Can We Talk About Sex?

[aikiducky]

One more thought... it's very easy to try and do more to fix things. But it might be that you need to ask more to get more instead of trying to do more yourself. If you see what I mean.

Pauliina

[19scarlett]

Hm, I would say depending on the couple, about three-four times a week would be normal? If you see each other regularly, that is. I guess up to everyday can be considered normal as well, anything above that and I would call you a rabbit And if you have sex less than once a week

[kschauer]

Well I thought today was a breakthrough...but it turned out to be a disaster. I was actually in the mood, but got completely sad and frustrated when I couldn't have an orgasm. (No orgasm in YEARS people) so we start talking. We talk about my guilt on my decision making for bringing us here, we talk about the stress and we talk about my desire or lack thereof, we talk about what we like and don't like and I think we're getting somewhere. Then he just changes and equates it all to how he feels rejected and unloved and how he thinks that I wish I hadn't married him.

I tried to explain how I felt, how he had desire he couldn't just turn off and I had no desire that I couldn't just turn on. He thinks I don't enjoy sex with him and it's just another thing on my list that I have to do, like the dishes.

[aikiducky]

It's past 2 am here so I'm not my most coherent... but wanted to post a quick note of sympathy in any case.

Pauliina