Advice Needed Please
Posted 09 November 2004 - 10:44 AM
I went out to lunch today at a chineese buffet with a group of women from work. When they saw the plain white rice and four plain shrimp that I had choosen for lunch...one of them commented "Is that ALL you're going to eat?" Suddenly, everyone was looking at my plate (I was quietly trying to "disguise" my inability to eat much at the restaurant).
Anyway, I said to my co-worker, "yeah, I think this is all I will have...I'm not sure if the other stuff up there is gluten-free." (a side note: I have tried several times to explain to these women that I'm on a new "special" diet and about celiac). I finally began to get self-conscious and went back up to the mega-buffet and I put vegetables covered in Gosh-only-knows-what sauce on my plate with some mushrooms. When I went back to the table, everyone seemed satisfied and as I ate the woman next to me said, "you only live once...so what if it has a little gluten...it can't be much!"
How do you all deal with looks, attitudes, and ignorance? I tried educating people, but many just seem to have the idea "if you can't see wheat, it's not there." So I'm not sure how to answer their questions...deal with the "food pressure" of our society. You know something??? I've become very aware of how food-centered everything from work to religion is in our culture.
Please, please help! thanks a million for any responses!
Posted 09 November 2004 - 11:39 AM
Another suggestion I would try is explaining it to them by comparing it to a food allergy. For example I have a cousin who's husband is severely allergic to peanuts. So much that if he were to walk into a movie theatre and the popcorn had peanut oil on it, he would suffer a severe attack to his lungs. It would impair his breathing if not prevent it completely.
Not that a single ingestion of gluten will cause such a severe immediate reaction (i.e, swelling of the throat or itch etc.), but perhaps exagerating its effects will better explain the situation to them.
My mother runs into the same scenario, because she's very petite and a strict vegeterian, people will critize what little she is eating. Over the years she's simply learned to brush it aside, reaffirm that she does not eat meat and that's that. And some do really ask out of concern, not realizing how many times you've heard it before...
gluten-free since Nov. 18, 2004.
Always learning along with the rest of everyone else... a never ending process.
Posted 09 November 2004 - 11:53 AM
I'm trying very hard not to draw attention to myself. The whole office already knows that I have epilepsy and lupus...the last thing that I want is "another" label (and to seem like I'm once again the "sick" employee).
Since being diagnosed as GI/celiac, I have been bringing my own lunch and not going out with the lady's in the office. But today I wanted to...it sounded like fun.
I guess that I'm just trying to learn how to handle myself...it doesn't help that I'm skinny...they don't seem to understand that my body is a result of eating certain foods. My thinness is not from lack of eating any food! Ugghhh!
Thanks for letting me vent! -Julie
Posted 09 November 2004 - 12:18 PM
Nowadays when I'm confronted with a "wheat feast" and I am concerned about hurting someone's feelings (in the case where they made the food) I just say "oh, I wish I COULD! It looks so delicious. But even a little gluten can make me very sick." Then, sometimes, people say "oh that must be hard". Honestly, I don't find it to be that hard considering all the really tough difficulties in life that people have to deal with.
Posted 09 November 2004 - 12:44 PM
Take care. And remember...rice is our friend.
Posted 09 November 2004 - 12:47 PM
Inconclusive Blood Tests, Positive Dietary Results, No Endoscopy
G.F. - September 2003; C.F. - July 2004
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Posted 09 November 2004 - 03:04 PM
but many just seem to have the idea "if you can't see wheat, it's not there."
HAHAHA That's funny!
In my opinion, try not to care what others think. Just keep reminding yourself that what you are doing is right for you and your health. Keep your head high and be confident. Laugh a lot and look happy (This usually works for me!) If people have a problem with your diet then it's their problem not yours.
I eat before I go out to restaraunts/buffets in case there is nothing there I can have (which is like 95% of the time). I will only eat lobster, or plain raw fruits and veggies on a tray. That's it! I don't trust anything else. I've had the blank stares and weird looks but I just don't care. Most people don't understand. You can try and explain but people will either not listen, not care, think it's too strict, or they WILL care (I like these people!)
Diagnosed with Celiac Disease in March 2004
Postitive tTg Blood Test, December 2003
Positive Biopsy, March 3, 2004
Posted 09 November 2004 - 03:24 PM
I have really taken to heart what everyone has been writing. Like I said, I have been trying to avoid "lunch dates" with the office ladies. I've been mainly taking gluten-free dinner left-overs. I guess today was a surprise and I didn't really know what to do with myself...you know what I mean? Everyone was either waiting on me to eat Chinese, or spout "words of wisdom" about Celiac's disease...neither of which I wanted to do!
It was still enjoyable, but I LOVE the fact that you all are giving me advice and encouragement on how to handle myself next time!
Posted 09 November 2004 - 10:56 PM
You sound like such a kindhearted person! I hope that you find it easier and easier to deal with what other people say as time goes by. I have Celiac, and work in a bakery. I just stopped my second job, which was in an ice cream parlor, and I'm intolerant of any milk or dairy products. People always laugh when I tell them I never eat anything where I'm working, I just enjoy seeing the smiles on their faces as they buy their doughnuts, pastries, and previously, their ice cream sundaes. It took awhile, but I am now able to look at all those foods as poisons for me, and I would never eat them, so I am pretty safe wherever I go, because I am so darned careful about what I do eat.
I used to take a lot of my own food with me whenever I went to restaurants, but lately I'm finding that if I focus on salad and meat, I can usually find something pretty easily wherever I go. Yesterday I had salad and barbecued ribs at a restaurant, and just didn't add the sauce because I didn't trust it, and today I had a Carl's Jr. low carb 6 dollar chili burger without the cheese. Life is getting easier and easier the longer I live with Celiac. I hope it will for you too! Welda
Posted 10 November 2004 - 04:26 AM
Working in a bakery and with dairy!?! I'm supposed to be gluten-free and CF too. I admire your strength
I had a "breakdown" about three days ago and had to have chocolate. The funny thing was...I didn't have any (b/c it has casein). So I went digging through all of my old purses in my closet looking for long-forgotten candy! I found six Hershey kisses My hubby came in the bedroom and found me in the middle of our bed surrounded by old purses and covered in tidbits of aluminum foil! My mouth was full of chocolate kisses!
God has blessed me with a diagnosis...I'm still waiting on the willpower that goes with it
I am learning so much from this forum. Hey, Welda or anyone who is also CF/dairy free...do you know of any gluten-free/CF chocolate? I found Bob's Red Mill brownies, but they are so expensive! I've already spent $36 on Brownies in the last month...so I'm currently "chocolate fund poor."
Posted 10 November 2004 - 08:05 AM
Last week I found a brand at Wild Oats called Tropical Source and they are soo tasty!
Also, when I find myself craving inordinate amounts of chocolate, I'm usually low on calcium or potassium. Most times, a banana or a Ca/Mag/Zn supplement puts me back on top of my game fast.
Also, you can make choc chip cookies (substituting gluten-free flour and xanthum for the flour) (substitute half applesauce and half veg oil for the butter) and add baking chocolate to the dry ingredients. lol Yes, they're still cookies after you get done substituting the crap out of them. My non-Celiac hubby and parents love these.
Posted 10 November 2004 - 09:32 AM
Posted 10 November 2004 - 10:32 AM
I'll try that applesauce in the batter thing you mentioned Ohnoes!
Hey Laura, where do you find Ah-laska cocoa mix?
Much hugs to all,
Posted 10 November 2004 - 10:54 AM
Posted 10 November 2004 - 12:05 PM
I have been known to send my food back to be recooked, corrected, or canceled before. But it was usually b/c it was cold, old, or took to long to come to the table. I guess now if I have to ask a waitress/manager to please remove my plate and/or bring me a new/correct dish...it will be to make sure it is gluten-free!
I've heard several people say that Outback has some gluten-free choices. And you said that Wendy's has gluten-free chili. I could maybe suggest this to my co-workers for next time! Thanks!
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