Kindergardener Using Her Celiac To Get Out Of School...how Do I Deal With This?
Posted 21 August 2007 - 11:51 AM
I am just wondering if anyone has had a simular problem and how you delt with it? Also, what to tell the school if this happens again? Because usually she feels better after about 1 to 2 hours if it is truely a celiac issue. Do I tell them to keep her there...so she can participate when she feels up to it or what? I certainly can not be taking off work a couple of times a month...just to bring her home and her tell me she is fine now.
Posted 21 August 2007 - 12:56 PM
Posted 21 August 2007 - 01:28 PM
In her case, she really didn't like school. Because of issues caused by the undiagnosed allergies, she was put in special ed. That meant pulling her out of her regular class so she missed what was going on in there. I think she felt like she was always trying to play "catch up".
This coming year she will not be in special ed. and she is looking forward to going to school. I hope so! The school was telling me she missed too many days last year. I did mention the problem to the school psychologist. Perhaps you could do the same.
When my daughter was in Kindergarten, there was a serious issue with the teacher and she never got over it. The one they had at the start of the year had only taught Jr. High prior. She didn't understand little kids. Didn't understand how they could not know whether or not they needed to use the bathroom. She laughed at them and yelled at them. I got these same sort of reports from all the parents I spoke to and she even told us she was laughing at them when she called a parent teacher conference at the start of the year. She was replaced within two weeks with what I think was a good teacher, but my daughter never recovered from that first teacher. It took her until second grade before she really started trusting teachers again.
Posted 21 August 2007 - 04:14 PM
That being said - when one of my kids is home sick (and I don't think they should be), there is no playing on the computer, they might get to watch a little TV while laying on the couch but not much, no talking to friends, and meals are on the bland side. It's not going to be FUN to be at home.
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted.
Posted 21 August 2007 - 05:05 PM
My daughter who is in Kindergarden is "playing up" her Celiac at school.
Haha, once again, I obviously don't have any children, but I had to respond to this because I used to do that all the time. I didn't do it in kindergarden, I was a little goody two shoes...but when I got a little bit older, I did this all time to get out of recess, or going to a birthday party I didn't want to go to, or when I was scared to spend the night at a friends house and didn't want to "look like a baby". This summer at the summer camp I worked at we had a 3rd grader who was diebetic, he used that as an excuse every day to get to go inside early, we had to let him, because we we didn't want to take a chance, even though 98% of the time he wassn't really feeling "low", and as soon as he stepped inside he was running all over the place.
My mom used to tell me to rest for 30-45 minutes in the clinic and see how I felt, and usually by the time a 1/2 hour was over I was either so bored I would say I felt better and go back to class, or I was fast asleep and really didn't feel good, in which case my mom would pick me up. Sometimes if my mom couldn't pick me up after the 45 minutes, and I really didn't feel good, the nurse would get me some fruit from the cafeteria because that always helped my stomache feel better.
Celiac since 1990
Posted 21 August 2007 - 05:08 PM
We all tend to figure out ways to indirectly deal with emotional stressors that have a hard time with or don't know how to deal with directly. So I think as a parent behavior like this is a signal that our kids are struggling. Doing things that help them express the struggle directly may help. Read books about going to kindergarten, dealing with unhappy experiences, etc. Talk about emotions, where you feel them in your body, how to express them, what to do when you feel that way.
Also at this age, attachment issues are normal. I just heard someone talk on this topic. She said a transitional object can be very important, like a favorite blanket, toy, etc. Carrying a picture of mom and dad, home, etc. can also be very helpful. (Pin it on??)
Also if this continues for awhile, you might consider play therapy--maybe family play therapy where parents and child are involved. Children work out their emotional traumas and hurts through play, and a therapist who understands this process might help this happen more easily, and you could learn from the process some new ideas of how to help your child at home.
gluten-free since 4/22/07; SF since 7/07; 3/08 & 7/08 high sugar levels in stool (i.e. cannot break down carbs) digestive enzymes for carbs didn't help; 7/18/08 started SCD as prescribed by my physician (MD).
10/2000 dx LYME disease; 2008 clinical dx CELIAC; Other: hypothyroid, allergies, dupuytrens, high mercury levels
Posted 21 August 2007 - 07:41 PM
I got her to stop by reminding her that if she faked sick all the time, no one would believe her if she really was sick. I also decided to "believe" her every time she was sick. I got the school to tell me when she visited the nurse and we had "sick rest" those evenings. No games, no TV, no exciting snacks or dessert. BRAT diet (heavy on the plain brown rice!), bedrest, etc. while my husband and I ate normally and engaged in fun activities. She eventually got the point that she didn't want to be "sick" anymore.
I would imagine, even if you did nothing, that she'd grow out of it though.
Dx'ed gluten/casein intolerant by Enterolab. Family doc dx'ed "gluten sensitive" after dietary response. DQ 6 & DQ 7
8 year old daughter dx'ed gluten/casein intolerant & malabsorption by Enterolab and has been GFCL since June 12, 2007. Excellent response to diet, including growth! Tummyaches & irritability are gone! DQ 5 & DQ 6
Husband has DQ 5 (elementary, my dear Watson!). Self-diagnosed gluten-intolerant by diet response and challenge.
Posted 21 August 2007 - 08:55 PM
I am a sixth grade teacher and I will tell you that it doesn't get easier with age. I have had both ends of the spectrum. From students crying wolf, to students who refuse to see the nurse when they really need to.
I would suggest a reward system or sticker chart for good behavior. If she doesn't cry wolf I may offer a special
snack or free time. I would also explain how serious it is to pretend to be sick.
Posted 22 August 2007 - 11:23 AM
I did find the best way to handle the beginning of school/food allergies game was to talk to the teacher in person, with the kid present. Then I tried to make more hugs and mommy time after school, so she didn't feel like she missed anything. If she did stay home sick, it was not a fun day. It was a boring day and we talked about the stuff the teacher was doing at school that she missed. This year my child has already told me she wants perfect attendance because she wants the award at the end of the school year!!! I'll be using that to my advantage
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