so that I was "always sick", I think they all thought I was crazy or something--I don't really know. Now that I finally know whats wrong, they don't seem to really get it or really try, for that matter. And my family is what you would call "normal" --we get along fine but where illness is involved, it gets a little weird. Hard to explain but living in another state is definately a good thing especially while going thru all this.


Patti

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"When people show you who they are, believe them"--Maya Angelou

"Bloom where you are planted"--Bev

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Floridanative,  Gosh, I could have written your post word for word!  The 15-20 yrs. or so that I was "always sick", I think they all thought I was crazy or something--I don't really know.  Now that I finally know whats wrong, they don't seem to really get it or really try, for that matter.  And my family is what you would call "normal" --we get along fine but where illness is involved, it gets a little weird.  Hard to explain but living in another state is definately a good thing especially while going thru all this.

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Thanks jerseyangel. I have only been sick for about a year (so I feel lucky) but have only known really for 7 months. And I can tell my family thinks celiac disease is the weirdest thing they've ever heard of - and I agree with them. But that doesn't mean it doesn't exist because they've never heard of it. They live in their own little world (sister and brother all live within three miles from parents) and if they don't like something they hear they just pretend it's not true. Really quite sad but I can't worry about that since it's really more their problem than mine. I'm already tired of this whole medical testing process and I'm not even on the gluten-free diet yet. My Mother was so relieved when I called her after my doc visit yesterday telling her my biopsy is now in Jan. So now my dietary needs won't ruin Christmas after all.

It's bad enough I'm getting such conflicting information from different doctors. I don't have the patience for unsupportive friends or family. I don't want to isolate myself but really, the less I'm around people (save my darling hubby) the better off I am right now. I'm going to try St. John's Wort again though it gave me headaches the only time I tried it before. If that doesn't work, I may ask my pcp for an rx for Lexapro. I've never taken anything like that but my job is high stress right now and with this medical stuff - well it's all just too much for me to handle.


Dx'd with anemia - March 2005

Positive blood tests - Sept. 2005

Positive biopsy - Jan. 2006

Gluten free since 1-23-06

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I hear ya! At least we both lucked out in the husband dept :)


Patti

"Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans"

"When people show you who they are, believe them"--Maya Angelou

"Bloom where you are planted"--Bev

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thanx everyone ... i needed that.. as silly as that sounds i just needed to vent... here is my long story it's long so you might not want to read it.. but well i feel like i want to tell it .. and this place seems understanding ...i have been sick off and on for years... almost 12 ... my appendix ruptured 3 months after i had my first son .... so they did a right colectomy so i have half my bowel... i have went from doctor to doctor over the years.. all the symptoms we all have... this last 2 years i had enough... i have been pregnant 8 times... and i have 2 beautiful boys... but i had a fetal demise a year ago in sept. i was 5 months along... and it broke my heart... this was the second one ... and we were debating on one more try... because together we have no children... and he has no biological children of his own... but then i got sick again... bleeding for 4 weeks straight on the pill.. passing clots.. cramping... and in june i had to have a hysterectomy and well i did it because they told me it would help me... the bleeding was out of control.... the headaches.. the bloating... cramping... the sick tummy...endless trips to the bathroom .. the mystery rashes .. and well it didn't help... i got worse... and really it was the last straw... and when i went to the doc this time.. .. a different doc again... i cried and i stood my ground... and she listened... and she checked everything she could think of... and then she checked more.... and when the labs came back this time .. she called and said she thought she knew what was wrong... and so we did more labs... the right ones i guess.. because she called and said we stuck gold... i know what is wrong with you... so see i have been to hell and back.. like most of you... and a good day is wonderful.. and a good week is fantastic... simple fix really... wish we had found it sooner... my doc told me... the reason i would go off and on with this is because stress kicks it up and tiggers worse episodes... that and being sick.. and run down also flares it up ... have any of you been told this?.... she told me having had the right colectomy masked the celiac because everyone assumed i was sick from that... she also told me i am so iron deficient that is probably why was bleeding so bad... when you are anemic you bleed more... she told me that is why had miscarried so many times... and why i did it twice in the second trimester when things were good one day and the baby gone the next... no nutrients for the baby... they checked everything they could think of and had no answers for us...i dunno... why i get so upset when i get sick...or why i let my family and my friend get to me... i have been worse.. and at least i know what is wrong with me.... for the first time in years i do feel better.... sorry so long... and well.. we all have our stories... and there is always someone worse off... i just wanted to get it out. thanx for letting me

cinda


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away

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Cinda, I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I've gone through some difficult things in my life, and I wanted to share some advice that someone else gave me --

Remember that your pain is yours. It doesn't matter that someone else may have gone through what you or anyone else see as more or worse. Pain is pain, whether it is emotional, physical, mental or physical. It may be a strange thing to say, but pain is very personal. You shouldn't feel that you have to justify or verify your pain any more than you should feel that you have to justify or verify your love.

Like I said, it may be a weird thing to say, but those concepts and ideas really got me through a lot. I hope it helps.

Nancy


The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person who is doing it.

~Chinese Proverb

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cinda - I'm so sorry for all you've been through. It's people like you that have been suffering for so long that make me realize that as frustrated as I am, I am better off than many. I have only been sick just over a year and I haven't been that sick compared to many others I've read about here. I'm glad you finally got the answer you searched so long for.

Nantzie - thank you for sharing that excellent advice about pain. What you said about pain being personal was so dead on. Thanks for your post.


Dx'd with anemia - March 2005

Positive blood tests - Sept. 2005

Positive biopsy - Jan. 2006

Gluten free since 1-23-06

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Guest gfinnebraska

Ditto to all you said. I have always had the reputation of "always being sick." NOTHING makes me madder than when someone says, "You're sick again? You are ALWAYS sick!!" Hello??? Like I can HELP it??? Want to trade places for ONE day? See what MY life is like?? *sigh* I am sure everyone on here completely understands. I am past the "are you sure you have it?" or "won't it go away??" part of my journey, but it still makes me mad when I am accused of being "too picky" about the food I order or eat. Excuse me?? Too picky? There is NO such thing as too picky when you are avoiding all the sickness that would follow being contaminated. :) Ooops! This turned out to be a rant of my own!! Anyway ~ we understand you and are here for you!!! :)

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