Er... Dunno What I Should Call This

[Rowena]

Okay so I am a people pleaser, and my parents are sort of hard to please. All my life I have worked hard to please them. They were the kind of parents who if I didnt get an A in my classes (particularly math) they would say its not good enough. So all through high school and first year and a half of college, I wasnt good enough. Yeah, well thats just a little example. But anyway, it was ever so hard to get them to say even just a good job.

Anyway, I had to tell someone how I was feelin and how much better I feel after workin so hard to get this way, and so I called up my mom. She actually told me, after I told her all my excitements of late, (most of which I have shared with all ya'll already as they have happened.) that she was really proud of me. That, in my recollection has never happened! I am so utterly overjoyed, that I cannot explain how I feel. All I can say is that I have tears in my eyes...

Anyway, I just wanted to share with all ya'll that little tidbit.

[kareng]

My parents were a bit like that, too. I don't know how old you are, but as I got older and had kids, I realized that a lot of it wasn't that The B+ wasn't good enough. It was just that they thought I could do better if I studied a little more.

I try to tell my kids that as long as they tried hard, then it's a good grade. We tell them that the decision to study or get help with a class is theirs. I can make them sit with a book, but I can't make them learn. These decisions will determine the path their lives will take. What schools or programs they can get into. Even if a teacher will cut you a little slack if something goes wrong and you are usually a good student.

Off my parenting lecture & back to Rowena. . I'm happy that your mom was able to tell you that. If you can find something nice to say about her and how she helped you, it might encourage a New Age of Openess.

[wheeleezdryver]

Okay so I am a people pleaser, and my parents are sort of hard to please. All my life I have worked hard to please them. They were the kind of parents who if I didnt get an A in my classes (particularly math) they would say its not good enough. So all through high school and first year and a half of college, I wasnt good enough. Yeah, well thats just a little example. But anyway, it was ever so hard to get them to say even just a good job.

Anyway, I had to tell someone how I was feelin and how much better I feel after workin so hard to get this way, and so I called up my mom. She actually told me, after I told her all my excitements of late, (most of which I have shared with all ya'll already as they have happened.) that she was really proud of me. That, in my recollection has never happened! I am so utterly overjoyed, that I cannot explain how I feel. All I can say is that I have tears in my eyes...

Anyway, I just wanted to share with all ya'll that little tidbit.

How sweet & awesome that she said that!!

[mushroom]

Yeah, when you finally measure up after never being quite good enough, it is an awesome feeling. How long some of us struggle for just that one moment of praise YOUR MOM IS PROUD OF YOU!!! Yay.