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Boyfriend Doesn't Understand

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Celia the Celiac Apprentice
Celia the Celiac
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I have so many bad days. I've been gluten free or dedicated to being gluten free for six weeks now. I take different things to help the healing process. I found this cocktail on the website about immunity illnesses. Anyway, he thinks I'm being crazy about taking this stuff. That this stuff could be making me feel worse. I'm taking a probiotic, colostrum, calcium, B12 and fish oil. How do I help him understand? That there's nothing wrong with taking supplements....

Sombody give me some advise.

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debmidge Rising Star
debmidge
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Hi

To avoid giving you advice that you've already used on your boyfriend, please let us know what you are saying to explain to him why supplements are necessary. It would be easy to say to you to tell him that all newly diagnosed celiacs need supplements and probably will need them "as needed" in their lives. Depending on how long you've been celiac without being diagnosed is how long you've been without your nutrition. The supplements will help keep you from developing other celiac related illnesses and can be viewed as a prevention like a vaccine. Does he view supplements as artificial somehow?

D.

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frustratedneicey
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I have so many bad days. I've been gluten free or dedicated to being gluten free for six weeks now. I take different things to help the healing process. I found this cocktail on the website about immunity illnesses. Anyway, he thinks I'm being crazy about taking this stuff. That this stuff could be making me feel worse. I'm taking a probiotic, colostrum, calcium, B12 and fish oil. How do I help him understand? That there's nothing wrong with taking supplements....

Sombody give me some advise.

Supplements are very good. The only thing I take are calcium, a multivitamin and B12, (when I remember to). But the thing is, when I forget, I know I forget, because I feel drained more than usual. I take a prescribed med for my fatigue for another illness, but it has such a strong, unnatural feeling, so much different than supplements.

Give your boyfriend time, I am sure he will understand after some time.... mine did. Now he is my voice in restaurants and everything. For a while there, I thought he would never understand, but I had some other people in his family supporting me, and I think he realized the importance. I think sometimes it is just the way men are (sorry men) but, I think they sometimes down play things they do not understand and it can make them look uncaring when they really are not.

Hang in there, and do what you need to do for YOU!

Denise

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Lollie
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Hi!

I just wanted to say, that your boyfriend is probably just worried for you. I know that my husband often seems uncaring or mad at me for some of the things I try. But, I know it is out of worry, not true insensitivity. He might just be uneducated about what it is the suppliments are meant to do. Try to involve him in your research and try to educate him.

Good Luck!

Lollie

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minibabe
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My boyfriend did the same thing when I came home with the fish oil. He was the WTF? I just let him put his two sense in and then I just did what I wanted to anyway :lol::lol: . It can be very frustrating....and you feel like you are alone in this. Then you post on here and realize that other people are going though the same thing and WE support you.

I have come here a couple a times looking for support and everyone is so wonderful. Anytime you need any form of support WE are all here for you. Even if he does not believe in it.

Just tell him that you are going to do it and you know that maybe it wont make you feel better, but a least let me try it.....tell him that. Worth a shot :unsure:

Amanda NY

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